Not the first, but the most recent and most substantial, which did end with my promising to never withhold sex from her again, and as far as my needing dick, her final words were a reluctant, but still "Do what you want". Progress...
So, you told your wife of your desires for dick, and she responded somewhat irritated hearing you say that? Be sure to follow up with us as to whether or not the progress is positive or negative.
To me, "Do what you want..." could be a yellow flag kind of thing, i.e., she doesn't care what you do and, hmm, what else might she now be not caring about that can be connected with this? I commend you for having "The Talk" with her and, at least on the surface, getting her permission to indulge yourself; most guys need to have The Talk but are scared to death to have it with her and they have good reason to fear the backlash they've heard about via failed attempts to have The Talk. Yes, indeed - please be sure to follow up with us as to whether or not the progress is positive or negative.
What kind of backlash?...up until we talked a couple nights ago I had cut her off and was saying no to her because for decades I'd literally begged her to peg me and have been refused, and I lost interest in sharing my dick with her until we face this head on. Divorce won't happen, as we are both newly retired together, and for some not familiar, my wife has known I'm bi since before we got married 25 years ago and even did play with me and a guy orally together once, as well as us both playing w/ couples together early on, so this isn't exactly a new thing. It's her libido and direction that changed, not mine.
Most guys who fail having The Talk either find themselves divorced or living with a spiteful woman but okay, if this is nothing new, you're one of the lucky ones - have fun!
I just keep reinforcing things. Tonight after we had sex, I mentioned I watched a video where a woman gave riveting head and told her I could easily want to be either the cock or the mouth because both were so damn hot in this case. Also told her I understand she wont peg me, but after years of begging for it and being refused, how could she not expect my ass to be hungry and twitching for attention she'd never give, not even light ass play or toy-assist, and left wanting a solution or option. Personally I believe these talks are productive.
Why would you refuse sex with your wife, in the first place?Because she wouldn't fuck you in the ass? Thats cutting off your nose to spite your face. Just do it to yourself, if you desire it so much. If your wife is having sex with you again, put a dido or buttplug in your ass and do whatever, for added stimulation. Have you ever shown her? My wife was kinda reluctant to do anything to my ass, until she did it. When she experienced the thrill and power aspect ,she took to it like a duck to water. Good luck in your quest .
Thanks for the ...kind words...I think? I withheld sex because I had lost interest and we needed to come to a discussion point, which we have. "Self-toyying" doesn't interest me at all, human connection does. Everyone's journey is different and there is no one solution(like you telling me what I should do!) fits all. Sometimes I think it bothers "Trad People" that I buck tradition by not lying and hiding it, and just sneaking along, but telling her straight out what I want, unashamed. I think that actually freaks some people out. But yeah, thanks for what sounded a like little harsh judgement there. Thought we were here to share. Have a nice day, sir.
I can't win. even trying to be honest . An example of how bisexuals are bad people for either lying, cheating going behind backs of our partners, or laying it all out in honest confessional, either way-bad? And again for historical content, my wife has known I'm bisexual and shared a dick with me 30 years ago.I'm not thin skinned, but I didn't come here to get beat up. I thought this was a safe space for us to share our journeys and experiences without judgement.
It was said with the kindest intentions. I was your shoes, until my wife was enlighted. Long ago, I can't believe its been 35 yrs already, I wonderful older women introduced me to Anal Pleasures. There was no looking back, or question about wanting it again, and again. Sex toys were par for the course, until the time she found them and asked me what I do with them. Seeming disgusted at first, she wanted no part of it. It didn't bother her when I would eat her ass and got her a set of buttplugs for herself. Basicly it was educatng her, I should say" letting her enlighten herself", not pushing it. She tried it and has opened her mind , as my ass. Good Luck
