Bi men and aging

If, indeed, "stigmas" are attached to gay and bisexual men (courtesy of rampant ignorance) those stigmas are encanced still more with advancing age.

Ignorance, truth be told (in any form) is as formidable (and as dangerous) and any physical/emotional issue, if allowed to flourish unchecked..............

 

I recently heard a news report that said that seniors who are not alone, and have close friends to associate with, tend to be healthier, both mentally and physically.

Sadly, not every senior male (especially those who are gay or bisexual) are fortunate enough to have a "steady" partner for both emotional and sexual "companionship"; for many such men, the options (and/or opportunities) simply are not there.............

 

It begs the question of what can we do to reverse this trend and while waiting for the world to change? In truth, the options and opportunities are there but there are so many who aren't of a mind to be with us older guys.

 

KDaddy23:

Agreed.

There are still so many (TOO many) younger guys who (for whatever reason) think that older men do not "have what it takes" for a hot and intense sexual experience.

How wrong these misguided younger fellows are!

Again, OLD AGE has NOTHING to do with having hot and satisfying m/m sex; look at how many younger guys "come up short" in providing a hot sexual experience with another male.

The age stigma is indeed a product of ignorance.............

 

It's not ignorance - it's social prejudice; that prejudice says that sex is only for the young and if you're old, you're past your prime and all that other nonsense that so many of us believe until we find out it's just another of the lies we've been told. How do we break the cycle?

 

"How do we break the cycle"?

Now THAT'S a QUESTION that indeed bEGS to be answered......but how?

I was always a man who believed sex is for EVERYONE, regardless of (legal) age; so damn stupid to think than an elderly man cannot enjoy sex as much as a younger man..........

 

Then, too, think of how many younger men are about as far removed from "well-endowed" as you can get, while, on the flip side, you have some senior guys who are hung like horses..............

 

Well, I guess and if that has a lot of meaning which, to me, it doesn't. I know guys are looking for the big ones and, IMHO, passing up plenty of dicks that are averaged-sized and even some that are below average that are good to suck on and/or to have in your backside. So, cock size, to me, isn't germane to the problem at hand, which is being dissed just because you're old and then being dissed by men who don't have the kind of experience us old dudes have. Or how we're a fetish for some guys when we're much more than playing at being someone's daddy; I don't know about y'all, but this has never been a game to me.

 

KDaddy, we don't have to prove ANYTHING!!! I'm almost 57. I have an ongoing relationship with a delicious younger black stud and currently I've been laying pipe to a cute and sexy 22 year old female. I'm older, bisexual, and I hold my own. I do take a Cialis because let's be honest, the hardware has some miles on it. And as for any younger man that thinks he has sexual prowess that I'm lacking........... well that's laughable. Last night while junior was playing his video games I was probably flirting with his adorable girlfriend. The only reason I didn't fuck her was that I don't need another female in my life right now. And had I fucker her............ she would have never went back to him.

 

.......if you are truly experiencing "the best of both worlds" with no limitations or restrictions, just enjoy your sex life to the fullest, and savor it all!

 

@parris001: No, we don't have to prove anything but that's not the point or the problem when bi guys age: It's the social perception that we're not worth it and should be put out to pasture; it's the social misperception that it's an act of incest for a young adult male (and I mean legal enough to have sex) to have sex with an older adult male - and some older guys who freak out because they think that young guy hitting on them would be like having sex with one of their children, which is preposterous. Too many would prefer to believe the social perceptions of us older guys than to believe the truth: We can still knock your dick into the dirt with our desire, skill set, and decades of sexual experiences.

A woman asked, "What can your old ass do for me?" and I replied, "Give me a chance and I'll show you." She did... and found out exactly what my old ass could do for her. We need to get it out there that if you let our gray hair fool you, you're making a mistake - but it's your loss. We need to work toward getting rid of age discrimination in these things. I don't discriminate when it comes to age because it cuts down the number of people I can have sex with - and I want to have more sex, not less sex because I'm being unnecessarily picky about someone's age...

 

Kdaddy23:

You brought up some very astute observations and comments.

Far too much misconception regarding inter-generational sexual relationships between men where there is a sizeable age difference.

Again, another good post, one which provides much "food for thought"...................

 

I have a female friend that's been a FWB. We're course both sexually active and I had talked to her about several younger ladies. She would bristle and tell me that she could never have a relationship with someone younger than her youngest child. That was her cutoff because it seemed inappropriate. I quickly told her that she was going to have to get over that!!!! Every year you're disqualifying yourself from the rising draft picks!!!! Lol.

I mean, I was laying pipe to the young women (legal, mind you) that were my daughter's friends when they still lived here and was bringing them around. I'm not saying I have an ageless look. My long beard gets more snowy white in it every day. I guess I have a confidence level (which I did NOT have as a teen) that allows me to still pull them. My latest conquest is quite a stunner and I'm a good 15 years older than her own dad.

 

Another misconception about older men (as sexual partners) is that EVERY "senior" guy has to take something for "ED"; ever stop to think about how many YOUNGER guys have this issue, while many older guys need no "outside" help in "rising to the occasion"?

 

.....just because a gent might look like a Model "T" Ford does NOT mean that the finally-tuned engine of a 'Vette is not lurking under the hood......appearances CAN indeed be decieving........

 

You got the right friend

 

If an older (or younger, for that matter) has such a friend, indeed, he is QUITE fortunate.

Though I have (as I have admitted in the past) have no personal experience here, being celibate for 68 years, I have always thought that inter-generational (18-80) m/m sex has to be pretty hot; I think that the wide gap in the ages of the men involved makes the "fun and games" all the hotter!

The often say that "with age comes experience"..............

 

......think of all the time wasted by guys who are totally hung up on the "age factor"; a lot of HOT m/m experiences are ignored simply because of redundant issues on age differences........................

 

My desire to be with another man increased when my wife and I separated after 21 years. I have dated a few women and had several hookups with men in the ensuing 2 years. I'd kind of like to stay in my lane age-wise (early 60's) but am open to younger men. It just seems that as with younger women, younger men are at a different stage in life and I have less in common with them. Older folks are less likely to play games or waste one another's time, because who knows how much time we have left?

Right now just keeping myself open to a man willing to top. After that we'll see how things progress.