If you have been curious sexually and maybe even romantically about the same sex and you are going away to college for the first time in the fall, let me plant a thought in your head right now. Start thinking right now about meeting fellow students of the same sex and knowing you're gonna be spending very happy and exciting nights together with them, and having fond memories of this. Whatever kind of background you're coming from, college tends to attract open minded people and a lot sexually is accepted there (as it should be, but that's another topic), so not only are you freer to explore but there also will surely be many others, of both sexes, that also now all of a sudden have opportunities they feel they didn't have before. This is a landmine! You might use dating or hookup sites or apps to find fellow students, but you might find vibes with someone at a house party or class. An offhand remark about a piece of clothing might lead who knows where, or you might be involved in a class project with someone. You're working hours together after class and it might lead to the realization of a mutual attraction, or at least enough attraction to want to try stuff. You might be lucky enough to get close enough with your roommate, if you think that would be convenient and not weird. My point is you should start normalizing right now the idea of hooking up with someone of the same gender. Picture yourself getting to know them. Picture yourself having fun with them. This is gonna get maybe kind of creepy but masturbate while fantasizing about them. Let your wildest fantasies run free both so you get to know yourself better and accept what you find out. I don't know how post nut clarity works with girls but for the guys don't force yourself to like guys afterwards if you find the desire has gone, but force yourself to remember you have the permission to. Focus on that. Because no matter what uptight clueless wackos who think they know everything say, you have the right to desire members of the same sex, and to pursue happiness with willing members of such if that's your thing. If you're not sure, it's your duty to find it out...and hopefully have some fun while checking it out! But don't forget to explore opportunities with the opposite sex if that's important to you too.
I've known women who got introduced to pussy while in college; I've known guys who got introduced to dick when they went to college or, they almost took the plunge but never did it but now regret not doing it then. I went to college but a community college so I didn't have the "college experience" even though, um, ahem, I might have been blowing my roommate every day. College is that time when one can leave home and be on their own, no parental oversight, free and clear to do... stuff and as long as they're as smart as they were to get into college, they should have some enjoyable same - and opposite - sex activities on those weekends where drunkenness rules the day or you're too broke to party but, hmm, there are things you can do to occupy your time that's a lot of fun.
If you see an opportunity and you're into it, jump on it. Don't live with regret. I do and it sucks. There were sexual encounters with both males and females in high school and college that I passed on because I was too worried about what other people thought. I needed to worry more about myself and my own feelings. Go out there and do what you want to do for you and fuck, fuck, fuck.
Worrying about what others think is probably the biggest deterrent. You can't control what others think. You can only control how you react to it.
Sadly, "What will people say or think about me if they found out?" is still a huge deterrent but unless you (a) go to college and (b) you go with a friend who'll be your roommate, how are they going to know unless you tell them what you've been up to when they're not in the room? From what I've heard over the years, kids going away for college can't wait to get there and... get into all kinds of stuff that their parents wouldn't approve of but, yeah, they're not there so, to that end, there are other and more important things to be concerned about other than someone else finding out and whatever their negative opinion might be. Yes - they can think what they want, and they can say what they want but if you don't learn anything else from going to college, it's that you have to keep your own counsel and stay the course and be 100% true to yourself at all times. And I maintain that no one can give you shit about having same-sex activities if they don't know you're up to your eyeballs engaging in them...
For college students, get PrEP and DoxyPEP to protect yourself from hiv and other STI's! Your college health clinic should be able to do this for you, or connect you with someone who can. Truvada daily PrEP pills are generic and should be free, or low cost to you. Its better you take this one pill a day voluntarily, instead of being forced to take a few more expensive pills daily to stay alive?! You are of the first generation that can fuck without fear of hiv! But you gave to take the steps to ask for it! I envy you, as I would've explored much more if PrEP and DoxyPEP were available when I was in college! Have fun and explore your sexuality, likes and dislikes!
I keep forgetting...not only do decent colleges have LGBT clubs but also their health and wellness services are great resources for sexual health. So those are even more reasons to branch out sexually in college.
