Girlfriend won't let me use condoms or pull out.

Hey there. I'm new and I wanted to ask if anyone has ever had this sort of issue before.

A quick intro, my girlfriend and I have taken all the proper precautions and had the necessary conversations, so I don't need a lecture about the risks of what I am about to describe.

Anyway, time for the explanation. My girlfriend and I always used to use condoms. Except our first time, which was unplanned, but I was a virgin so it ended quickly and I pulled out before the orgasm happened. After that, we always used condoms and that was fine. But one day we went without one, and I timed my orgasms so that I didn't cum inside her. It was a massive difference in pleasure. Even ultra thins couldn't replace the sensation of actual pussy.

I never made noises until then, so it was no secret to her that I noticed a difference. She said it felt better too since it was skin on skin, and not that rubbery feelings. So after that we went without condoms, and made weekly trips to Planned Parenthood.

But then one day, she started to get curious about what it would feel like if I came inside her. I didn't want to because the idea scared the shit out of me. While I REALLY wanted to try it, I was scared to do it for obvious reasons. She always seemed disappointed that I wouldn't do it. Finally one day, I bought a morning after pill and did it. My head almost exploded from the pleasure and I could tell she REALLY enjoyed it.

She's on birth control now, and she sometimes is annoyed at how she doesn't have enough leftover money to spare, so I simply tell her to stop the birth control to save money and we can go back to condoms.

But she REFUSES to use them now. While it'd be a big disappointed not to do it anymore, I'd be willing to go back to condoms and/or pulling out. But she's completely adamant that I cum inside her. And she says that now that she's spoiled on it, she would really not enjoy it as much if I pulled out or used a condom.


So what's the deal here? I've never heard of a woman who wanted her boyfriend to cum inside her that much. Is this some sort of fetish I don't know about? Even during intercourse, she seems get a kick out of it and has stronger orgasms. She'll whisper things in my ear about cumming insde her and then when it happens she almost goes through the roof.

Usually it's the guy who is like this, but she's really strict about it. Unless she jerking or sucking me off, "the only place I'm cumming is in her pussy". Is this normal? Anyone else experience something similar?

It's always astounded me.

 

Split the cost of the pills with her.

Now some reminders:

1) Health professionals NEVER believe what someone says about their sex life. To a doctor (or a disease) her assurances that she is faithful to you are meaningless. I'm not saying she is cheating on you, but if she does, the disease don't care.

2) Birth control can fail.

 

I'm suspicious when I hear stories like this. My advice is to run. Run fast. Run far.

 

Of course it feels better when your boyfriend cums inside you. Mostly psychological, I'll grant and it is probably that primitive mating instinct trying to strive to sustain our species.

Make sure she never misses a pill. They're beginning to market a male birth control pill although I'm not sure if its on the market yet. That would be another layer of protection that would have to fail prior to any "fertilization".

 

You're going to get pregnant eventually. Are you guys prepared to have a baby? It's just a matter of time. The question is are you comfortable cumming inside your girlfriend with the high risk? If not, you need to talk to her about it. Pleasure is way up there on the charts, but there are consequences to every action. Unless either of you happens not be to be overly fertile, you keep shooting your sperm in her and you will get her pregnant. Especially if you're not using birth control consistently and regularly. If she doesn't want to get on BC, you both should really learn when she's ovulating and when is a safe time for you two to do your thing.

 

meh, some women have cum fetishes/fantasies. i personally love the idea of messy sex, but in reality its, well, messy so afterward cleaning up can be obnoxious. that said, id hate to revert back to condoms with my bf. i like that he does cum in me, when we have sex
however, if you feel uncomfortable with the way things are, you need to talk to her about it

 

So you think it's a cum fetish? Would this classify as a fetish cause she didn't become so fixated on it until after I came in her for the first time.

 

i use the term fetish loosely, not the traditional 'required-to-orgasm' way. its somethign she finds is a huge turn on. so what if it developed afterward?

like i said though, it seems to be making you uncomfortable and i think you need to talk to her about it, rather than just to us.

 

Run for your life

 

It doesn't make me uncomfortable, just perplexed and astonished that she'd be fixated on it.

 

I prefer sex without a condom. If you are willing to risk it, then go for it. Just recognize that the consequences are heavy.

 

Having felt the difference, I prefer it too. Cumming inside a pussy is pretty much the highest amount of pleasure possible for a man during intercourse, so by no means am I complaining.

 

Yeah...I definitely prefer a guy to cum inside me (without a condom). It's probably mostly mental, but whatever...I just like having cum in me. *grin* but I hope you're pretty sure neither of you have diseases.

 

I think you should run now, and run quickly. I was in a similar situation a few years ago. Only in my case she stopped taking the pill without informing me. She sensed our relationship was on the skids. I don't think she did it to keep me around, but just to get a kid. Fortunately for me, she didn't get pregnant before we split. Sad thing is she did the same thing to her next significant other. Ruuuuuun!!!

 

Bareback is the best. You are a lucky S.O.B. I hate to wear a condom but I will if she what me to. And to cum in her pussy is the greatest