Our desires change as we get older, but our love and dedication to each other will be forever. We enjoy each others company and have a great family life, but our sex life has drasticly changed. How do you keep it Fresh and loving. Does your wife do all of the things you would like , sexually? Does your husband satisfy your desires? What makes it work for you? Are you left to your own solution?
That is a great question, hopefully my answer will satisfy your interest. My wife and I have been married for 38 glorious yrs, in the many yrs we have cultivated many a relationships. Both male and female. One has to be open to crossing the bridge of sexuality in order to live free and without remorse. We share out bed with many different couples both male and female and we love it.
what has been working for me is a civil verbal agreement between my wife and I that we live our lives separately yet in the same house. I don't know how long it will work but I don't see it changing in the new future. A year ago we were heading for a divorce when she proposed that we skip that for now - and try to co-habitate independently. It has some downsides and drawbacks - I am limited in who I can bring here and why - but I have no limits on my comings and goings - and neither does she. I get to have my fun to whatever extent I choose. I get to see my family, my adult children (one who lives in my house, too) and my grandchildren. I doubt very highly I would see my grandkids nearly as much as I do if I lived anywhere other than where their grandmother is living. It's just a fact. The years have a way of flying by - before I know it, life will change again - for now, this works.
My spouse used to be able to satisfy my sexual needs. That was until her body failed her and she had to stop having sex. After a long talk we came to an agreement to where I can satisfy my sexual desires and needs with other people, always with a woman, as long as I remain with her until the end. This I gladly do and more. I am her primary caretaker doing a lot for her. I help her with a lot of daily life things she just cannot do anymore. So in a sense I, as a husband, satisfies her desires even though they are not sexual. In another way my spouse satisfies my sexual needs because she doesn't hold me to monogamy. The changes we made due to the situation bestowed upon us has worked out well.
I'm not envious of your situation , or your wife's but it's great that you have her blessing and can still meet your needs sexually. My situation is more I would like to explore and have different partners simply for the pleasure of variety or experience s.
