My girlfriend doesnt satisfy me ?

Have been dating for a year, we are both young aswell...

Have sex about 4 times a month due to not living with each other, but whenever
I suggest kinky ideas such as anal, swallowing, sexting shes so reluctant

What should I do as i love her so much but just dont feel satisfied.

Thanks for any ideas

 

Hookers have always kept my marriage together.


My wife is the most boring person in bed since we got married....li would have left her years ago if I didn't have a young Chinese girl that for $50 lets me do whatever I want or need to feel satisfied.


I love my wife and have tried everything to respark our sex life and got no where. She seems happy having sex only on special occasions with the light off, under the covers....missionary position only with her socks on.

I on the other hand jerk off 3 times a day..... And crave dirty raunchy sex 24/7. It is my only vice.

 

Sounds like something you should have figured out before you got married :\

OP, instead of just "suggesting" ideas, try and GET her worked up and horny. You have to build her up to that point, and romance her too. make it a special night for her and maybe she'll make it a special night for you.

 

Looking at your sig, the list seems to be piling up. j/k

 

We arent married, but good idea I see what you meAn.

Thing is tho I do ! But still just boring usual sex

 

It the sex sucks now.... It only get worse after marriage

 

Re: boring usual sex - they say variety is the spice of life - the more things you can do sexually with her the better. Does she allow you to use sex toys on her?
That maybe the next option for taking away the 'boring' part of your sex life?
Buy a sex toy for her & see if that improves things for both of you.

 

Lmao , man you made my day XD

 

Perhaps where you fail is to only propose things that are nice to the man, not to the woman. Some women like anal, but most don't. Some women like swallowing cum, but most don't. Texting? Lots of guys show pics of their gfs and texts to their friends, so, women tend to avoid that.

Why not proposing something, at least once, that's actually guaranteed to be good for her?

You know, men are uneasy about women talking about the size of their penises. But what they should be really caring about is women talking about them as egoistic lovers. I'm yet to meet a woman who won't describe their men like that.

If we do have a sex drive deserving to be called that, we want more of a good thing. If it isn't that good, we want less of it, till not wanting it at all. If intercourse is already not too satisfying for her, why would she be tempted to try anal?

Make your gf scream of pleasure every time you two have sex, then introduce something else. Be worth of her bother.

Now, if you are already a good lover and if you make her orgasm every time you have sex with her, then it could be she has a very low sex drive. Can you live with it for the rest of your life?

 

sorry but maybe its time for a new girl friend. dosent sound like shes that into you.

 

It's a two way street so try to see if you can do things that en up being specifically for her pleasure. Women don't always get off from sex and need specail treatment. Also see if she want's to expiriment with something but is afriad or shy about it. In today's society sex is still a taboo subject so she might be reluctant to try new things. Also try to make your sexual expiereinces in to pleasant memories and not just routines to feed or satisfy a need. Finally READ UP ON THE topic knowledge is power and there plenty of info on sex out there.

 

As I'm reading these posts, I can't help but think that Men really are from Mars. Just because the woman doesn't do what YOU want sexually means that she's boring or not into you? What about what SHE wants - and I'm not talking about only while you're in bed. Women, most women anyway, enjoy sex when there is an emotional bond or connection that comes with it. They want to feel loved and not as though they're just there to satisfy a man's physical needs. If the only time that a man is nice to a woman is when he wants to get her into bed and once they're there, all he thinks about is what feels good to him, then he shouldn't be surprised if the woman stops wanting to have sex with him. You're not satisfying her - on any level. And to the person who wrote the original post - most women don't enjoy anal sex (although I know a few who lie and say they do because they think it'll make them more appealing to men) - stop believing what you see in porn.

 

Few things..there's bad and/or half thought-out advice being given from ALL sides.

first...you say she isn't satisfying you because she won't swallow or take it up the ass..etc? Most women DO NOT like that. Anal will hurt if done wrong and cum tastes nasty (yes there's exceptions, rare women may enjoy the taste.)

Good advice given -> bears repeating...find something that SHE or BOTH of you would enjoy..not just you ramming your dick up her ass or spraying a load of baby-batter down her throat. Look beyond yourself.

