Women's reactions when they find out you are bi?

Hey all, I was curious as to the reactions you get from women when they find out you are bisexual? As someone who only "came out" several years ago, at first I was hesitant to be up front with it, until I became more comfortable with it. Now, I am fully open about it.

However, I find I get a wide range of reactions from women when I share it with them. Middle-aged/older women seem to still be more traditional and not really supportive. Although, I am finding that ones that are divorced and rediscovering themselves are a little more open mided.

But, the younger generation seems much more open to up, more supportive. Even a lot of them are very excited when they find out and confess that it turns them on, in the same way that us men get turned on by bi women. I get a lot of them telling me they wish more men would be open to it.

Anyhow, curious what others are seeing?

 

In my case, it is only my wife that knows I am bisexual. As far her feelings, as the saying goes.......

It's complicated.

When she and I started dating, I had a relationship already with a gay friend of mine that had been going on for a few months. At one point when we were together, she asked me with a noticeable twinkle in her eyes, "Have you ever experimented with him?"

I said, no, but perhaps I should have admitted at that point, or not.

I wasn't very discrete in hiding my relationship with him while we were dating, and neither was he. So, she knew, but was in denial.

Several years into our marriage she asked me straight out, "Have you ever been with a man?" So I admitted yes, and she got upset.

A few years later when we were moving out of out first home, we walked through the empty house reminiscing. We stopped in the family room and she said, "The first time you were ever fucked in the ass..........by me." She was fucking me with a strapon often then. When she fucked me with the strapon, she would ask if I liked the feeling "of tits on my back."

When I started traveling for business regularly, she said she didn't call me at night because I might "have company."

Another time, when she found a trail of some of my "activities" while traveling for business she hissed me on her most demeaning voice,

"I know you blow black men in your hotel room when you are away." Truth be told, she sparked my interest there.

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I had a constant hard on after that exchange from knowing that she knew of my activities. Sometimes she would rattle off all the cities I had encounters in while I was away.

So, it's complicated, and contradictory at times.

 

As an addendum,

My wife did say one time that she would have reconsidered marrying me if she knew that I was bisexual. But again, she knew when we were dating and married, but was in denial.

I had an ex girlfriend that told me a few times that I would have been a hot item with gay men because if my tight ass. I hadn't discovered my bisexuality yet, so I wasn't into men at the time. She did ask me outright once "Are you gay?" So, I'm not sure where her head was at from all of that.

 

My story is a little different. I have been a bisexual since the 80's. From the time my best friend decided to watch porn and jerk off in front of me. We had both had a mouthful of each others cum shortly after that.

Fast forward 10 years, my friend and I are still secretly blowing each other and I'm about to marry my 2nd wife. I'm not so much skipping the first wife as leaving her out because she didn't know and is otherwise irrelevant. With my 2nd wife, she didn't know either, at first. Sex was the one thing wife #2 and I had right. I mean, all 12 years, start to finish. We even fucked the day I moved out. Anyway, that's not really relevant either.

So wife 2 and I were sexually "adventurous". We had a couple of FMF threesomes, which I definitely didn't mind, and when we started talking about a MFM threesome, I suggested my friend, who she knew, just as my friend. She didn't have to think too long and agreed. So without going into intimate detail, yet anyway, we had MFM threesomes with my friend on a regular basis for about a year, just focusing on her. He and I were still a secret. It was during this time I discovered how hot it made me to watch someone else fuck my wife, especially when he has her cumming her brains out. That was a fetish I didn't see coming, but there it was.

Like I said, after about a year of MFM (and even a MMFM one time), the three of us were together, naked and doing what we did. My friend was sitting on the couch and my wife was riding his cock with her back to them. So not only did I have a very clear view, I put my face down there to lick her clit while he fucked her. His cock so close to my mouth was making me crazy, but I continued to pleasure her. At some point, he slipped out of her, and out of, I guess, instinct? I grabbed his cock like it was my own to slip it back into her but my wife was looking down at me with my friends cock in my hand with a dirty little grin. Looked like an invitation to me, so I slid his cock all the way down my throat in one long slurp. There was a couple of comments to the effect of "that is NOT the first time you've done that" were thrown at me, but they were said good naturedly and then we got back to it. Sort of.

We never changed positions but instead of her, it was his cock I had in my mouth and I was slurping off every bit of my wife's flavor. She played with herself while she looked down at me sucking his cock. When she heard his breathing change and knew he was about to cum in my mouth, her hand started moving faster and in a few seconds, he was unloading a bucketload in my mouth and I swallowed down every drop. She orgasmed as I was swallowing his load. As I had before, I got a few more comments about how I "definitely had done that before" after watching me swallow all that cum, and without gagging. That night ended with her riding my face while he sucked every last drop out of me. Once again, she orgasmed as I was releasing my load into his mouth.

She thought it was the hottest thing ever, and after a few hundred more MFM with my friend over the next 6 years of my marriage, she was regularly the odd man out, and she didn't mind at all.

I said 6 years because it was then we got divorced for reasons completely unrelated to our sex life.

