Why do "straight" men love to pegged? (also, shemale top?)

I've long,long been confused as to why so many "straight" men love to be pegged.

Many "straight" men will get tremendous sexual pleasure out of being pegged by their wife or girlfriend, but, in NO WAY will they let another man top them!

The ONLY conclusion I can come to on this (and, again, I'm only guessing) is that many so-called "straight" guys, deep, deep down, really crave being penetrated by another man, but are too scared to admit it to themselves, as they are too afraid of possibly being bi, or gay.

Same for "straight" men who will perform oral sex on a shemale; I'm guessing that, again, they wish that it was another male that they were perfoming oral on, and, because this is NOT involving another male, makes his desires less "gay".

As I said earlier, I have absolutely no experience here at all on this subject.

Personally, I feel that many such men have deeply-hidden gay/bi tendencies, as this is their way of "filling the void", so to speak.

I'm interested in the opinions of other guys on this subject......

"Live long and prosper"

 

J Mike:

Thanks for sharing your opinion on this topic.

Agreed, society (including most religions) drills it into us that anything gay/bi is wrong and immoral, despite the fact how depraved some heterosexual acts are.

Myself, I don't believe in "labeling"; EVERYONE should enjoy SEX as THEY please, whether with the opposite sex and the same sex, and just "enjoy the ride", so to speak, without feeling guilty about what you are doing.

Many straight men will let women spank them, dominate them, and they have no trouble surrendering their "power" to a WOMAN.

BUT, submitting sexually to another MAN?

TOO MANY "double-standards" involved, for my tastes.......

"Live long and prosper"

 

Good question, and happy to share my own experiences as they are perhaps something you hadn't thought of. For me it has nothing to do with any bi or gay feeling or thoughts, it is purely about 2 fetishes I enjoy on an occasional basis. First is enjoying my own feminine side and crossdressing, not just putting on some lingerie, but a full transformation with an outfit, lingerie, wig, jewellery, make-up, false nails, lashes & breasts, high heels, the full works, often it can take a long time with the help of my partner to get ready. I love to dress up differently, but the overall look is always the same, as tarty as possible. That is to satisfy the second fetish. My partner, and sometimes a few of her friends too, or sometimes it is just my friends, will take me out in public to show me off. They are dressed dominantly so the role-play becomes obvious, I am submissive to them, the whole night out is about FemDom and sometimes exhibitionism too. That role-play continues back at home, or in a hotel, with me getting more and more daringly dressed as the night goes on. Their dominance and my submission obviously extends to sex play too, of which pegging is just one part of, there's other sex play too as well as bondage and restraint. At no point is anyone thinking about bi or gay feelings, it is just purely as part of a FemDom role-play night.

 

Your post brings another dimension to this topic-one that I am sure some others can identify with; thank you for sharing your views here.

Personally, "sex play" involving the "feminization" of a man has never turned me on in the slightest; it's just a major turn-off for me.

When I imagine a guy being pegged, or bottoming for a shemale, I see him still as a masculine man, with no need to "play the part" of a female.

Most certainly, of course, everyone should enjoy what THEY personally enjoy, regardless of what others might say to the contrary.

Sexual fetishes, like the human mind, are beyond complex; there are so many venues that one can explore, and certainly, they should fulfill their desires THEIR way, and get the most out of it.......

"Live long and prosper"

 

Why in the name of God did you post in bold text?

I can only speak for myself. I'm straight, but I do have a feminine side. But there's a big difference between having a feminine side and being sexually attracted to a man. I do have an asshole and a prostate. And even though I've never really bothered playing with that area, the thought of an attractive, and dominant, woman with a strapon can really turn me on. But I'd way prefer to just imagine a hot woman fucking my ass than actually play with my own ass. For me, it's the fact that I'd be in the presence of a woman, is what would be the turn-on. It's a completely different type of turn-on to regular sex.

I appreciate that - for a gay man - there must be a certain amount of satisfaction in the idea of converting someone... so a lot of gay men might make the argument you're making here. In fact I assumed you were gay when I started reading. A gay man might say to a, straight man who likes pegging, that technically a real cock would feel better than a rubber strap-on. But I'm simply not attracted to men... the thought of being naked with a man is repulsive. It would be like me saying to the gay guy, that because he like it in the ass from other men, that deep down he want to be fucked in the ass by a non-human mammal with a penis of similar size!

If such men you mention above were really gay then maybe they'd probably rather hook up at a gay club some night the gf was out of town than ask her to peg him. That being said, from posts I see online I do get the impression that men who get pegged by women are more inclined to be bi/gay. For me I'd probably be equally as embarrassed of it being found out that I am turned on by pegging than I would be of being gay. I do feel a certain amount of guilt about my enjoyment of pegging. And when I hear a man who seems macho give the impression that it's normal then I briefly feel less guilty about it. I once had a man talking to me about how he got a prostate exam, and him joking about how he wanted to ask the nurse to "do it again". Now that man probably didn't know what pegging is, but I can only assume that he'd like it! I had a good wank later that evening to the thought of our female line manager fucking the hell outta my ass!

Any way, as regards the men who like to suck tranny dick and claim not to be gay, that I really don't know. For all I know, maybe some straight men are 100% neutral about the thought of being naked with a man, and maybe then they (assuming that they like anal) mightn't mind being taken by a man. Who knows! There's all sorts.

