Why men want a naughty girl

Hello all! I wanted to share some of my recent thoughts:

There is a common saying among men. They want a “lady in the public, but a freak in the bed.” Every guy likes a sweet and cute girlfriend who can have a great time with his family. But when the two of you are alone, you need to reveal your wild side to him. There’s nothing that turns on a guy more than knowing that his girlfriend is a little minx on the wild side when she’s not trying to make a good impression. Men want duality in the women they are with. They want surprise, they want a break from the normal, and they want to be teased.

Most men face a lot of pressure in their life. Men feel like they need to be the bread winner, the protector, the aggressor, and the decision maker. Not to mention that they are just as insecure as women. Now take all of that and wrap it around the fact that they have been raised in a society that suppresses their innate masculinity. Men have lost touch with their ancestral manliness, and that primal side can now only be accessed through an emotional stimulus like anger, danger, or lust.

There are two points I am trying to make here. The first point is that men’s egos are fragile and require positive reinforcement. Whereas a woman can get her ego boost from verbal compliments, men feed off of actions. For us, actions speak 10 times louder than words. The second point is that if you want to see his true side in the bedroom, you need to help him access his primal side. That’s where naughty girls come in. Naughty girls make men feel better about themselves and let them know it is okay to let go.

She reminds him that he is wanted.
She reminds him that over all the other guys out there, she chose him.
She reminds him while he is at work that there is someone waiting for him that wants him to ravish her when he gets home.

These things help give men a huge confidence boost, decrease stress, and can turn them into an overall better person. I know it sounds like a bit much, but you will be surprised how differently a man carries himself when he is in a relationship where he is fully satisfied.

Okay, so that’s great for him, but what is in it for you? That is a perfectly reasonable question to ask, and the answer is very simple. A man who is having those needs met in a relationship is going to treat you better, do nicer things for you, have a lower chance of infidelity, become much more enthusiastic in the bedroom, and most importantly, make you feel wanted and desirable as well. How great does it feel knowing that someone is dying to touch your body and have his way with you? Not a bad payoff for something that you are going to have fun doing anyways.

Keep in mind that men are still hunters. They want the feeling that they are chasing. They want to work for it. No one values what comes to them easily. That is why a naughty girl balances sexual surprise with sexual tension. She toys with him in places where there is no chance for him to release the tension. She places an obstacle in his way that stops him from having her. It will satisfy his inner hunter while driving him crazy at the same time.

It is up to you how often you choose to be naughty. The naughty girl represents a duality in your personality. It is that side of you that he knows is there, but never knows when it is going to show up or how. The randomness of it all adds to the fun and should be unpredictable in his eyes.

Both men and women have forgotten the art of seduction. The desire that anticipation can bring. The fantasies that mystery can invoke. The passion that explodes after a night of sexual tension. A naughty girl utilizes these elements to the point where her man can’t hold himself back any longer. She does this until the other side of him comes out, the more animalistic side.

That is what makes men want a naughty girl. She brings out the primal side of him. The animalistic, “I want your body, I’m going to have you now and ravish you” side. As men, when that part of our brain takes over, we become a completely different style of lover. We become less inhibited and get drawn into the moment. If you have never experienced this before, then you are in for a treat.

Naughty girls play to our fantasies. They are the women that all men dream about having but never knew existed outside of movies. Men are beginning to understand that women love sex as much as they do. Yet we still have a lifetime of social programming telling us that it is something we have to convince you to do, a barrier we have to overcome to fulfill our needs. This has made men cautious.

Cautious in interacting with women
Cautious in confronting situations with women.
Cautious in the bedroom.

You know that fantasy where a man (maybe your man) comes in and completely has his way with you? He is dominant, forceful, and aggressive and just allows you to melt into ecstasy. A naughty girl can turn her man into that, but first, she has to show him that she wants that side of him and it is ok.

Yes, you could try to have a talk with him, but words are not the most effective way to reach that side of him. You can only reach it by building so much sexual tension in his mind that his rational brain loses out to his primal brain and triggers caveman mode. That is what a naughty girl does, and that is why men want her.