That was 16 years ago and I haven't found another one since, BUT, best friend and I still get together to this day. He was here yesterday. With a stint in the Marine Corps, 2 wives, 1 child and clinical depression with anxiety, we're still sucking each other's cocks 43 year later. We have cum with each other miles more than we have with any amount of woman combined. Now that's loyalty.

As for wife 2, I'm afraid I had a unicorn and let it escape.

 

Wow, that is a very hot story. You are very fortunate that you still have your best friend for a FWB. My friend that introduced me to gay sex and I were an item for six years, which was a year into my marriage to my wife. Unfortunately he died suddenly and I lost a very close friend and lover. But my wife has said that had he lived, she and I would be divorced.

Your second wife does indeed sound like a unicorn. Wow, to be with a woman that enjoyed being with multiple men, and also just watch you with your friend is absolutely amazing. I've only had one experience that was anywhere near that.

Too bad you haven't found another wife, but you still have your best friend, and it sounds like that will continue indefinitely.

Treasure that relationship. I'm sure that you do.

 

thanks for the stories. But I am actually more intrigued as to reactions from female friends, colleagues, acquaintances, etc. Obviously with a spouse or girlfriend, it is a different dynamic, but what do you all hear from the general population of ladies?

 

From no reaction to being surprised to being totally offended and pissed off and, no, this isn't a wife or girlfriend - just women that I'd meet and the conversation we had got really deep and personal and especially if I was trying to get into their panties. In this, I'd say the most reactions I got were those of being surprised - I don't look like the type - to being offended and, shit, I don't think that I'll ever figure out exactly why they got offended but I had learned to make it clear to women to not ask me questions they don't want to hear the answers to. They want the truth? The truth is that I'm bisexual. One that has probably sucked more dick than they have - sucked and swallowed.

The ones who were offended didn't seem to understand the reality involved; instead, they wanted to believe the lie that men who have sex with other men are gay, and straight dudes don't suck dick.

 

it's funny isn't it? Once you break it down logically to them, often they are less surprised and they then totally get it. But then others just remain close minded and offended.

 

What I learned is their reaction isn't coming from their intelligence - it's an emotional response and one of the reasons they don't get it is that logic doesn't fair well against such a strong emotional response. I have explained my sexuality as eloquently logical as I can manage to do and so that, logically, anyone can understand what I've said and those women have said, "Yeah, but..." and whatever they say after that is emotional, not logical. What this means is that, yes, they understood what I said about being bisexual and how I am... but here comes something that logic can't do a damned thing about.

Some women get it. Some women are actually excited by it. Some women are indifferent and, yeah, a lot of them get offended. I've explained that when I want to suck dick, women don't have one. It's not personal; it has nothing to do with you or any sexual desire for you since, um, if you let me in those panties, you'll find out that my sexual desire for you (and women) is very much intact. It has nothing to do with your cocksucking skill - and even if you're one of those women who do not and will not suck a guy's dick. It is, however, something I discovered way before I even knew you existed and I've been like this all of my life so I don't know why you're offended and the worst part?

Most women can't explain why they're offended. It's both funny and inexplicably insane.

 

The first woman I came out to as bi was a lesbian friend of mine: she not only totally accepted me, but said she was not surprised at all.

The next woman was my yoga instructor, whom I made a sexual advance to a couple weeks before coming out to her. Things were moving towards our having sex, and, since I had been falling in love with her over the last year, I made the determination to come out to her about my huge history with guys, before we had sex, because I felt that it would not only be unfair to her to not know where my mouth and cock have been, but if the relationship went to where I hoped it would, it would hurt her tremendously to learn after the fact about my bisexuality and that I have had a lot of sex with guys. It was the hardest thing I've ever had to do, but she accepted me, as long as my days with guys was over.

But during our many breaks, all initiated by her, with each one in my mind being permanent, causing me a tremendous amount of grief, I masturbated a lot to gay porn. She always came begging to get back together, and I always said yes. But one time she found out about my gay Tumblr account and my posting a lot of gay stuff on it during our last break, and she was not okay with that, even though she was always fucking other guys during our breaks, which she always seemed to love telling me about. In fact, with one of the guys they were even looking at rings (she was very eager to get married again with some guy, despite already having had two husbands before). But I never hooked up with a guy during our breaks: it was just online stuff.

Eventually in the last few months of our 3 year rollercoaster relationship, she just wanted to be friends with benefits because I was clearly not interested in getting married. While she was dating and fucking other guys, I was continuing my masturbation to gay porn and posting on my Tumblr. When I could no longer orgasm while fucking her without imagining it was another guy's ass that I was fucking, I knew our days were numbered. Four months later I broke up with her for our final time, just before Covid hit. I was so overjoyed to finally be free to fuck guys again, and really be exclusively with men alone, maybe even finding a boyfriend. But the lockdowns interfered with that, dammit!

Over the next few years I then came out as gay, or mostly gay, to a number of female friends, and they all accepted me, and have never treated me differently. I have other female friends and relatives who might react differently. During my relationship with the yoga instructor, I did come out to my female psychiatrist, but even though she is accepting, I don't think she is super comfortable when I talk to her about any of it. Overall, until I have a boyfriend, should that ever happen, and therefore while it just remains sexual, I won't be coming out to the majority of my friends and relatives.

 

Thank you, Sir. I was lucky. For a while anyway.