Torn Between Jealousy And Desire For Wife To Fuck Other Men

Thank you for the info! I appreciate that!

 

There is absolute no jealousy with me knowing my wife has a few playmates that please her when I travel. She and I are totally accepting of it and its very exciting knowing these men are very clean and they too have been in long term marriages and simply put they too find fucking the same pussy to be quite boring. even the wife said the variety was good for her too. We often have one of them for our 3some fun. Its quite exciting to see her squirting all over another mans cock and balls . Watching her get all jacked up sucking a man to completion is also awesome.

 

The original poster hasn’t been here seen since 2016, but it is still a good topic. That said, jealousy is a very negative emotion. One should not think they own another person. That’s slavery and bad behavior. It’s OK to be fully vested in a relationship. Even still, a person has a relationship with their body and what it needs sexually. It’s interpersonal, and you don’t own the other person’s sexual desires either. So, you shouldn’t try to control it. You are only in control of your desires.
I will never understand how a couple could have a healthy sexual relationship without good communications. Listening, really hearing, and deeply understanding the views of the other person on a life journey into their sexuality is essential. Jealousy is a relationship killer, but “compersion” is the direct opposite.
My wife and I practice compersion every day. It is a mindset that is centered around having joy, when your spouse or partner is able to experience sex with others, and you as well. Read about it together. Study it. Practice it in your daily life together. Compersion goes far beyond just sex. It is life changing.

 

Agreed but jealousy does infect many lives . Fortunately not mine .

 

I think the jealousy is part of the spice. Yes there can be jealousy but it is balanced by the lust.

Before she sees her lover she will get me to kiss her pussy through her panties and say something like "you know he's going to be down there soon". There is always an ache of lust and jealousy. The lust wins and I desperately want him to fuck her, make her cum and most of all ejaculate into her. But there is jealousy, as she opens her legs for him and she sighs as he enters her for the first time.

 

EXACTLY! A very potent cocktail of emotions. Lust jealousy arousal insecurity. It’s all part of the game.

 

The Mrs went with her friend to Atlantic City for the weekend. They are both bi so i figured they would fool around. Anyway I had my two fbs lined up for fun which i did. So she called me from a nightclub in one of the hotels as three guys were making the moves. Then i did not hear from her till the ext afternoon. Turns out one took her friend to his room for the night and the mrs had the other two take turns with her till the next late morning. while one recovered, the other one would do her and so on. When she came home, we fucked for a few hours. Her pussy was well stretched and smelled like condoms while there was some cum in her pussy hair, and her hair. She said the older guy who was about 65 and overweight had a nice cock but she thought her was gonna pass out fucking her power pussy. The other guy was about her age 50 and muscled but really didn’t know what he was doing. Anyway it was great for her and me too since i fucked also lol.

 

Any man that thinks he might be jealousy, had better think twice, because once it's done you will never forget. For me it's been over 40 years, and I still have that vision in my mind. I have no regrets, but really couldn't since I was playing around, with other women. All this was before we tied the knot.

 

But the question is , even though you stated that you couldn't for your own reasons , did you have any feelings of jealousy when it first happened ? I know I didn't but we really don't know if we will until it happens . And , yes , you'll remember it for life . I do frequently and enjoy every minute of the memory .

 

I hope I can answer the question you pose, when you been married for almost 40 yrs one gets to thinking about damn I have to fuck that same pussy or suck that old dick. That is what the wife and I discussed a few yrs back and decided to open our home and bedroom to other men and or couples. Being Bi-sexual we both knew our desires and took appropriate measures to ensure we were both comfortable with our lifestyle.

As for me I am 60 yrs old and still have a huge sexual desire, she is 59 and still her pussy needs a hard cock. Its not uncommon for us to attend swinger parties and she is the life of the party, there is something inside me that says wow all these men want to fuck her!!!!!!!!! Watching another man fuck your wife is something you never forget, even in our private life we fuck a lot. but seeing her swallow another mans cum is incredible.

 

A little at first, she was enjoying it too much. but she looked over at me with a smile. from then on I was happen for her.

 

My wife and I had prepared ourselves for when the time came to be with another couple. No jealousy whatsoever. None. Just complete joy for one another. It was intoxicatingly sensual to watch him penetrate my wife. She then watched me up close fuck his wife. My wife was all smiles watching my cock stroke his wife’s wet pussy.

 

Our situation was a bit different. My wife and I started dating at 15 and went to different colleges after we graduated high school. Since I only saw her once or twice a month, it was only fair to let her to date others, which she did until the middle of her junior year. She told me later that she had sex with her dates on a regular basis until we were engaged. She said it was just sex, no emotional ties. Since she had shown that sex could be just a physical act for her, I gave her permission to fuck others as long as it was one date only, no friends, and she told me all about it. She did it a few times and then decided to stop. It worked for us, but maybe not for others.

