While having mm or gay sex…do you guys talk about your desires and how it working and how you love it or try different ways or share different kinks ideas ….do you slow down and intimately connect and express the process of mm or gay love …, for me more and more , I want longer sex and I rather do that by connecting and role playing enjoying each others pleasure longer …I don’t like rushed sex
Rushed, slow, doesn't matter to me all that much. I don't have any kinks; I don't like role-playing and if I held out just for long, slow sex, I probably wouldn't have gotten laid as much as I did. There's not always time to spend hours making love and if you can't get pleasure from so-called rushed sex, then I might suggest you rethink some stuff because it can be just as pleasurable as spending hours going at it. Good sex is where you find it and it's not always the "low and slow" kind.
I guess it all varies ….as much I enjoy quickies .but the sex that last longer have been the best. It’s like when you’re eating a great meal, if you eat fast you don’t enjoy it…but when you take your time you appreciate the meal and the person who made it ….similar to sex, we can appreciate the sex and the person who is fulfilling each others desires when we take it in a steady way …
I can eat a great meal fast and enjoy the fuck out of it; I can appreciate the person who made it since I, too, can cook (I used to do it for a living). Having "fast" sex does not diminish the appreciation of the other person; it does not diminish desires since, if you're going at it like the world is going to end any moment, your desires are being taken care of. It always comes down to how you like and prefer to have sex. I have never held out for one kind of sex over the other because, again, you don't get laid like that and, perhaps just my opinion, if you don't have the skills to have fast sex and, again, you can't get any pleasure from it, you reduce your opportunities to have sex exponentially. It's like holding out for just one guy to be with; it might be nice and all that but then think about all the men you passed up on that you could have had amazing sex with - fast or slow. "Best" is both relative and objective and, I dunno, perhaps it's because I don't think in those terms. Did we have sex? Did we both get off? Great - that's always the plan. I've told guys, "Look, I'm not a woman so there's really no need for you to take all fucking day to bust a nut in me and if you think that I'm going to spend the next two or three hours "playing" with you, guess again - I do have other things to do..." I've been bashed for wanting to fuck over making love and, okay, maybe it's me and my old ass but I make love to my wife and other women; I had a boyfriend that I made love to; anyone else and we're either sucking or fucking and if we have to do it "in a hurry," this is going to be fun and will test one's skills. If it takes me five or ten minutes to suck you off, I'm happy and if you were expecting me to edge you for hours on end, well, forget that - I don't have the patience for it. Let's get down and dirty and fast or slow depends on some shit... Personal 'preference'.
I've provided so many "blow & goes" to guys that were just as enjoyable as the times I've spent two hours sucking each other off twice. That what is so great about oral sex with a guy, it can be completed in 10 minutes or less if you're good at it.
Most of the time I meet up with my FBs, time and location aren't our friend. We make the best of it and have a great time. There are occasions where we have the place to ourselves for a while and so more quality time to suck cock and get fucked. My one FB will use the extra time to tie me down and use toys on me before fucking my brains out. It's amazing. I've been giving one FB car blowjobs in a parking lot which requiees us to be alert and fairly quick.
