Have you told all of your secrets , past sexual encounters and desires to your spouse, or are they secrets that you will take to the grave? We have all done something sexually in the past that we never discussed . Is your partner aware of Anything KInky things you may have done or didnt or never knew about? How has it affected your relationship?
I had sex with a few girls who were off limits so to say. One an in-law to friends of ours. My wife spent lots of time with an aunt who wasn't much older than her. They went on several weekend get aways. I might go into details later.
I’ve never had a spouse, significant other or boyfriend, so I’ve never had the issue of secrets from them. But I do keep my ways secret from parents, friends and coworkers for the most part. It would be devastating to my parents if they knew their girl grew up to be a tramp/whore/slut of epic proportions, so I do limit my interactions a bit them as I’m afraid of a revealing slip up. Same with old friends, I keep my interactions rather superficial and don’t add friends to my circle who are outside of my sex associates. On the other hand, many of you have asked for photos of me in action or even if I’ve done video, but it truth, virtually none of the venues or guys individually want any record of them engaging in sex with me…likely, they have secrets to keep from spouses or boyfriends.
I always do full disclosure. Too old to be playing games with this. Told my wife everything I've done since day one, what I've done, who I did it with, how I fully explored my bisexuality. The 20+ year poly relationship. Everything. Told her that if I haven't done it, it's because I didn't want to. If anything came up or she thought that she had reason to question something I'd just remind her that she knows everything. Not hiding anything. Literally what you see is what you get. I'm not back in high school and playing those games. I'd say it worked because she married me.
I've only had two serious, long-term relationships, both with women (though I've asked out a lot of women, only to be rejected every time, and did date 30-40 women, with almost all of them rejecting me after the first date, sometimes second, and not having sex with any of them). With the first girlfriend, at 27, I was a virgin, and my gay desires were buried. When she broke up with me for the third time after three years, they exploded to the surface. When we were soon to have sex, I told my second girlfriend-to-be, at 54, that I was bi, only had sex with my first girlfriend and a female prostitute once, but also had sex with men. It was the hardest thing I've ever had to do, but I felt that she deserved to know (instead of finding out later after we had sex). However, I was sure that she would say goodbye to me. But she started asking more and more questions about my gay history, and finally dragged it all out of me, that I had anonymous oral sex with hundreds of guys (!) in all kinds of different gay sex venues over a period of 21 years, and some anal sex with five or six (more recently) (intercourse with one). She wanted very minute details of all the different things I did with guys, and especially the guys in the last couple of years, which was all so embarrassing to reveal (you know, talking about licking guys' assholes, fingering them, fucking, swallowing their cum, etc.). But she accepted it all to my utter shock, as long as it was over, and as long as I got tested for all STIs before we had sex. I was in love. We were also only together for three very rocky years, and I never hooked up with any guys during that period, even during our many breaks, all initiated by her (though she hooked up with guys during all of our breaks, which she told me about, breaking my heart over and over again). But during our breaks I did a lot of gay porn, which she also dragged out with me. I was the one who finally ended the relationship permanently, because I knew that I was mostly gay and couldn't be without men. I've been exclusive to guys in the 5 years since, with no intention to ever have sex with a woman again, let alone romance. But like with that second girlfriend, I'm compelled to always tell the truth and be honest about everything. So if another serious relationship with a woman were to happen, I would tell her. But I doubt I would be "lucky" again with acceptance.
My wife knows of my countless partners and tacitly looks the other way. I’m home every night and we have a phenomenal sex life. My fb who is bi has participated with me in various threesomes and other activities and our sex life is off the charts. It’s just the way that relationship developed over the years.
My wife knew of my bisexual proclivities when we met and proceeded to coax me into kinkier and kinkier situations. Yes, we were very happy.
Not going to open that box. Oh, the spouse knows about former GF's. That I had sex with them. No details though. But since, any sex outside of marriage, and there has been plenty, is a secret to be kept forever.
