Bi men and aging

....if aging is NOT a pleasant topic for straight men, rest assured it is even LESS pleasant for gay or bisexual men........

"Live long and prosper"

 

As I have aged, my interest in men has increased. While I still have an amazing physical relationship with my wife, being around a naked man is such an incredible turn on. There is a widower who I meet a couple of times a month. I become quite aroused and love the interaction between us. I have only given and received oral and am still waiting for my first anal experience, though. Exploring every inch of his body with my lips, mouth, and tongue always keeps me highly aroused.

 

They often say that fine wines improve with age....perhaps the same also applies to often-intensifying m/m sexual attractions as the years advance, at least in some instances..........

"Live long and prosper"

 

I am happily married, adore my wife and love having sex with her. But like a lot of the other men on the forum I have developed a stronger feeling for m2m play as I have aged. . I don’t really find the men attractive but I more just love the sex in fact it’s purely about the sex.

 

Sex, in ANY form (m/f or m/m) is comprised of both POWERFUL urges, and, indeed, STRONG lusting.

If what you are doing is consensual, between two willing (adult) individuals, go for it, enjoy it to the fullest.

Do what pleases YOU..........

"Live long and prosper"

 

I’m 55yo now and my interests and desires seem to be reversed now. When I was younger the desire was:

Women - Relationship and Sex.
Men - Just Sex

nowadays

Women - Just Sex
Men - Relationship and Sex

I have never been married and all my romantic relationships with women ended up negative. And nowadays I am increasingly disconnected and distant from women. I rarely talk to them and when I do at work it’s just work items and nothing more.
I no longer have any interest in a relationship with a woman. I’m still physically attracted to them and would love sex if given the chance but that’s it.

Men on the other hand are great. I enjoy my time with men and enjoy the connection, non-sexual and sexual. I can see getting married to a good man someday.

(Please note: I don’t hate women. Just no more interest in any interaction other than what’s necessary at work)

 

Being a gay man (celibate for 66 years) I have, of course, never been attracted to a woman, in a sexual sense.

For many years, I had hoped (and prayed) that I would, one day, meet "Mr. Right" and he would become my best friend as well as my life-partner and soulmate.

Being bashed by a co-worker who I thought was also my friend, back in 1986 has indeed powerfully influenced why (outside of an ad in the "personals" in a respected local daily back in 1995), I have never, nor will I ever, seek another man, for either swex or a relationship)

Simply too many risks involved.

I admit right up front that I am VERY emotionally vunerable, and it woud be almost suicidal for me to even try to "connect" with another male.

I do not even have the luxury of having a male best friend; my best friend (who was straight) was like a brother to me; we had many, many great times together, over the years.

Sadly, he passed away 14 years ago from cancer.

The void is passing created can never be filled, nor will the feeling of loneliness ever disappear.

When I fantasize about men today, it is strictly about sex only; my desires and dreams for a loving, caring, respectful, one-on-one relationship have evaporated.

For me, the emotional "bonding" with another male was VERY powerful (and rewarding); at least, I can strill look back and be thankful for what I DID have, many years ago......

"Live long and prosper"

 

For me with age came realization and acceptance of who I am and what I like. I understood that I'm pansexual with very well defined likes and attractions. I found it to be a synthesis rather than separate components.
I like sex and relationship -friendship with women, men, trans, crossdressers, etc.
This was a major breakthrough for me. I even had questions about if I was gay, straight, or bisexual but with age I just knew I was all of it and more.
Also I like all ages, races and ethnicities as long as they are older than 21.

 

Enjoy WHAT you like and with WHOM you choose; judge only YOURSELF; do not let anyone else judge YOU.

As long as it is all consensual (and of legal age) just ENJOY your lifestyle and derive as much fulfillment and pleasure from your relationships and friendships......

"Live long and prosper"

 

At 72, yes. I prefer older or close to my age.

