Making out but no sex?

I have been seeing my new girlfriend for a few weeks now. We have been out a fair few times and we get on quite well, however we haven´t slept together yet.

Last night we went out for a meal and a few drinks, and afterwards I ended up at her place. Naturally, I thought I was going to get lucky and my suspicions were further aroused (along with my wee fella) when we started making out on her couch. Things got quite hot and heavy and eventually I asked if I could stay the night and she agreed, but told me with a big, naughty smile that there "won´t be any sex". I assumed she was just teasing and we moved to her bedroom.

We continued kissing and my hands started to wander and we started shedding clothes. She resisted a little and whilst giggling again said there won´t be any sex. I thought she was teasing me and playing hard to get, it´s a real turn on when a girl´s a challenge and I just thought it was part of the fore play.

Eventually, we were both in our undies - me in my boxers and her in her bra and panties. She then sat up and reached for her nightie, which she put on before taking off her bra, which I thought was a bit odd. She then went and brushed her teeth, and after returning invited me to use her mouthwash. When I returned to her room, I found the lights out. I climbed into bed and she said "sweet dreams".

I lay there for a few seconds, before rolling over and kissing her some more. Again we started making out, but every time I put my hands on her bum or up her nightie, she´d take hold of them and place them on a less sexual part of her anatomy, giggling "Noooo!" I tried a couple of times to take her panties off, before she said "I´m serious, not tonight". I was so frustrated, but realised I wasn´t going to get lucky.

What was she thinking? Was it like a test? The thing is it´s made want it more than ever, but I don´t want to push it

 

have you had many girlfriends?

 

A couple. I´ve got laid before, it´s not like I´m really desperate, but well when you´re in bed with a virtually naked chick you kind of think you´re going to get some action...

 

YOU are being teased and will continue to be till YOU step up ! Either don't be so easy to contact, be a little hard to find or else get ready for a LOT of frustration, she knew what she was doing.

 

my girlfriend isn't ready for sex, but we make out
I don't see how she is teasing him...

 

Well you just needed more mouthwash.

 

That is just a load of CRAP!!

If she is not read she's not read. Just cause you thing fooling aroung leads to sex doesn't mean everyone else does. Just because you have been dating for a few weeks doesn't me she is going to have sex with you.

 

I know, no means no and that´s it. It was abit frustrating, though...LOL

 

Ya, well it will make it all the better when you do have sex.

 

At no point should sex be assumed!

Women can go to pretty advanced stages and still not want to go all the way. They are not a tease, they just want a little fun. Accept that.

 

The worst thing a girl can do to a guy is give him blue balls! but it's a pain that we must all go through.

I was once with a girl that did the same thing to me. We would be making out, we would both be having a blast and get horny as hell but then when it was time to do the real thing, she would stop me.

It's just the way girls are, you can't do anything about it. The girl I was with was just not ready to have sex with me, and you can't push that. All you can do is be very patient and she'll eventually open up to you (wink wink).

The only thing you can do is communicate with her. Ask her why it is that she doesn't wanna have sex with you. If the girls is normal, she will just give you vague answers that don't really make sense (this is the part where you CAN be pushy). There could be a million things that stop her from having sex with you.. not ready, scared, PMS, headache, didn't shave, bad experience, not horny, wants to stay pure till she gets married, family issues, her favorite show is cancelling, etc, etc, etc, etc,...

That's why you have to be very patient. Good Luck!

 

she wasnt ready for sex that night
she told you
she told you that repeatedly
its your own damn fault for not being able to actually LISTEN to waht she was saying to you! she told you no, not tongith. unless the sexual boundary has aready been crossed, us girls mean it (and even then we often mean it)

 

Take it easy lemon squeezy.

If he kept going it's because she said no, but she kept teasing.

That's the thing about girls, they don't always say what they mean. Sometimes they tell you one thing, and they give you little hints so that you figure out what they really want.

And that's a fact.

 

generally if we say "no sex tonight" and weve never had sex with that person, we genuinely mean we are not ready to fcuk them. she thought she had warned him sufficiently, if he got blueballs or continued under a premise that he was gonna get some pussy, hes the one who completely misudnerstood her clearly stated line of "no sex tonight"

 

I agree with allonym 100%

 

So you're saying that asking him to stay at her house, making out with him, changing in front of him and sleeping in the same bed is the perfect way to get the message "No sex" across?

She obviously meant that since the beginning, but she's not very good expressing what she meant.

 

"no sex tonight" is a great way to express "no sex tonight" if you ask me

he asked to stay over her house, not the other way around
and in what way does making out, changing, or sleeping in the bed with someone mean "i'm going to sleep with you"?

 

Have you been living under a rock the past couple of years or something?
Making out is a form of foreplay. Foreplay is defined as a series of physicall or psycological acts that arouse sexual desire. Does that ring a bell?

Sleeping in the same bed... umm I wonder how that could be seen as an way of inviting some1 to sleep with you? After all, am sure a lot of guys here in the forum sleep with girls in the same bed all the time without having sex haha.

Changing in front of them. Yeah a lot of girls change in fron of guys because they do not want to have sex with them, they just a way for them to interact with their friends.

Clearly she did not want to have sex with him, that's not up for debate. What am trying to say is that if she would have done things differently, he would have understood her quicker & better. Is that so hard to understand?

Not only that, you make it sound as if human beings always say what they really meant. If this was a ture statement, then I am the one that has been living under a fucking rock for a while!
There would be no politicians left in the world!

 

that does nto mean it promises sexual fufilment.

umm... wow.

I've changed in front of girls I didn't want to have sex with... since when is changing sexual?

he should have understood, form her saying it, repeated times

usually when someone wants to have sex, they don't say that they don't want to have sex...

 

If or are ok with your body and aren't shy girls change in front of anyone. Making out is making out. I made out with guys in high school and didn't have sex till i was 20 and a lot of them spent the night at my house (my parents where pretty cool and trusted me). I changed in front of some of them and got naked with some of them but never had sex. Making out doesn't me lets get ready for sex.