Lately I’ve been struggling time with my thoughts and visuals in my head of a particular co-worker that I talk to on fb and what not and visualization her just cause of the stuff we talked about and what not...but every time it arises I'm trying to change the script by thinking of a different topic, and trying to see thru the lies my mind is coming up with and trying to focus with I'm reading in my devotions which seems to be helping. The daydreaming usually happens just when ever I think of her either when I’m talking to her on fb or just thinking of her I’m getting flooded with mental images and thoughts and what not….that being said there are at times we talk or share innocent pictures but may have a dirty meaning to gather on messenger which starts with very minor dirty talk and she admit to different stuff (she reads smut, masturbates with vibrators, loves boobes…etc) which makes my head fill with images of her doing bleep and what not, but she’s also a person whoese hard to read if she’s actually telling the truth or not(like I can’t tell if she’s making this up, “you don’t know, I could be talking to guys on my onlyfans….its a good thing I’m good at hiding it, cause it would be awkward for a co-worker tobstukble across it”…..than she was talking about feet finder and such.) I know it’s not important and what not if she does it or not, but every time I think of her or talk to her my mind is flooded on mental images and makes me want to masturbate but right now I want to give masturbation up for the month and having a hard time giving it up with this issue at hand. any suggestions?
I always had this issue with myself, knowing that women are not sexual objects, but always having a sexual aspect about them. I came to term with it because I also saw women as people , saw their qualities and negative traits, what they contribute. Just like men.
You wanna know the truth? Women are sexual objects; they were designed to be able to attract us and it's not like women don't know this because they do... they just don't like it and more so when chances are they've spent damned near all of their life rejecting the advances of men and... is that all you think about? Or they want you to be more about who they are as a person than seeing them as someone you can have sex with and there isn't a guy that I know of who hasn't, at least inside their own head, objectified the shit out of a woman - but in this ultra-polite society, you do not, cannot, and will not publicly objectify any woman, you chauvinistic pig. Keep your filthy thoughts to yourself. It's ironically funny that the women I've heard pitching a bitch about being objectified by men... are also wondering why they don't have a man. Alas, some guys are assholes and let their objectification be all up in a woman's face and that just fucks shit up for those of us who want to get a woman and for who she is as a person and her mind and all that non-objectifiable stuff because if a woman gets objectified by one man, all men are automatically guilty of it. Now, whatever's going on in your head about a woman - and it's bothering you and enticing you to masturbate, hmm, I don't know if this is really a bad thing or not seeing as how men, historically, have almost always jerked off to thoughts about a woman and, usually, a woman they have no shot at being able to have sex with so, on the one hand, there's nothing unusual going on here... unless you feel that your thoughts are turning obsessive and, well, you just gotta get those thoughts under control because that kind of thinking just might cause you problems.
I agree with your thinking! I work in one of the richest cities in the world and you wouldn’t believe all the fancy clothing stores that the girls shop in and then go to a club and see the girls flaunting their bodies. Of course they get offended when a guy says something or touches. Personally, I want to be seen as a sex object and I want the guys to treat me that way.
I was in Beverly Hills and on Rodeo Drive and just people - and woman - watching when two of the most beautiful women I'd seen all day slinked by and I just didn't follow them with my eyes, I turned my whole head to watch them as they pass. One of them saw me looking and got this look on her face, came over to me and asked me what the fuck I was looking at and I'm sure I offended her when I said, "Apparently, nothing much." Her beauty was stunning; her attitude was straight ghetto because, shit, I hate saying this, but women want to get our attention and when they get it, then they're feeling objectified and ready to go all "I don't need no damned man" on a guy and all because he took a long moment to appreciate what he was seeing. Beauty, after all, is only skin deep - but ugly is deep down to the bone and there's no hiding that inner ugliness that makes such women less of a sexual object and more of a major pain in the ass and not worth wasting any more time on and it's a shame, too, because she was fine as fuck and it's a fucking shame that her attitude didn't match her beauty. Women are training us to not pay any attention to them by bitching about being objectified. Yes, we want you, but we don't want to put up with your bullshit about being objectified and is that all we think about... and the answer is, yes, it dominates our every waking moment and that's just human nature - and it's human nature that you're objecting to. How not to objectify women? Go live in a monastery as a monk who's sworn an oath of celibacy.
Honestly sounds like every work related fuck buddy i've had. You spend all day with them, they chat they flirt, when they start telling you sexual shit......they want to be fucked.
Women are sex objects. Yes, they can do and be more than that but the bottom line is they are sex objects. They also do this to themselves. There's a huge market for cosmetics, clothing, lingerie, hair styling, and manicures. All for the beautification of the female form for one purpose. Many, many women dress, paint, style, and primp for this one simple purpose. To impress the men in their lives or those men they haven't included yet. Some go further by enhancing their bodies with breast implants, Botox, face lifts, and now tattoos along with many other modifications. Again, all to impress men so we will pay attention to them. The attention men want isn't how to cure disease or invent the next greatest thing. No, it's how well she looks and if we can gain carnal knowledge of their bodies. This causes men to objectify women. We just can't be helped.
If you ask them why they go through the stuff they do to look good (and very damned good), they'll tell you that they do it to feel good about themselves, self-image things, stuff like that. It's not like they don't know that when they get all dolled up, they get our attention. It's like something Bill Cosby said in his routine about the Garden of Eden and Adam and Eve where Eve would say to Adam, "Come here! Come here!" and when Adam came running, she said, "No, no - get away! Get away!" The whole routine is funny but this part describes how women behave perfectly. They want our attention while not wanting our attention.
Of course not, Jenna; a lot of women know that they're a sexual object and have no qualms about letting us guys (and maybe some gals) know that they are. I've had sex with quite a few of those girls/women who know that part of their "job" is to have sex with guys and not necessarily to have babies, but they learned that having sex is fun and all that good stuff and, importantly, they didn't feel objectified. It's just a lot of confusing messages being handed out because (again), they want us to want to jump their bones while busting our balls with, "Is that all you think about?" and other things to get us to not see them as a sexual object... and then, wondering why they can't get a man or the guys they're chasing won't give them the time of day.
