Confused.

Discussion in 'Coming Out and Confused!' started by TheBigC, Jun 29, 2010.

  1. TheBigC

    TheBigC Member

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    I wouldnt consider myself gay.
    But... i masturbate to any kind of porn, generally gay porn but i wouldnt dream of doing it in real life, and have had normal straight sexual experiences... so would i be considered gay just because i jack off to gay porn?
     
  2. squibbles

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    In my opinion your only gay if you think your gay. Otherwise it's just experimenting.
     
  3. DaveTheBiGuy

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    I'm bisexual (and married) and masturbate to gay porn. My wife doesn't mind, and even occasionally watches it with me. That doesn't mean I'm any less attracted to women. I could NEVER give up women. Watching gay porn is a safe outlet to "act" on my desires.

    My wife ISN'T against my bisexuality (she's also bisexual), but she wants to be included if I were to persue something with another guy. While I'm not opposed to sharing my wife with another guy (I actually really like the idea), My bisexuality (attraction to men) isn't about her, just like her bisexuality isn't about me. I've been nothing but understanding, supportive, and even encouraged her to act on her bisexual needs/desires if she needed/wanted to (and she has), without my involvement. I would just like the same understand, support and encouragement from her... Because just like her, I get different needs and desires met depending on wether I'm with a woman (Her. I have no desire to be with another woman) or a man.

    I think my wife's biggest "problem" with my bisexuality (other than a bit of jealousy) is that she knows I like being romantic/intimate (kissing, making out, cuddling, holding hands, showering together) with guys (whereas most bisexual guys are only want the sex), and she looks at it as being a little "less gay" if she's involved. She also knows I'm not the type to hook up with just anyone (there has to be something there), and I honestly think she's afraid of the possibility of losing me to a guy.

    So since we're at a stalemate as far as me persuing anything with another guy, I've resorted to watching gay and transsexual porn frequently as a way to act on my needs/desires.

    My guess would be that if you enjoy masturbating to gay porn, then your at least bicourious (and wouldn't actually mind a little guy on guy action once and a while, and there's nothing wrong with that either.
     
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  4. laserbush23

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    After reading your story, I think it has helped me a lot. thanks
     
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