Who’s in the “Lifestyle”?

Are you in the “Lifestyle”? This thread is for those interested in learning about it and the different levels, and the benefits etc. It is for the those who would like to share their experiences and ask questions.
I am a long time member here, and my wife and I are a senior couple in the lifestyle. We enjoy a shared love of nudity and sharing our sex life with others as well. The lifestyle allows us to explore and enhance our relationship and does not replace it. We swap with likeminded couples only and we have one couple that we see once a month for some sexy play.
What do you like about the lifestyle and what is your level of play? Bi, straight, lesbian, bdsm. This is an open thread for educating and entertaining others interested in the Lifestyle. What your story?
Sound off.

 

This thread is for those who want to ask questions and tell their stories about the Lifestyle.

 

We don’t really get “into” the lifestyle, as in parties and such. We swap with couples (only one couple at any given time) in the same room and enjoy seeing each other and sharing everyone’s pleasure.

 

Bocci, We are much like that as well. It all started for us back in 2020. We were looking for a place to be naked and found a Lifestyle resort. We took our time to learn. We generally only with one couple at a time. There was one exception, when there were two couples and that was real fun too. And recently we went on an all nude Bliss cruise. We are still experiencing new things in the lifestyle and loving it.

 

Interesting. Sounds fun but more “carefree” maybe than we are. We only swap bare so we take much time in choosing a couple to meet and then swing with. If either one of us had to choose between not swinging or swinging with condoms, we’d choose to not swing.

 

Bocci, Here how it works for us. My wife and I are diligent in being STD tested. Full panel testing. We have set up a testing cycle and one of us is testing every 3 months. And our routine playmates get tested too. So we bare back with them.

 

Fair enough. We get tested as pard of our annuals. We ask that those we play with do as well. We choose very carefully and have never played with more than one couple during the same timeframe.

 

It really sounds like y’all have a very good handle on your play time with others.

 

As you can probably imagine, back when we were much younger it was all about getting it on with other couples as frequently and repeatedly as possible. Nowadays, we’re selecting for temperament and kindness along with sexual compatibility. We still like to go for 2 or 3 rounds in an evening (with a break or two of course) but it’s not as much about lots of fucking as it is about everyone’s pleasure.

 

We started in our early 20's over 50 years ago. I still have fond memories, though we have not been active for several years now. I do admire the older couples, who are still active.

 

Jimandjan, Think of it this way…You were trailblazers back then. And I tip my hat to you.
We knew a couple in their 80’s that still played, until he recently passed away. My wife and I are also on the short end of life, but we truly enjoy being around lifestyle couples, even if we don’t always play with them. It keeps us mentally young.

 

I know it sounds like a cliche, but one thing we have found in the Lifestyle is age is just a number. Performance is everything. We have played with 40-50 years and they recontacted us for a repeat visit. My wife and I go “all in” when it comes to playtime with others. And men must be upfront and honest about ED. Just because, you are aging doesn’t mean sex has to stop. Most ED problems can be solved (pills, pumps and shots) and women can do many things as well.

 

Who wants to share their lifestyle swinging/swapping experiences. good or bad. That’s what is this topic is for!
We met a couple about a year ago. Since then, we have swapped with them 6 times. They have become great friends. We are beginning to understand our wants and needs with each other. The best part is there is no anxiety or pressure to perform. The point is… swapping should be fun.

 

For us, watching each other is the thing. We wouldn’t swing if we couldn’t watch each other. We touch and talk as well while we are fucking the other couple but seeing each other while either of us are going at it is absolutely necessary.

 

Watching each other is our kink.
But for those who are on the fence about swapping, you must first remove all jealousy. Learn to convert jealousy into joy for each other. It’s called “Compersion”. When done right, swapping can be almost magical and erotic.

 

Joy is a good descriptor. Seeing your partner giving and receiving pleasure is both joyful and sexually enjoyable. Looking at your partner while you’re giving or receiving pleasure is likewise. It’s a sharing of the experience and the pleasure.

 

Yes, It truly is the sharing of the sexual experience and play only.
I don’t share my wife and she doesn’t share me. I don’t own her body. If I did… that would be slavery. Only she knows what her body needs.
We are realist and understand we can’t be everything every time to each other sexually. That’s why we enjoy the physical interactions with others. Variety is good. This is a hard concept for newbies in committed relationships to grasp about the lifestyle.
Sex play with others has nothing to do with your personal relationship with your spouse.

 

Ok. I’ll mention a couple of differences in our perspective compared to yours. The two of us do feel as though we “belong” to each other. I’m hers and she’s mine. Slavery? Maybe. But if so, we chose it and we continue to choose it every day that we wake up. We have, and are, committed to each other for the rest of our lives. We know we will keep that commitment. The prospect of death bothers us less than the knowledge that it will bring an end to our time together.

Another difference for us is that sex play with others does affect our relationship with each other. It makes it better and fuller. We swing with couples in the same room so we can share the experience with our partner. We derive at least as much pleasure and joy from sharing that experience with each other as we do from the sex itself. It may sound cliche but, for the two of us, sharing the experience of us having sex with other people has brought us closer together in ways that I don’t think I could adequately explain.

 

Bocci, I agree with your prospective. Everything you have said is a huge part of “Compersion”. My wife and I practice compersion in our daily living and it certainly re-enforces our relationship together. It’s all about mutual joy for each other.

 

Here’s one for you, Jack. Has she ever held your cock and balls as you approached the point of no return and then as you were pumping your cum into another woman? For me: indescribable sensation.