The typical "it's the man who can't satisfy her so she's bored"...yes that can be true. And sounds like maybe, OP, you need to look at HER more then yourself. But This is a bad cliche and stupid to say in a generalization. I've dated two women that had problems orgasming..one could not at all. Not on her own. Not by me. Not by people she was with before, or after me (to date.) It's actually a more common "problem" then most realize. And it's not the guys fault. The other girl could ONLY get herself off by using one of those huge two handed back massagers (like a chiropractor might use on you) on herself. she chouldn't get off any other way. Even on her own. Again. NOT the mans fault.

So let's drop the "if she can't get off or is bored with sex it must be the mans" bullshit. Maybe it is true in this case. But let's not fall back on that as our default excuse..it's dumb.

Again, OP, if she's not satisfying you talk to her...find something to do FOR HER that would spice things up instead of just worrying about yourself.

for example another girl I once dated had no interest in a man cumming in her mouth. Unless I gave her a really "good" orgasm (I mean GOOD orgasm) in which case she was ravenous and almost begged for me to cum in her mouth so she could swallow it all. Any other time it literally made her sick.

So stop looking at what she can do for you and figure out what you can do for her or the BOTH of you to spice it up.

 

OP (if you're even still out there), what I've discovered through the years is this, granted this is by no means an absolute and I'm sure to get a lot of negative feedback from this, but rather a trend I've found to be true most of the time is this:

• Girls I've met, dated, known, of or knew of from people who dated them who were a product of an absent father figure, abusive parents, lots of neglect, terrible home life or upbringing tended to be much more on the wild side sexually. My Freudian guess would be that they cling on when they can and are damaged such that they want attention / acceptance anyway they can. These are the girls you hear blowing guys on the back of the bus, getting pregnant at 15, end up drunk at some party where they fucked half the football team, etc...
• Girls I've met, dated, known, of or knew of from people who dated them who grew up in a more stable home with good upbringing tend to be a little more reserved and less up for you sticking a tongue up their ass or blowing a load in their mouth.

Now that said there are always cases you hear of the preachers daughter who fucks half the town and the girl from the bad end of town who's a total prude, so there are always exceptions.

Bottom line, I know you guys are young, but if it ain't working now, then it's either her or you and there are plenty of other fish in the sea...

OMG, with the socks on??? that's just so gross

 

I think sex is one of the most important aspects of a relationship. My last gf was absolutely awful in bed. I hate to admit it ,but that was one reason among many I broke up with her.
You have to have sexual chemistry or it just doesn't work.

 

Ha, hilarious. What do you care if she swallows, cleans up the mess???
Anal? Get a boy friend.
Sex is about finding things you both like to do. She isnt the problem, you are in my opinion. Seems you want but you never mentioned what she wants,,, you dont know? Welll thats what makes her not satisfy you. She is doing the chore by getting under the covers and letting you do your bit, be happy or share with her some things you both might like and dont worry about the mess.
Oh, and in your next relationship,,, get with the program, bets are she will satisfy you and you will satisfy her. Happy hunting for the one you love for all reasons.

 

Your advice is a bit harsh and one sided.

I have to say jgalley had the best all-encompassing response to the original poster here.

 

Really? One sided?
He said a good bit about what he wants her to do, many of those things many women dont like.
If you read into my message you will see I gave him ideas how to make it two sided. He can take the message as he likes but in the end, she swallows and takes it in the ass or he gets a new lady who will? There is so much more you can do and one of them is leave and find someone who doesnt mind it but I am betting the fact she wont do those few things is holding back what could be a great relationship while he could move onto someone with his kinky likes.
Here is the thing, if my BF didnt please me I would not be telling you all its because he wont do a few things during sex. We would work out things we both like or he'd be gone, or I would.
Not everyone is Kinky and if you are you best match with someone who is rather then pressure the relationship to go that way. Car door falls off? Take it back to the dealer.

 

Figure out what's making her reluctant. Bad experiences? If so, find out what could make it better. Women need warming up and relaxing before Anal. There are flavored creams to help with the taste of swallowing.

 

Sexual compatibility is important when no wish exists to balance things off with extraneous sources. Sexual monogamy is unnatural