i see a lot of media/social examples now of edging / orgasm control - from my point of view - male - i like edging and found it really good - although my wife does not like to do that much - ex used to BUT she hates it , if she gets anywhere close and stops , then loses the urge completely ... i'm the first person she had orgasms with anyway - all her previous partners did not bother or she put them off, not sure why - but it took a while to suggest she had an orgasm anyway i just wondered if this is more a male thing then a female thing ???
The difference in hormone secretion during sex is what makes men and women differ on edging. Men will get hit with a large amount of dopamine right at orgasm and come down quickly. Women don't. Edging for men prolongs the release because the orgasm is staved off and dopamine isn't released. We get near the peak and back off only to rise again and again this way. But once we go over the top, it's over. Women can get over the top and like the energizer bunny, keep on going. But they become wrought with frustration if not allowed to get to the top or edged. Men don't get frustrated by edging.
Speaking as a senior male. My wife and I do practice edging. It does take practice and being keenly aware of your body. There are times we connect just to edge and not for orgasm purposes. It really helps me last longer when we do finally have full on intercourse. It also helps me have more staying power when we play with others.
I know a girl who likes to inject PT141 before a night of romping. Sometimes it makes her horny quick and sometimes it takes a while. If she get horny soon after the injection and long before the sex, she'll edge and edge and edge. She could probably just climax and be fine later but she likes to have her first, crashing orgasm getting oral from someone and she says that edging makes her first one a long, rolling one where she almost passes out just from someone's tongue. Other than that, she prefers to masturbate to a finish and do it again if she's in the mood. And maybe again...lol.
One of the unfair aspects of being male. I consider edging our form of multiple orgasms. Difficult to do well during sex, though, unless she had already had enough.
I have found the same thing as I am 60. I will edge a few time during the day to get ready for a night with my wife.
