Bi men and aging

Yeah, you know that; I know it - we all know it, but it changes nothing except being a fetish for some men. It sucks to have a guy turn you down because, to him, it's like having sex with someone old enough to be his father and, okay, hold up - last I knew, you're not one of my children so what's the real reason why we can't suck each other off? We've been mindfucked into believing that sex is for the young and, well, that's not the truth of things and compared to these young bucks out there, I've had more sex by accident than they've had on purpose and I've probably forgotten more about sex than what they think they know about it. Shit, I was doing this before their parents were born; I have the skill and the experience but, apparently, that's no good enough once you reach a certain age...

 

KDaddy23:

Again, we do see the "stigma" attached to aging rearing its ugly head.

Why so many guys choose to focus so much on age is beyond me.

Sure, "inter-generational" m/m sex is HOT.......BUT......it is the PERFORMANCE (and appeal) of a guy that should be the priority, and not the guy's AGE being the "main focus"...............

 

You'd think that ability to perform would be the main concern, right? When my protege was 40, he made the mistake of assuming that the 71-year-old man who wanted to have sex with him was a passive, submissive bottom because of his age... and got the surprise of his life when homey whipped out a very hard 9" on him and proceeded to fuck my protege stupid. He couldn't believe that the two of them had an amazing day of sex and I chided him on making assumptions and cautioned him to not judge books by the covers or, yeah, don't let the gray hair fool you. The sad part is that he still hasn't learned that lesson; he's a decent guy or I wouldn't be mentoring him but he's like a lot of 40-somethings who see a guy like me and just assume that I can't bring the noise.

They focus on age for a couple of reasons. The first is the social conditioning that implies that sex is only for the young; the other is the incest taboo or having sex with someone old enough to be your father or grandfather is a gigantic no-no and like I said yesterday, unless something happened that I don't know about, I'm not your father or grandfather so there's no incest going on. You can convince someone that thinking like this is a fucked-up way to look at older men but it's another one of those "that's the way it goes" things that makes it hard for us old guys to connect with other men.

 

KDaddy23:

I read you loud and clear.

To assume that a senior gent cannot perform sexually when having sex with a younger guy because of his age, is, as you brought up, totally inaccurate and short-sighted.

I've read many online accounts of where "grandfatherly" gents can fuck like jackhammers until the cows come home, putting a lot of younger "studs" to shame.

Again, AGE has NOTHING to do with hot, intense, m/m sex...........too bad more younger bi/gay guys cannot get this through their thick skulls................

 

Growing old (regardless of orientation) presents many hurdles and battles which must be fought; however, if you are lucky to have a permanent partner/buddy (or supoortive family/friends) at your side, your battles will be that much easier to fight.................it makes all the difference if you are not "going into battle" alone.............

 

"Depression" can be crippling, to say the least (trust me, I know this all too well)

But, for gay/bi men, who are suffering from depression who are "single" (regarding male partners) depression can clutch out at you with malicious talons, and wreak havoc with your emotional state.

Take it all one day at a time, be yourself, and allow your mind to be constructively used on hobbies and other favorite pasttimes...................appreciate what you DO have........and NEVER take it for granted..................

 

Remember:

The BEST thing you can be the BEST in is ALWAYS be YOURSELF!

Be YOURSELF, honest, open, and always ready to listen!

 

IMHO, "advanced age" is all too often misunderstood.

Sure, sadly, there are many whose health and mental qualities have indeed declined in their old age, but what of those fellows who are STILL sharp and "on the ball", DESPITE being "well up in years"?

Again, there is far too much age discrimination in today's all-too-often insensitive world; it's both bigoted and narrow-minded.......

 

To those guys who (for whatever reason) have an ongoing issue regarding age, might I remind you that "69" is a SENIOR number?????

 

Married 72 in the woodlands. Love to chat sometime.

 

....should be a LOT easier for bi married guys to meet other like-minded guys for "fun and games" of a manly sort.........

 

But it isn't, is it? I wonder why...

 

Rocket science sure ain't needed to answer THIS question!!!!!!!!!!

 

KDaddy23:

Read your comments again and all I could think of-regarding your protege-"appearances are often quite deceiving".

I will bet the farm that, after the experience you described, this fellow will indeed NOT take thiongs at "face value", or to make unfounded assumptions!

Ahhh, yes.......the "age factor".

Amazing how so many bi (and other guys) have such a powerful hang-up regarding the (adult) age of a potential sexual partner, especially when it involves m/m encounters...........

 

Oh, he still does it and it bites him in the ass - nicely - every time. Look, in this game, you're either too young or you're too old. We rely on being superficial when it comes to making decisions about who gets to see us naked and then going about it like we're gonna have the guy's babies or something. For all those "young bucks" who rejected us older guys, I can't wait until they get to be our age... and then they can find out how they fucked up when they were younger and passing on older guys who would have given them one hell of a sexual experience...

 

Well said!

Too often-I am sure-a lot of bi/gay guys have indeed, later in life, come to regret turning down m/m encounters (inter-generational) in their younger days, due to foolish hang-ups regarding age and its relationship to sexual performance.

What ever happened to "keeping an open mind", I wonder?

Again, too many negative, baseless stigmas and stereotypes running amok here..............

 

Keeping an open mind went out of style around 1986, if I remember correctly...

 

Just as "common sense" is, for the most part, UNcommon these days, sad to say.

When supposedly "mature" adults cannot even grasp the concept of basic common sense, it's pretty sad.

Too many adults these days THINK they are "mature", but, in reality, emotionally, they are but children, blissfully ignorant of both common sense and maturity...............

 

Common sense left at the turn of the century (really about 2001, as I recall); instant gratification came along around 1990 (or thereabouts) and gave birth to a slew of men and women who loudly and proudly declared that they wanted what they want and the exact way they wanted it - and they were not going to settle for less than what they wanted.

Then they sat around and whined and held pity parties trying to figure out why they weren't getting laid and/or couldn't establish a relationship with someone.

 

KDaddy23:

If "common sense" were in greater profusion these days, the world would be a far more sensible and less disorganized, chaotic place to reside.

It is indeed frightening to see how the level of sheer insanity (and just plain stupidity) skyrockets still more with each passing day.................