 

Your conclusions are derived with great fault. The terms gay, bisexual, and straight/heterosexual have to do with sexual attraction and desire. There is no sex act that a man could desire to do with one woman (or with a number of women) that would indicate him to be gay or bi, not overtly, not covertly.

If the object of his affection is a woman wearing a strap-on, she's still a woman, and any act they may perform together (without another man involved) is entirely heterosexual. Your conclusion is a nonsequitur, as faulty as saying that if said man wants to penetrate her vagina with his penis, his true desire must be to penetrate another man's rectum. It doesn't follow and makes no sense.

If a man inserts his finger in a woman's rectum, it's straight sex. If a woman inserts her finger in a man's rectum, it's straight sex. Note 1 man + 1 woman + sexual conact = straight sex. For there to be any indication that he is bi or gay, there would have to be at least one other man involved and having sexual contact with the first man.

As to your conclusion about a man performing oral sex on a "shemale," it must not yet have occurred to you that shemales are males. Anyone who is chromosomally 46, XY and has a penis and testicles is a male. Of course straight men do not perform oral sex on other men. You need at least one man and one woman for there to be "straight" sexual contact. A man having sexual contact with another man is a homosexual act. People known as shemales are males. Two individuals who are both 46,XY having sexual contact are engaged in a homosexual act. You haven't made any great discovery there.

 

There's nothing bi or gay about it. There's no tendencies and one doesn't have anything to do with the other. Some straight men like having strap on sex from a girl and to switch roles to make it interesting. They enjoy submitting to girls and the psychological affects it may have. Then the verbal dialog with it too makes it even better. Maybe we like getting spanked, paddled flogged or punished over a womans knee while she's dressed in latex.

 

Well, as the old saying goes, "different strokes for different folks".......enjoy what you like to the fullest!

"Live long and prosper"

 

You haven't shared your own thought on the matter???

 

Personally, I would rather see a man penetrated by another man, than a woman with a strapon, or a shemale.

At least, there is some "male bonding" going on, in this instance, which I feel can be very intense, and, these days, altogether too lacking, in many instances.

But, again, it really doesn't matter what I personally feel; it is what others desire and enjoy.

Enjoy what you like, and go with it.....

""Live long and prosper"

 

I agree, go with what you like. I like the real "thing".

 

I agree with you. Of course it is a matter of accepting yourself. I remember when I made love with a guy for the first time,I was nervous, but soon got over it. Since then I have come accept who I am. And to be honest, my male lover is the first person I have really sexually "clicked" with. I don't mean to discount the time I had with my wife, we still love each other very much but it is that we have found our sexual needs best met by our same sex lovers. Make sense?

 

You have made a VERY good point here, my friend: "accepting yourself" is a VITAL component in our search for our true selves, whether we be bisexual or gay.

Being HONEST with yourself (and, of course, with others involved) is key as well........

"Live long and prosper"

 

Because it feels so good and the orgasm is so intense. Simple Straight, gay or whatever, has nothing to do with enjoying the associated feelings with pegging. I never thought of it, until it was done to me. There was no looking back.

 

I have been pegged many times by my girlfriend and she is well aware of my previous activity with men. I like the feeling of fullness inside me, I have had a cock up there as well as dildos, vibrators and butt plugs. These days Im in a monogamous relationship with my girlfriend, she can satisfy all my needs and i love it. Even though i would most likely fit in your bisexual category, how can a man having sexual contact with a women (pegging) make someone gay? Or even bisexual? Why do people always have to label other people. If i really had to id say I'm bisexual. But what i enjoy sexually is complex and it changes. As long as people are not going outside any laws and are consenting adults lets just enjoy our time.

 

I agree!

TBH there is no such thing as "gay" or "straight". There is only love and sex. You can love anything and have sex with almost anything. What labels you pick up on is for your mind and others perception. All guys like having something in their butt if they are relaxed, there is no debating this.

 

I have two personalities, the one I have with women and one with men. I am very open with the right people. For me getting fucked was a huge turn on. The harder the better. I looked at it as a form of punishment. I wanted to feel the pain. That straight guy was a very good friend. Getting high made it a lot easier for the both of us. We also read a lot about this suject. I started out by buying butt stimulators. Dildo's of all sizes, butt plugs. The first time he inserted a small butt plug in the bathroom, I watched in the mirror while he lubed me and the plug and slid it in. I felt the pain, I immediately felt my personality change. I became very submissive to this. For me this was a form of punishment. For what I do not know. Over time the dildos got bigger, longer and thicker. Each time I watched in the mirror as he inserted them. My reply was always, harder, deeper, punish me. A women cannot do this for me. I need a domanate figure. As a straight guy, being open to this with other straight guys is a needle in a hay stack. I was lucky to be able to share this with another straight guy who made it a reality for me. He never looked at me differently after that. We are still great friends.

 

For me it doesn't matter who is doing the pegging, I enjoy the pain that goes with it. I become very submissive to men. Why would a man peg me when he could punish me with the real thing.I have had relationships with women wh asked me to do this, she liked to watch. I did it because I like the feeling of being submissive. I watched her finger herself while I was being penetrated. A win win for the both of us.