When we did anything, it was only with someone that we knew was absolutely Safe to be with. We were both too paranoid about getting something that would possibly kill us. An orgasm wasn't worth getting ill over. That is why we are/were limited to a few individuals. It is another reason that we embraced sex toys so much, not that you need a reason. Are you cautious in your sexual exposure?
I was certainly much more licentious back in the day. Nowadays I get tested regularly, use PrEP and Doxy PrEP, and am a bit more circumspect. However, ejaculate is a huge deal to me; the energy connection at the moment of orgasm, with his hard cock throbbing deep in my mouth, incorporating his essence into my body; literally the physical manifestation of his life force; it satisfies some deep atavistic craving in me like nothing else does. For me, cocksucking borders upon the mystical and spiritual. Put a condom on, and the spell's broken; I literally might as well be sucking on a broomstick. Irresponsible and inappropriate as far as answers go, but honest. Best I can do.
And there's the rub, isn't it? Those of us who suck cock knows that when it's covered with a condom, it loses something but it remains true that if you're worried about catching something, you do what Piobaire and a lot of other guys do - get the medications and know the signs of a guy having the clap, has sores on his cock, stuff like that or... put a condom on it or, worst of all, do not suck cock. Ever. The act does not feel or seem to be complete if he cums in a condom or pulls out and who knows where his cum is going to go - but it's not in my mouth and I'm not sucking it out of a condom or a shot glass because like Piobaire said, it satisfies a deep, atavistic craving and like nothing else can do when he's pumping it directly into my mouth. Playing it safe means that you do whatever you gotta do to 'make sure' that when you have sex with a guy, you'll be safe doing it and, realistically, as safe as humanly possible because as we all know - or should know - that the safest way to have sex is... to not have sex at all.
The choice seems to be either remain strictly celibate, or roll the dice once in a while and mitigate risk as best as you can. I'm not saying they're wrong, but to hear the nurses at the health department tell it, you should never touch anyone without a Level A Hazmat suit.
I'm cautious in that I won't suck off just anyone. I have a great creep radar and have no problems skipping anyone that is off. Further, I am not all that promiscuous. I have done a cruising spot and a glory hole a handful of times, but quit that. Now I have one regular friend and a married guy who stops in on occasion. No anal sex unless it is with someone I know very well. I've only done that with two guys. No condoms ever. For me, the cumshot is a huge deal, and I'd rather go without if I had to use a condom. Other things: I have excellent oral hygiene and I require video chat with a person before I meet. I have no problem passing on people who I think are weirdos or players. Finally, I know myself pretty well and limit myself to situations where I can't get too carried away. There's a fairly well used glory hole in the city. It would be amazing to suck off a dozen guys in an evening, but no. Too risky and I can't say no to a hard cock. I'd be there for hours and would still want more. I'm not missing out on anything. The two guys I hookup with now love cum as much as I do, so lots of pleasure to give and be given. I haven't gotten any std's of any kind yet, and likely won't.
That is one of, if not the main reason that I am having such a difficult time finding someone to swap handjobs and blowjobs with. I know the age of AIDS being rampant among gays and bisexuals is over, but it is still out there along with numerous other STDs. I've been told and that I am being to selective and careful because I don't want to suck someone's cock unless I know where it's been. We men truly are sluts and will let anyone suck our cocks and will put our cocks in just about any hole that feels good. Back in the 70s before the AIDS epidemic I would let anyone suck my cock, but that ended quickly . I caught "crabs" once a very long time ago, but I have been lucky enough to have never caught any type of STD and would love to keep it that way!!!
I'm probably not a guy to emulate. Every time a woman rejected me in the last 30 years--which included many women I asked out that said no thanks right away, or the 35 first dates, a handful of second dates, one third date, and two long-term rollercoaster 3-year relationships (with both women breaking up with me multiple times in each of the 3 years)--gay desires would explode up into my conscious mind, eventually each time, after lots of gay porn, driving me out for real cock and ass, and in the easiest places to find it--anonymous gay sex venues like video arcades with glory holes, straight porn theaters, back rooms of gay bars, and especially gay bathhouses and sometimes gay sex clubs in the different large cities I've lived in (Toronto, Ottawa, San Francisco, and Manhattan New York). But I always ended up just having unprotected oral sex in all these places. I am talking many hundreds of cocks over 21 years! When I finally fulfilled my anal desires 10 years ago by fucking a guy's ass with a condom in a bathhouse in Berlin while visiting Germany, after rimming him unprotected for over an hour, both the best sexual experiences of my life, it changed everything for me. I stopped all anonymous sex in these places and started exclusively using gay online hookup sites and apps to meet up with guys in each other's homes in the small towns in the Niagara Falls area where I now live, for both oral and anal play, the latter with me as top. There have only been about a dozen such guys over these last 10 years, and only a few that were for multiple visits. There's been some ass rimming, unprotected, with a few of these guys, but only one guy with whom I attempted to fuck but kept losing my erection trying to get the condom on. Long story short, I have been massively lucky to have never caught any kind of STD during any of this--knock wood. This includes attending a huge monthly gay orgy of 30-50 guys in the last year of living in Toronto! Throughout all of these hundreds of sexual encounters over 30 years, I have never seen any evidence of protected cocksucking and I've never been with a guy who has practised it. I certainly haven't ever sucked a cock with a condom on it, or had a guy ask me to put a condom on for him to suck my cock. But I've also only ever been single when I've had oral or anal sex with guys. I'm sure guys that suck or fuck other guys while being in a long-term relationship with a woman might have stronger concerns than I ever had. Because of that experience with the condom problem trying to fuck that guy, I decided 2 years ago to go on PrEP and get the mandatory STI checks every three months, so that I can fuck other PrEP guys bareback and not worry about HIV. My intention has always been to just use more discretion with the guys I'm hooking up with in each other's homes. And I've only been back to a bathhouse twice in the last 10 years, and then it was only for a little bit of oral. But the irony is that I haven't had any anal with a guy in these last two years on PrEP, mostly because there have been very few guys. I've just gotten way too busy at work and then too exhausted on weekends to put any effort into hooking up. Though I'm looking forward to having lots of casual sex with guys still, my overall intention is to finally find one or two friends with benefits to have regular oral and bareback anal sex with, and even losing my bottom virginity sooner than later. The PrEP still protects you from HIV should even a guy who you're "monogamous" with step out on you. And STIs for the most part can be managed quite easily these days, should you catch anything. But, again, I'm a single guy, and one who has not only had no interest in having sex with a woman in the last five years, but has absolutely zero intention of ever entering a long-term relationship with a woman again. My gay side is way too strong, and I've learned I can never be without men in my sex life, and my own personal morals disallows sex with others while in a committed romantic relationship. So it's men only for me from now on probably.
Since you mentioned it, I've used condoms to suck cock with guys; I've had a few women put a condom on me to suck me. The taste of them, to me, was horrible - and included the flavored ones that tasted more like fake sugar than anything else and making me want to throw up and after doing this maybe three or four times, I decided that I wasn't sucking dick with a condom ever again and made it a point to learn the sign and symptoms of STD/STIs.