 

If you are torn now, don't do it. The jealousy would only intensify if you went ahead with it. I seen many a 'strong couple' break up because of jealousy from swinging. Don't do it unless you are both 110% on board and rock solid. Even then you still need to think hard about doing it.

 

Calmerchamelen is 110% correct.

Jealous has no place in a swing or shared life. Period.. no place.
You can’t unsee what you will see. Your emotions “must” be in check. Read about “Compersion”.

 

It goes without saying, my gorgeous wife of 38 yrs is my rock for which our marriage is founded. That being said we have enjoyed an exceptional life of sex with others for those yrs. That being said we both play with others and always have, we are both bi which makes for some interesting events. Her 5’3 ft 115 lbs body is the playground for which many men have fun.

Further more her sexual exploits are the same as mine, she loves cock and pussy as I do, she has certain men and woman she pleases as I have as well. However when it come to our group sex that changes things a bit. There is a man who frequents our bed often, when I say often I mean almost every day and sometimes twice a day. I am not a Jealous guy but holy shit she beds him a lot. When I walk in and see him fucking her he never misses a beat, watching his 8 inch thick cock ramming her makes me hard and so I sit on the side of the bed and Jack off for what seems like an enternity until he fills her with his Jiz. Am I jealous or just an awkward cuck who enjoys watching her get her brains fucked out.

 

why? would the thpught of you wife sleeping with other guys be a turn on ? if that was the case why did you even marry her ? i get you love her and she loves you but is it you wantong it or her begging you to

 

There are many reasons why.

• Voyeurism and Exhibitionism - Some husbands are driven by this. Some wives get off exhibiting themselves to their husbands. They both get off watching two people have sex and what better way than with someone you know, the wife and a close friend or "bull". They know the wife will stay with the husband after the tryst is over and the bull leaves. A lot of the time this leads to the next reason.
• Sperm Competition - After watching their wife with another man, the husband is prompted biologically to have longer more vigorous sex and will orgasm harder than usual. He wants his seed to be what impregnates her. It's also called reclamation sex. They have a thing about reclaiming their turf or in this case their pussy.
• It's Taboo - There is a thrill that comes from this. It's an uncommon activity in society and the excitement of the forbidden and the naughty is what titillates them.
• Female empowerment - Husbands get off on their wife's independence, confidence, and/or assertiveness, that comes from her having sex with other men. They embrace, even encourage the wifes empowerment over them. it's not cuckolding which I explain next because there is no humiliation of the husband involved. Only pride for the wife.
• Cuckolding - The husband is treated as weak, lesser, and not a real man. Cuckolds often seek out a strong Sade-Masochism flavor, in which the husband is dominated, belittled, and degraded. They are totally humiliated by both the wife and her bull. Again it simply turns the husband on.
• Bisexuality - It can be a way for the husband to engage sexually with the man too. As the encounter continues the husband may be able to interact with the other man orally or offer his body for sex with the other man. The other man in the heat of passion can allow the husband to play with him as he is engaged with the wife.
• Health Issues - The husband may not be physically able to have intercourse. Often husbands feel the wifes loss of sexual intercourse deeper than the wife does and encourage the wife to sleep with other men for her satisfaction. This is called compersion which is included in many of the reasons here.
• The Wifes Sexual Fulfillment - She may have a sexual capacity that is greater than the husband. Her need with an extra cock available it pleases the husband to see their wives sexually satisfied that he as a husband can't match. Add another penis, tongue, and body to the bedroom action and it simply turns the husband on. It's another compersion reason.
• Financial - Yes believe it or not there are men who pimp their wives for the income it produces. A lot of the women working in Nevada's brothels have husbands at home who benefit from the wife having sex for pay. There are other couples who promote the wife in this manner or over the internet. They make porn videos of the wife having sex with other men and sell them.
• Trophy Wife - The husband gets a sense of being "special" with a wife who is so sexy that other men want to be with her. Ultimately the wife will come home to him, the husband, after meeting another man for sex. It make the husband feel powerful and successful that they have such a trophy wife.
• Misogyny - The husband wants the wife to have sex with other men so he can degrade her. These men treat the wife as a piece of meat coercing her to literally allow herself to be fucked by one or more men. It's backwards cuckolding as the wife is degraded this time. She also gets off being humiliated and used. A lot of times it is through a gang bang where men line up and fuck the wife many times over making a mess of her body.

 

But yet you are here! Just to pass judgement on others?