How do you handle rude people?

LOL....Mrs. selfish Heffa.....Can you imagine? She used to go to all of the sales and do that, and some sales have banned her from doing that, so she does not really go to those any more, but this sale never banned her from doing that.....so I would walk by and grab what she didn't swoosh into her bag....like the odd jewelry box or expensive perfume on my way to concentrate on another area of the sale......My mom taught me well. She would drag me to rummage sales all the time, and i would hate going to them, but she taught me what to do....i can pretty much eyeball a rack or table in a hurry and zone in on something quickly.....or run my hand down the racks of clothes to feel for cashmere...I am so tuned into whatever I set my mind to...It is like a sport. I go not out of hunger, but it is fun and I love finding that unexpected treasure.....always.

Thanks, mom.....lol

 

but I think rudeness does not bother me as much as a mean spiritedness does......Mean spiritedness is that....rudeness can be overlooked at times, as sometimes people do not realize they are being rude, and it can be unintentional....Mean spiritedness is intentional....so it is a little different.

I never hated the lady at the rummage sale.....She talked to me a lot and was friendly as we waited on line...as i usually did show up an hour later and second behind her......i knew what to expect with her after the first few times....and in a way, i felt sorry for her.

 

Love it

 

That's it, you nailed it exactly. It's not entirely rudeness. Like someone cuts you off on the highway, that's rude. But, it could be accidental. Meanness, that's different. That's what I'm thinking of. But, then I'm reminded of the adage ''be kind to everyone, for everyone is fighting some type of battle.'' My mom says that a lot. So, it's hard to become too cynical when you think of it like that. lol

 

He believed all the wacky shit he posted. Every bit of it.

 

Why did you feel sorry for her?

 

there's really no simple answer to this. like others have already said, it depends entirely on context. typically i just ignore it, but i do have a bit of a temper if someone pushes the right buttons. what those buttons are can be kind of random, as well as depending on other outside factors.

i do not remember you being banned. they usually hide bannings pretty well, so if you weren't around for a few days i probably just assume you just weren't around for a few days.

i always wondered what happened to him too. he was here, making interesting posts and generating traffic, and then suddenly he wasn't posting anymore and eventually i saw that he was banned. he was definitely a little out there, but i never saw him being any more rude and insulting than half the people who post here all the time. this is one reason i don't like that all posts leading to a banning get deleted; if there was evidence that someone was an asshole then i could possibly support banning them, but if any bad behavior of the banned is hidden from public view, it just makes it look like power tripping mods.

it also seems pretty hypocritical to ban anyone for spreading fake news, when most of the threads on here could be considered to fall under that heading.

 

I appreciated HF taking a stand and not tolerating the spread of medical related misinformation. Its easy enough to laugh at someone like David and not take him seriously but people do take false medical information seriously all the time and it can be detrimental to public health. Dude tried to say cancer wasnt even real didnt he?

I didnt really mind him though, he was super out there but entertaining

 

You opened it, dude!

 

That's because you didn't prove him wrong several times.

I agree with both these points. I even argued for it back then with mods. Don't close threads and delete posts when other users complain about them. Just give the culprit a proper warning.
But btw: we're not supposed to discuss this in a public thread...

 

Yep. We have our bad days and can at times come off as rude without meaning to. But a person who is constantly being insulting or rude without you doing anything to them is a different matter. Likely a reflection of how they feel about themselves. Projecting their own misery onto you. How i handle that differs from situation. But it helps realizing that its more likely to be about themselves and not really about you.

 

i guess it depends on what you mean by rudeness.
to me it means harassment.
i have anxiety issues and i'm paranoid of that.

otherwise you know, if i could be completely calm about it,
i'd go alone with what lode posted.

or as we used to say at time parties and other such sciffy events:
champagne for our real friends,
and real pain for our shame friends.

 

Sometimes I feel sorry for pathetic behavior, if I am in a generous mood. other days, not so much.

 

You've been foruming with us yanks too much, dude.

 

I'm not your dude, buddy!



But yes, guilty as charged

 

People are rude to me all the time. I've learned to just let it slide. I can't see as anything hinges on it. My problem is that others are just too simple minded. Typically impressed by things like money and fancy clothes and what not. It seems there is no consensus where I am concerned. Some people are highly respectful and others very disappointingly disrespectful. I'm certainly never going to try to fit in now that I've seen how phony people are for the most part, though. I'll do just fine on the outside of society, thank you very much. What a disappointment.

 

I agree. very disappointing and I am disappointed by many things. i had high hopes for more real outcomes...Silly me.

In real life, I do know know who I am dealing with right off the bat, so it is easier......and I can weed people out more quickly and just deal with people I believe in. It is too easy to get fooled on the internet, though.

 

people who are rude to each other all the time,
then wonder why the universe is picking on them.

(it isn't. dumb m'f'rs kicking their own asses and don't even know it.
i mean does it really take rocket science for them to figure out?)