Bi men and aging

Well said, my friend.

Especially regarding m/m relationships where there is intimacy involved; IMHO, the DEEPER the emotional bond between the two men, the more INTENSE the sexual "bonding" will be.

Love, I am sure (in any given situation) comes in many guises; sometimes, it might be right at your doorstep, without you being fully aware of it.

Though I am a 65-year old (gay) man who is totally celibate, and have NEVER had ANY sort of sexual mm relationship with any other male, my best friend, who I worked with for several years, and who was like my brother, I had VERY intense sexual feelings for; he good-naturedly joked about it, and that was it (had we had a physical relationship as well, given my deep affection for him, it would have been BEYOND intense)

Life is far too short (IF you have the chance) not to experience a m/m relationship that is one that is long-lasting, solid, and REWARDING,

Though I know I never will experience ANY relationship, it gives me a good feeling inside to know at least SOME guys are lucky enough to be with another guy (even if only on a semi-regular basis) and can also enjoy the rewards of a close and intense "bromance", if you will.......

 

Aging, in all honesty, for ANY man (gay/bi/straight) is not a subject that makes for pleasant contemplation, by any means.

We, as a general rule, tend to look back on our younger days and contemplate situations we wish we could alter, and look forward to whatever the future holds for us with less than optimistic anticipation.

However, if we wake up each morning, with eyes to see, and with ears to listen, I think we older gents are far more fortunate than we realize..........

 

I, too, when I look into the mirror, I say to myself, "Who's this old gray guy I'm looking it?"

Man, talk about a REALTY check!

Oddly, I look much the same as I did 20 years ago (IMHO); I was NO Cary Grant, even then then!

I COULD color my hair and mustache, and maybe LOOK younger.......BUT, would that actually MAKE me younger?

Hell, no!

I'll STILL be the same old gray guy in his mid-60's, anyway.....who would I be kidding?

Then again, I've NEVER been a vain man, was NEVER handsome, in ANY sense of the word, so, I guess I'm sort of "stuck in neutral".

I like to joke about my age: "I'm 65, I look 75, and feel 85!"

Oh, well....at least I can make jokes about it.......(!!)

As "Mr. Spock" would say, "Live long and prosper!"

 

....in the immortal words of "Mr. Spock":

"Live long and prosper!"

 

In afraid I don't have the same emotional qualms about a huge age-gap. At 71 I find young and younger guys much more attractive and appealing than my own age group; although I did recently hook up twice with a very hot slim fit 59 year old.

I recently had a hot session with an 18 year old, and most of the guys I meet are in the 18-35 age group. I find the young guys today far less inhibited than we were at their age, and far more relaxed about their sexuality.

At the same time I know I would not have been interested in sex with a 71 year old when I was 18+ but many young guys actively like and seek older guys; and I'm honoured that I appeal to them.

Some will say that I am taking advantage or 'corrupting' young guys but they approach me. One example was the youngest I have ever been with who told me he had decided to go with guys on 31st December and I, on 7th January, was his seventh! I wasthe first he had fucked though! A lovely guy who knew his own mind and made his decision. I think it's also true that many people mature a lot earlier than in the past.

So in answer to you papa, if they find you attractive....and not just as a sugar-daddy.....relax, accept and enjoy. I find I relate much better to younger folk than to my own age group

Simon

 

Why thank u Papa, but not at all exceptional.

But thank u for your kind words.

Simon xx

 

Simon sez:

"Relax, accept, and enjoy".

WELL said!

Indeed, life is TOO short to enjoy to the fullest IF you have the chance and the good fortune.

Even though I have NO experience whatsoever with sexual relations, even I know that ANY sexual relationship between two men is going to be VERY INTENSE, to say the least, IF there is at least some sort of emotional "bonding" between partners.

We only live ONCE......IF luck is with you, AND you have the chance to "click" with other males of a like frame of mind, "go with the flow" and ENJOY!

"Live long and prosper"

 

I think it both sad and despicable that, today, in 2023, gay and bi men are still being traumatized, victimized, and attacked, simply because of who they are.

This most be especially be VERY difficult for gay/bi seniors.

Strange how double-standards works:

A STRAIGHT man with many female sex partners is hailed as a STUD by his misguided straight pals.

BUT, a GAY/BI man, even if he is in a "committed" relationship, is automatically branded a "degenerate", a "pervert", or worse.

If this demeaning bigotry is painful enough for a younger gay/bi man to have to deal with, just imagine the toll it takes on a senior gay/bi male.

