Age Differences

Discussion in 'True Love' started by rubytuesday, Apr 7, 2006.

  1. RandomDrunkGuy

    RandomDrunkGuy Member

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    I only see it as a problem when people who are fully grown, start going with people who are still going through puberty. Once yer body is done maturing, I really don't much of a problem with it.
     
  2. Alternative_Thinker

    Alternative_Thinker Darth Mysterious

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    Right, as long as the both parties are happy with the relationship, age doesn't matter. It's the society's stance on the age issue that makes the whole thing seem like such a horrible thing, rather than the age differences themselves.
     
  3. RandomDrunkGuy

    RandomDrunkGuy Member

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    So.... If a 13 year old dates a 30 year old, it would be okay if they are "in love"?
     
  4. Alternative_Thinker

    Alternative_Thinker Darth Mysterious

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    Provided that two parties genuinely love each other, as opposed to a typical quote-unquote version of "love"... Then yes, that is exactly what I'm saying.
     
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  5. fritz

    fritz Heathen

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    I think 13, & 30 is a bit too much of a difference.
    I was with a 24 year old when I was sixteen. What's done is done...I definetly wasn't emotionally prepared for it. :/
     
  6. Kinky Ramona

    Kinky Ramona Back by popular demand!

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    My boyfriend is almost 4 years older than me. He's 23, I'm 19 (I'll be 20 before he turns 24, hence the almost, lol). Anyway, sometimes the age difference is really apparent. I'm in the point of my life when I'm just realizing how hard the world sucks and he's been there, done that. I've definitely had to grow up way faster than most 19 year olds in the past year. It's been hard, really hard sometimes. Just because I'm having a hard time letting go of my childhood and he left his behind a long time ago. But I do bring out the little boy trapped in his heart sometimes and it's nice...I think we've both been really good for each other. He's there to let me know when I'm being a brat and I'm there to keep him from being too adult. Hehe.
     
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  7. 332209

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    not more than 5 years
     
  8. DC Morgan

    DC Morgan Member

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    A friend of mine - 25, female - is seeing a guy that's 46. She was the one pursuing him. I was sceptical to begin with, until I saw them together. She's an old soul, he's young at heart yet sophisticated. When they're together, it's obvious to everyone they're a perfect match. I think if the connection is there - mentally, sexually... - age doesn't matter.
     
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  9. Libertine

    Libertine Guru of Hedonopia

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    Age only counts if the person is not mentally or psychological capable of being aware and understanding what exactly it is that they are consenting to. But, then it's not really "age" at all, but the mental capacity of a person that matters.

    Some people "get it" at 15. Others "get it" at 40.

    Because of laws, however, one must wait until the legal A.O.C. whether they "get it" or not. This is the cause of such ridiculous laws as "statutory rape" which makes a MOCKERY out of the victims of REAL rape.

    Other than all that, AGE MEANS SQUAT. And if you are of the mind it does matter, and you call a 25 year old with a 50 year old "wrong", then you are a social-conditioned bigot.

    Loser.

    Have a nice day.:)
     
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  10. DC Morgan

    DC Morgan Member

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    Amen. :sunglasse
     
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  11. .Hannah.

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    Sounds like someone's a little bitter. What's name-calling going to do?

    I'm in a relationship where there's a 40 year difference. I will tell you that age impacts significantly.

    There's a massive difference between denial, and accepting or understanding differences in generation gaps.
     
  12. dances in pajamas

    dances in pajamas strange little girl

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    Age is like gender; love is blind to it. There may be some serious clashes, but loving a person many years you senior or junior is more than possible. I know couples who are nearly 20 years apart and are blissfully happy, with children and all.
     
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  13. paperdoll075

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    i'm rather young...under 20 to give you an idea. i've only ever had relationships with guys in their 20's. quite somewhat older than me. The problems i have had are purely associated with my age & society and not related to the relationship. This might not even apply here. BUT point is, i only see older guys and i've never had a problem within the relationship.
    Works just fine for me.
     
  14. TheMechanic

    TheMechanic The chicken LUVER!

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    most states have passed laws whereby just because the male is older than the stautory age, they are not held to criminal prosecuation so long as the age difference between the two persons is less than 6 years seperation....

    I know Florida is now like that BECAUSE of the rash of bull$hit cases that were going through court...
     
  15. spaceman spliff

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    I'm 23, and I met a girl.. she immediately struck me as the most down to earth, mature, intelligent girl that I have met in a very long time, possibly ever.. then I found out she was 16.

    Now, initially it freaked me out, but this girl has gone through more than I thought anyone of her age could go through.. and I'm finding myself falling for her..

    What do you guys think? My only issue with it is the fact that people will probably look at me as "taking advantage" of her, but that's not it at all.. I've had people tell me "what, you can't get a girl your own age? loser" but that's not it either.. I've been with girls older and younger than me, and I've realized that the only important thing is who the person is...

    I make my own decisions, I just want to hear what other people's opinions are
     
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  16. MBintheOC

    MBintheOC We're all mad here..

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    on the situation. My bf is 52 & we get along good, but I do feel that at times, he treats me like his son as we're close in age. Our major problem is that he's married which means we probably won't ever be together...which sux as he lives in London & the only way I can stay w/him is as an unmarried partner or as a spouse...which obviously, we can't do. He also has no job as he lives off his mother & his wife's money & you have to prove to the immigration people your sponsor has money coming in & a place to live (the house is his mother's). However, if you're both single, have work, a place to live & get along good, then of course it'll work out, at least in my opinion.:)
     
  17. Gypsy_girl

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    Speaking from experience (my bf and I have a 16 and a half year age gap, I'm younger), relationships with large age gaps can work. We'e been together 3 years and things are fine.

    I say it depends on the age s of the people involved (that one isn't under age etc), and how much they have in common and how compatible they are as to whether or not the relationship will last.
     
  18. R. August Croen

    R. August Croen Member

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    When I was in my late teens and through my twenties, I liked older women, in the 35 to 40 range. Now that I'm 47, I find I like younger women, in the 35 to 40 range.

    The more things change, the more they stay the same. [​IMG]
     
  19. mr. thizzelle

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    My parents were 20 years apart and their marriage fell to pieces... I can't talk from personal experience cuz I'm only 7 days older than me mate.
     
  20. _orgazmik_

    _orgazmik_ o_O

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    Wow, that's interesting.
     

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