As a bi guy I have wondered what it would be like to date a man I’m happily married to woman so that’s not in the cards for me now. was wondering besides the obvious what differences people have noticed
i've reached a point in my life where i also wonder what it would be like to date a man. i have no experience in this area but i can imagine what it would be like. there are difference between men and women in the dating arena, which is probably because of cultural things but it is what it is. with that said i can imagine there being much less courtship, no role expectations, no guessing games or trying to intuit through passive aggression, guys tend to be much more straight forward, and i can imagine dating guys would feel like your much more in an equal relationship, where both actively try to make the other person happy. with women it always feels like i'm actively trying to impress her, as if they're always comparing me to their other options. i know i'm painting with a pretty broad brush here, but this is just how i imagine dating most guys would be like. obviously there are going to be differences with each individual person.
I had a boyfriend, but we didn't date; we went from friends right to being lovers in a relationship. I wouldn't even say that we "hung out" even though we were on a bowling team together and he was rather tight with my wife and he'd stop by to visit so it wasn't like me and him were the focus of his visits or, as I would find out, I was very much on his mind and I had missed all of the clues - let's just say that he did everything except throwing me down on the floor and blowing me (and he did say that he had wanted to). So, no dating. Were we in an "equal" relationship? Not even close. He lived to make me happy and me trying to do things to make him happy... didn't seem to work all that well. He was an effeminate bottom and even he would say that he was just one of the girls. There was no need for us to impress each other and I never had to beg and plead with him for sex because he had a habit of blowing me at every opportunity and when - and where - I least expected it and I loved him for who he was. My wife (the hussy) knew that he had his eyes on me because he told her but I hadn't known that until after the first time we made love, I told her what I'd done with him and how I felt and she said, "I think it's cute!" and then let me know that she had known about his intentions almost from the first moment we both met him. He had his role, and I had mine and it wasn't all that different from the roles my wife and I had in our relationship/marriage. Would I consider dating a man? No because dating is nothing more than an interview for a relationship and I'm not of a mind to be in one with a guy and maybe I'm wrong for saying this, but men aren't women and shouldn't be treated like they are, i.e. like wanting to date them.
I've never wanted to date men; I wasn't looking to be in a relationship with a guy, but I learned that love doesn't much give any fucks about what you don't want to do. I don't mind meeting guys so we can go somewhere and blow each other; if we're boys and hanging out shooting the shit and even watching the game, sure - I'll blow him just because I'm horny, he's there - and he's not going to mind and I'm not going to tell him to stop were he to get my dick out and suck on it. I don't have "a type" of guy; I don't have preferences and there are only three things that'll get me sucking a guy's dick - and most guys can't get past the third thing. I've had my share of [gay] men wanting to date me and then giving me grief when I let them know that, look, we can have sex from now until the cows come home but I'm not looking to be in a relationship with a guy and I very much dislike the dating game to begin with so if I don't have to play it, I'm not going to. It's not to offend or dissuade the guys who do want to date other guys and maybe they have romantic intents or just looking to be FWB-Exclusive with a guy they can be close to (and just not physically). If that works for you, then by all mean - go for it and don't give up until you get it! Just know that there are a lot of guys like me who'll have sex with you all day long... not gonna date you.
In the past it was more of going for drinks or sports activities etc for our mm hook ups … now past few months as I’m leaning more gay, I’m interested in dating men, it makes the hook up more exciting and if are interested makes the relationship and intimacy more hot … last week I dated this amazing Hispanic hunk, he asked me out openly and stated he was interested in me and wanted go out ….
not dating, but got a couple of friends with benefits. one his my best mate since school. we've had a "relationship" all through my marriage. he's still married and we still have our fun
While I don't consider it dating, I do have a couple of friends with benefits. We don’t do things I would consider datingesk. Our intentions in seeing each other is sexual. While we are friendly with each other our interactions are primarily sexual. It’s not romance like I would consider dating to be.
I am dating a gay man currently - for the last 9+ months. I've always wanted to find Mr. Right. He's a mystical illusion. But, I've been lucky to find a guy who has come about as close as I think I'll find. I've had conversations with @KDaddy23 about this in the past... He gives good advice. For me, while it is different in as many ways as women are different from men, and in as many ways as individuals are unique, I have found it gratifying and satisfying the parts of me that were missing in my life. My wife (soon to become the ex) was not an affectionate person. I didn't realize how much I craved affection, caring attention outside of sex... but when I came to playing around with men I realized there was an emptiness after some encounters. I realized I was craving the affection as much as the sex. We are all created differently. When I look at myself, I recognize the need to be in a caring relationship that goes beyond sex. Don't get me wrong, I am highly sexual, I think, for a man my age - actually, the desire has not diminished at all as I've grown older. But the full benefits of finding a person who expresses mutual love, caring, respect and affection that blooms naturally is something I wanted. It doesn't come without complications - and compromises - but having someone in your life who is willing to do things with you and experience the full gambit of life is really quite wonderful. With a man, where I see it as different is that we seem to understand one another on a more basic needs basis. My partner, for example, claims he has less of a sex drive than I do - yet, he is also willing to provide what I need when I need it - My wife did not have a clue about that. The other parts - when he reaches out to hold my hand when we are walking on a snow-covered surface, or guides me through the door of a restaurant, or places his hand on my back to direct me through a crowd or hold my hand in the same setting... well, that's quite remarkable and poignant for me. I recognize that I am made differently - this sort of thing may not appeal to all men. I enjoyed taking the lead with my wife, but she did not supply me with the things I needed in return, and I found myself growing more and more restless as the years went by. I have found myself, with my partner, to take a more submissive roll with him. I am happy to take care of him in many ways - from cooking and doing dishes, to getting him a drink when we are relaxing and watching TV some quiet night. But, he also is equally doing the same things for me - or we are doing them together. It was never that way with my wife. I am not trying to criticize her - she was just made differently that way, and it began to eat away at something quite deep within me that took years for me to actually recognize. We are still learning to navigate through our differences, and our moods, and our likes and dislikes. For example, He tends to be quite introverted - which means he handles social situations very well but needs to retreat to recuperate for a day or so afterwards. I am ready for the next adventure almost right away. I'd say there are a lot of differences - whether they are clearly defined by male or female distinctions - I can't say. I haven't dated anyone in a long, long time - as I recall, dating my wife was pretty smooth and easy, too - Sexually, I don't have to deal with mood swings relating to the time of the month - but my partner has cycles as well, where he is not as horny some days - and other days... well, yeah, he is very much. But, the mood swings of a woman spill over more into other parts of the relationship that I don't seem to have to contend with in my dating my partner. Any relationship takes effort and work to make it worthwhile. Your curiosity about dating a man will probably remain just a curiosity since you stated you are married, and it is not in the cards... I'm curious @Joshualooking2 what you think you might be looking for that may or may not be missing from your current relationship. Or is it just pure curiosity?