 

Although not currently active and in a committed monogamous hetero relationship, I was actively bisexual before my wife and I met. Back in those days I was primarily interested in hand and blow jobs and being a top for those guys who liked to feel a cock inside them. I was never interested in being a bottom or having a cock inside my arse. Apart from the Dr's finger during prostate exams I'm still an anal virgin. In recent years I find myself dwelling on that fact and being somewhat regretful about not being more open to receiving anal sex. I feel I may have done myself a dis-service. I wish I had taken at least some the many opportunities I had to indulge in what I am now convinced would have been an absolute pleasure. It'll probably never happen now but I can't help fantasizing about it.

 

Seems like the older I get the less and less opportunities. You can put me on the same list with the Dr.'s fingers. That's been the extent of that pleasure. Although, once I thought I was taking on a guy, but it must have been something else, or he had a special lube. Sure felt good. I'm like you wish, I would have explored it more.

 

As I have aged I find I'm watching more same sex porn than before. Especially transsexual porn. I'm still looking at feminine qualities in people, tits and pussies, and like nice tits on a penis owner or a pussy on a man. That is probably the preliminary to having sexual contact with other men. I'm definitely not there yet but maybe some day. It would be easier for me if my first experience was with a man that has a pussy or is FTM.
This is not to say I'm leaning towards same sex because my wife is no longer able to have sex. I have plenty of other women available to fuck. It's just that I am finding sex with men more and more intriguing now than before.
I certainly do not have a "ho-hum" attitude towards sex of any kind. I love fucking the women that I do. I also love watching porn and having orgasms with both. I doubt that will wane any time in the near future.
As far as being labeled bi or gay who is now a senior I'm not sure. if you want to say I'm bisexual, bicurious, or just gay I don't give a fuck. To me labels aren't necessary and a person is who they are. If there needs to be a label attached then just use their given name or what they are happy being called.
if I ever go to be with a man it would be with a younger one. The common ground would be better with men my age but that's not why I would be having sex with another man. It would be for the sex and my being attracted to the man, his body, his cock, and the taboo for same sex relations

 

I still have and very much enjoy sex with my wife (tho, not nearly as frequent as either of us would like, tbh) & she's the only (cis) woman I desire/want to have sex with (even if she were to develop an interest in sex with other women-which, she won't, but....... I'd only be into her). So, for me, it's definitely men (& yes, shemales/trans women, of course). As far as age range preferred....idk. Videos & fantasies about older men turn me TF ON....but my 1 experience with a young, Latino Twink type (very limited, as I was very new to even considering being with guys), STILL (5+ yes later) gets me so hot .....what I'd GIVE to meet up with him again..... Ultimately, can't say for sure, as I've only ever had a few, limited experiences (unfortunately....but definitely open t..... HOPING for more).

 

I also tend to gravitate to older, I guess because I can relate (72) haha ahahaah. Always, searching for amateur real older porn, but can really find any, with all the searches I land on the big, commerical type sites. I wish I knew enough about the darkweb, to just find a few amateur couples and watch them go at it, over and over. Lol

 

.......another "stigma" regarding bi/gay men and aging is that, as they age, their sexual needs diminish.

Nothing could be farther from the truth.

For several years, I was very close friends (via phone) with an elderly gay gentleman in his early 90's (he had two partners whom had passed away some years earlier)

He was a HUGE "cocksman", to say the least, and had several gay/bi (mostly senior) fuck buds visit him at least two or three times a week for some pretty intense m/m action!

Sadly, in his last year, he began to decline, and passed away at age 93.

Being alone as a man ages is never pleasant, especially if you are a gay/bi fellow without a partner or like-minded friend.

The art of "self-stimulation", without a doubt, is often the only "outlet" for "single" senior gay/bi males.........

 

Papa........

Remember, ANY man who sees YOU for YOURSELF, and appreciates your many fine qualities, will be the most FORTUNATE one, trust me.

Here's hoping that special "Mr. Right" comes into your life, one day soon......you certainly deserve this good fortune!

 

IF such a man exists, he won't find a better fellow than yourself; I truly hope that finding "Mr. Right" will one day be in the cards for you.......