Like the war on drugs, in all honesty, I doubt that bigotry and prejudice (of all kinds) will ever be abolished.

As long as the human race survives, rest assured prejudice and bigotry will be there as well.

All men like us can do is to stand straight, stand tall, and never relinquish our pride in ourselves, and be ever at the ready to help our brothers in need.......

"Live long and prosper"

 

Think about how much heartache, heartbreak, and grim determination a senior gay man has seen in his lifetime, going back to the Stonewall era.

Think of how homosexuality was once generally thought of as a severe mental disorder (sadly, far too many bigots STILL think this way)

I recall seeing a VERY disturbing "public awareness" ad from the 1950's (or early 60's) showing a man sitting on a park bench, while a group of boys played nearby.

The ad grimly intoned something along the lines of "the safety of your sons is at risk, in the presence of the disturbed predator known as the 'homosexual'.

That ad GREATLY disturbed me, after I first saw it somewhere (reproduced) years ago.

Take notice there was NO ad telling people that: "the safety of your daughters is at risk, in the presence of the disturbed predator known as the 'pedophile',"

I forgot......only GAY MEN are capable of molesting a child.

Sick, sad, and HIGHLY disturbing.....even more so that far too many narrow-minded bigots STILL believe this......

"Live long and prosper"

 

All this wisdom, now becoming clear to me in my relentless trudge into dotage, would have been wasted on me on my youth.

 

They often say, "with age comes wisdom".

These days, however, it would seem that simple common sense is, indeed, not as commonplace as it once was.

I think many of us look back at our past lives, and see how many mistakes we have made, and then, look towards the future with less than tangible optimism............

 

I’m “getting older” and I like how my mindset is changing. Because of work schedules, the wife and I don’t have sex very often anymore. I don’t want to find another woman, because women will eventually want an actual relationship. I found a guy that I like to hook up with that doesn’t want any kind of relationship. We hook up a couple times a week and I enjoy it. When you are younger and struggling to figure out whether being with another man is ok or moral or whatever, it’s nerve wracking. When you get older, you realize it’s just sex. Nobody has to find out what you are doing unless you want to tell them.

 

Well said.

For older bi married males, who have "fun" with other buds, the "relationship" could be well be described as a "bromance", or, perhaps, a "friendship with fringe benefits".

Regardless, be discreet, don't take any risks that you might regret in the future, and just enjoy "hooking up" with a like-minded buddy, and "go with the flow".......

"Live long and prosper"

 

Although I have had the occasional m2m experience during my life, it is only since reaching 60 that my sexual preference has change far more towards other men. I think that one of the main reasons is that by being a naturist I am in the company of many naked men, and am able to appreciate the male form more. Secondly, and I have no doubt,like other men my age, my sex life with my wife is on the wane .

 

From comments I have read on this board over the months, I have read that many bi men lean more and more to other males as they age.

Many married bi men here admit that their wives are no longer interested in sex; others look beyond the m/m sex aspect and also look to bond with other men, and develop a close emotional bond, something they can no longer get, in many cases, from their spouses.

As the great John Wayne once said:

"A man's gotta do what a man's gotta do"............

"Live long and prosper"

 

As I age I find that my preference is leaning towards men, older men to be specific . Men just want to privately play and get off, woman most likely are looking to keep things going via a relationship. Am I say I don’t want pussy anymore never, however I do have a few older woman that I service from time to time. But it was agreed upon that it’s all they want is a man to service them when needed. I do however have a regular buddy I spend a great deal of time with and he too is a long time married guy who enjoys the comforts and confidence of another man. We enjoy our sexual exploits to extreme satisfaction. Is it only oral no, when we fuck I am mostly the bottom, but on occasion he likes to bottom.

 

I’ve always had desires to have sex with men. I’m 55 and they haven’t been stronger or weaker. However, when sex with my wife is virtually nonexistent for a spell I tend to spend more time fantasizing about it

 

Many married men, after many years of marriage, find out that, as the years go by, the wife is less and less interested in sex with her husband, so, it is no wonder why many married men start fantasizing about "unexplored territories".

Many also (those who have been at least fantasizing about sex with another man) also find the companionship and camaradarie shared is also very rewarding as well.

This, I feel, would make a m/m sexual relationship even more fulfilling, if there is some sort of "emotional connection" exists between them.

Anyway, that's just my opinion.........

"Live long and prosper"