I'm bi-curious and live in a small Arkansas town where there are few prospects to satisfy my curiosity. I've been going online and meeting several likely people. But it never amounts to anything. I'm willing to make concessions, like drive to their town or meet halfway but all it leads to are exchanges of emails. They sound willing but to pin down a time and place never happens. Maybe I'm doing something wrong. Or maybe it's my age, 79 y/o.
Similar situation here. Whenever I make contact and suggest meeting out in public somewhere first to see if there is any interest in going farther, they have all flaked out.
it's tough out there, especially if you live in a more rural or sparsely populated area. the only real advice i can give to you is just keep trying and you'll find someone eventually. what do you use to find guys to talk to?
Usually I use Craigslist, ran an ad and got a dozen responses. All seemed promising until I wanted to set up a meeting. I don't have any experience with guys so maybe that turns them off.
I have found that only about 20% of guys are genuinely interested in meeting up, and about 10% of them actually will. Often get ghosted when trying to set up a time/place. This is through doublelist and the like. I'm in a very rural area, so kind of have to travel a bit. Sometimes I've been the guy with too busy a schedule to make time to meet up though... It's not you, it's just the nature of the whole thing.
I agree with the posts above. Many just want the excitment of the possibility, and do not follow through to the end result. Hang in there!!
I've been bisexual for damned near all of my life and today, it's harder to get a guy in bed than any other time I can think of/remember. It's funny because, back in the day, you really had to get lucky because there was no way to know about or tell who was down with it and who wasn't - and I can only imagine that being in the rural areas was even harder since everyone where you lived knew everything about everybody. Today, apps give us global access to men looking to do... something with other men and despite this glut of cock hungry men, finding someone to exchange blowjobs with (or anything else) is pretty damned difficult. pharmer420 is right: Some guys like the thrill of the hunt and tend to "catch and release" because they have no intention to do the shit they said they wanted to do. Some guys really do get cold feet; there's this increasing paranoia - stranger danger - that makes meeting a guy difficult and feet can get frozen in place because the guy didn't expect someone to say, "Let's meet so we can do (add stuff here)!" Some guys no-show because they think they can meet on the agreed upon date and time but he realizes that he has a legit excuse/reason to be out of the house, off from work, whatever, that his wife/partner is going to accept. The list of reasons goes on and on and I've learned to just hang in there and keep trying. I was in the supermarket the other day and a guy offered to blow me in the men's room - but I had to turn him down because I haven't been medically cleared to have sex after going through chemo and radiation.
Thanks guys for letting me know it's not just me. I haven't yet sucked a cock but that's all I'm thinking about now.
