She loves receiving oral but doesn't like giving it!

Hey, it's been a while since I posted but in speaking with my guy friend who is involved with the girl only for mutual satisfaction he mentioned that he was getting a little fed up with the girl because although he loves going down on her he said that in the 4 or 5 years since they have been involved she has probably only gone down on him twice and then it was only for a minute or so. He said that when he asks for one she'll usually say something like "we'll see." That usually ends up being a no when they meet. But on the contrary, when they meet he said he'll go down on her so long until she'll cum multiple times before they actually fuck. Again, her man doesn't do it like my friend. He said that he asked her recently for some head and she said she doesn't like doing it. This is a two fold question. (1) Guys, what do you think about a woman who enjoys receiving head but never returns the favor? And (2) ladies, how would you take it if your guy, who loves orally pleasing you, stopped all of a sudden because you wouldn't go down on him? Or he greatly pulled back on how long he orally pleases you? I guess in this case he's not her man so maybe she feels no obligation to putting his dick in her mouth but she has no problem putting her pussy in his mouth and even asking him to keep going till she cums a few more times. He said he asked her why she doesn't really like doing it and she hasn't answered but I'm pretty sure she's polishing her man's know on the regular.

A few weeks ago he said that she hit him up asking for $20 to get her son his school haircut and he sent it to her. She then asked him last week to run her to her job so she doesn't lose it or to put her time in or something. He couldn't do it because he was at work himself but he said that she's always asking for extra stuff. Sometimes he'll help her out, others he won't. $20 here or there to buy food for her kids, etc. I told him she's not buying food or probably didn't need her son's haircut. She was probably buying weed or she gave the money to her man.

Are there women who love receiving oral but prefer not to give it?

Guys, would you continue to deal with a woman who loves oral on her but preferred not to give it to you?

 

When I was much, much younger I went with a girl for a couple months. After we fooled around the first time and I had gone down on her, she made the announcement "I'll never put my mouth on anything you piss out of." Being the randy, late-teenager I was, that put the damper on that "relationship".
Fast forward to now in my late 50s, I don't think I would give what I won't receive. Maybe that makes me selfish, but "do as I say not as I do" doesn't fly with me for anything.

 

I had a similar fuck buddy partner, she was a bit of a prude but LOVED having her pussy eaten, she'd never received oral prior to me and i could make her cum easily. However when it came to returning the gesture much like porno_lurker "i don't give blowjob cause thats dirty" well i finally said fuck it and quit eating her pussy and i'd just fuck her and send her on her way. It didn't take long for her to change her mind and realize i suck his dick i get my pussy eaten.

 

We are all different. I love to eat pussy, my gf loves it when I do it. She doesn't owe me anything for that! If she doesn't enjoy sucking dick, that's a different matter. We can just fuck and I'll still eat her pussy. I wouldn't cut off my nose to spite my face by quitting eating her out. I love to do it!

 

I love to go down on my wife. I enjoy the whole experience: taste, aroma, feel. I also like it when she sucks my cock, but it is not nearly as enjoyable for me because I know she doesn't really enjoy it, partly because she had some bad oral experiences with other men. Bottom line, if she never sucked my cock again it would be okay with me, as long as I can continue to go down on her and fuck her.

 

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Sexual stigma’s and hang up’s are all over the place.
There is always someone claiming “I had a bad experience or I was in a abusive relationship”. Or I don’t like the taste.
I think it boils down to trust and acquiring an appetite for giving and receiving oral. For us it is a very natural form of sex.
Personally, I need a woman that understands that oral is just as enjoyable to me as it is to her. I don’t think I could just do oral on her and fuck her. That would become boring and one sided My wife is fascinated by the male anatomy and loves dick and loves to do oral.

 

That's what I don't understand. Girls love to say how dirty a man's dick is and how they'd never put it in their mouth but they have no problem putting it in their pussies. "Pee comes out of that!" Well so does cum and isn't that the ultimate goal? Granted, a woman doesn't "technically" pee from her vagina but it's not like we're licking her vagina and she pees from her armpit either. It's the same area. And not every girl is clean. My question to you is this. Did you gradually stop going down on her or just stop cold turkey? How'd that discussion go? "You not going to go down on me?" "Nope, bend over." OR, did you spell it out for her.

 

Do you never want a little something in return?

 

You've gotta put your face down there at least to see if there's a smell. He said that blow jobs aren't that big to him but getting one every now and again would be nice. Again, in the 4 or 5 years since they've been hooking up she's probably attempted it twice and then he said she only did it for about a minute. He said he wasn't trying to ram it down her throat or grab her head or anything. He just laid back and let her do her thing. A minute later she was done.

 

I agree with you 100%, it is about trust. They have been gong at it for a number of years and if she hasn't mustered up enough trust in him by now what is she waiting for? Granted, he's not her man and I guess she "technically" doesn't have any obligation to do that for him. But how can a woman let a man constantly go down on her time after time and then ask him to keep going so she can cum a few more times without at least returning the favor once in a while? She trusts him enough to let him fuck her raw and nut in her. She's on birth control. But she doesn't trust him enough to go down on him once in a while.

 

I do get something in return. After I've gotten her breathing hard from eating her out I get to fuck her! To me sex isn't on the barter system. It's about giving and receiving pleasure and respecting our partners limits. In my case she actually will suck my dick, but if she wasn't comfortable doing it I would respect that. I would still enjoy eating her pussy so I'd still do it for both of our pleasure. How would you feel if your woman said, "If you want me to swallow, you'll have to go down on me after you cum in me, it's only fair. If she's swallowing for you what do you do in return?

 

I've never been with a woman who would not suck my cock. I have never been with a woman who I did not go down on.
Oral sex is reciprocal, period.

 

Thanks for straightening us out. Now we know the rules. Everyone has to be exactly like you, period!

 

You're welcome.

 

I might or might not go for that, but my point is we're all different, I'm sure some people would have no problem with that situation. She may have had me over for dinner and bought me nice gifts. If I choose to always pay for dates, that's my choice. If I choose to eat her out, that again is my choice, if she choose to go down on me that's her choice and one is not necessarily dependent on the other. Maybe you should always do a 69 to keep the score even. Just my opinion and no one has to agree.

 

A couple gals in my life I met who stated they won't give head... I never saw them again.
If they are selfish about that... then they are selfish about everything else as well.

 

You are so lucky in that your wife lets you go down on her eventhough she is not comfortable with giving you oral. Many years ago my wife let me go down on her occasionally, but now days she wouldnot.

 

I know a few that feel it’s demeaning to suck a mans dick.

 

So it demeaning to eat a woman's pussy? I kind of like doing it!