Title pretty much says it all. 20 years married, kids, white picket fence, the American dream. I’ve only recently accepted that I am bi. The wife knows that I’ve had experiences before her. The best way to explain it is that I have an itch that I can’t scratch.
you can 1) Don't scratch the itch, repress, suppress, punish yourself and deny yourself your innermost desires and sexuality for the rest of your life. Maybe even try to pray it away, or go to conversion therapy(but we all know that's not why you are here). or 2) Since your wife already knows, continue to have an open and honest dialogue and see how things develop. 3) sneak around, lie cheat and deal w/ the guilt if you have that, and consequences if you get caught, or 4) Make a major life decision. Those are not your only options. I'm sure you'll get more and better advice. Just spitballin' and trying to help. Good luck!
Hi, My question to you is: what do you really want? Significant others might understand or not, some even understand and pretend to support but they are ready to burst because they are controlling and possesive. For them it's natural to think, bottom line, about themselves only. Many bi guys in this situation end up on their own. Sorry to say but marriage can be a wild beast. Good luck!
Totally in the same boat.. I've only had a few experiences with other guys.mostly online but have sucked one and jerked w a few..Love my wife would never change that..but that itch is so true..in the mornings i'm always stroking looking a dudes cocks..
My wife and i have a don't ask don't tell policy. Love is something special that we share. Sex is just sex and it feel good. As long as I don't bring home any std's!!!
Same , married for 20+ years. At first when we were younger late 20's she indulged me. Pegged me a few times. Allowed me to suck on a dildo during sex but that faded away . Looking back i think she only did it for me. Now I'm left to porn and shower episodes with my trusty dildo . But now that I'm older I'm craving the real deal. I've expressed this but she just laughs it off . We still "dirty" talk while having sex that gets me off but still longing for the one opportunity