Men do not think less of a woman when she is naughty. They love her more for it. They love the fact that they have a woman that wants them. They have a woman that makes them feel wanted. They have a woman that has chosen them over all the other guys. Believe it or not, the naughty moments don’t have to happen all that often to leave an imprint on his mind.

I still think back to a day when I was leaving for work, and my girlfriend at the time told me not to go. She wasn’t seriously trying to stop me, but as I was leaving, she grabbed two of my fingers and sucked on them for a few seconds. It drove me crazy, haunted my thoughts for the rest of the day, and I was speeding back home after work. Here is the interesting thing about it; that was 5 years ago!

Very few men have had these types of experiences because very few women actually do them. Yes, every relationship has its sexy moments, but naughty moments are different. They come out of nowhere and linger in your mind. They are the ones that stick in your head and create memories. If you want your man to think about you all day, then give him something to think about!

I would love to hear your comments on this from both men and women.

If you are interested in how to become naughty, my book "The Naughty Girl Playbook" is free on Amazon today. I would appreciate any feedback you have!

 

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I think you have hit that one out of the ball park.

 

I have to agree with everything you said! My lady is the cute innocent girl next door type that you would never know has that naughty side to her. She is very naughty though and I love it. She does so many things for me that I could never even imagine before her. In return I do everything I can to make sure she lives a positive happy life herself. I do also desire and think about her every moment of everyday and want her like no other.

 

They want naughty girls because the good girls see right through their bullshit and want nothing to do with them.

 

Happy to see I'm on the right track!

 

Everything you said is golden!
Have been trying to preach this to every women i dated. Some wored, some dont. Working on one right and sometimes its a hit and miss.
Nothing like being teased, or getting into bed while your woman surpises you with her mouth over your dick.

Keep it up and love to hear more posts on this!!

 

yeah.. girls who are bad are hawt as shytt. The trick is finding one whos bad as fuck but never bad to you. That can be a tricky one.

 

Why do men want a naughty girl - because we like or would like to have them do things with or to us that we want to experience or haven't yet. They should dominate us & so we get to see just how far they are willing to go sexually in different acts with us.
I like the idea of having a naughty girl seduce me in either the way she or I chose.

 

Because its fun being naughty......anyone care to disagree!

***Just Playin****

 

No, I don't disagree at all. The more they can do & or are wiiling to try sexually, the better. The naughtier they are wanting to be, the better !

 

Just when I was about to ask who's alter this was, cause no newbie would make a 1st post like this... but I now see the light :sunny:

 

My wife can be as naughty as she wants to be. I love it when she's a dirty girl. She's sexy as hell. Give me a naughty woman over a virgin any day mate!

 

What do you guys consider naughty? I never know what people mean when they use this term (except for a broken sphincter maybe)...

 

Depending on who you ask you'd be surprised at the variety of definitions. For some people it is your wife sucking on your fingers for a few seconds before work. For other people it is having 30+ partners at the same time and not using protection, gangbangs and gloryholes. It's completely subjective, because it has to do with your ideas of "proper behavior". It's a spectrum of kink and it's up to you to figure out what gets you there and what goes too far. Maybe for you naughty is public displays of affection that go a little further than kissing, or maybe you're into hardware like handcuffs and whips, or maybe you're really into toys, or power games, or maybe certain orifices do it for you. Or all of the above.

According to OP "naughty girls" are those that know how to build anticipation and know how to seduce. Under that definition I am dating a very naughty girl. Under other people's definitions on this forum she is extremely conservative Personally I think in this day and age unless there are cultural or religious factors at play, an open minded adult has no excuse to not know the basics of seduction and anticipation.

 

And the good girls get to know about it...

 

This was great! I have learned quite a bit from just this one dissertation. It doesn't bother me that an excellent post ended with a plug for a FREE book. In fact, I'm going to get it to read on my Kindle post haste.

Thanks for sharing.

 

Well I'm a very naughty girl. Guys tell me I'm sexy and hot and very naughty. I've just always been that way. I just love sex I can't get enough. Trouble is I have only found a couple of guys who can have sex for hours at a time. I finally have found a guy who is my match sexually and I'm marrying him.

 

^lol.

 

The sex is more interesting. That's the object of going into it in the first place so we want to have someone who's likely to make it worthwhile