I'm very cautious and secretive about when and where I jerk it.... always have been. Apparently, when i was in my early 20's(almost 20 years ago), I told my now wife that I don't masturbate. I don't recall the circumstances, I was probably just a bit embarrassed talking about that sort of thing. Anyways... she hung onto that. She defends her belief tooth and nail to her friends. Lol It feels like it would be really damn weird for me to say "actually.... I beat off almost daily, sometimes twice" our sex life isn't all that exciting, and I'm pretty sure it just might come to a complete stop if I fess up. I overheard her argument that "why would he need to jerk off, he knows I'll give him a bj or hj whenever he wants one" ....... which isn't even remotely fucking true BTW. No real question here, just sharing a messed up situation I find myself in haha. PS. She masterbates
I'm sorry to hear it, you deserve not to be deprived or made to feel strange for relieving sexual urges
Tell her you decided you’re gonna have a wank whenever you fancy it cus you thought about her doing it and it turned you on so you had a little play and you really enjoyed it and now you want to experiment
Women have a different way of looking at masturbation. They look at it as they should be enough so there should be no need. The simple fact is men are always horny. So even though we love have sex with them some times we just have to jerk off. Just the way we are
I just now found this thread and that hits home. Many thanks. I'm 85(!) and in the dark fetid swamp of repression when I was a kid I internalized a hell of a lot of shame about masturbation. Women, at least the ones I knew in my unenlightened corner of the USA, weren't all that open about self-pleasure, to put it as mildly as possible. Now I have what I suppose you could call a fetish about being open, which is why I love being able to express myself with like minded people, especially women, that sense of permission after so much early disapproval. I still do it twice, sometimes three times, a week, enjoying the sexual time that I have left.
I agree with you on that one. Just like me and many other people, there is a variation off reasons that can vary. For example my lovely wife is in a care home, but does not even know who I am when I visit her most days and feed her. I and many others now living alone and should not have to feel guilty or ashamed of doing what comes naturally, to the ones left behind, and have to take care of their own needs.
Thats a very healthy mindset, its natural to feel arousal and its natural to touch yourself. At every stage of life, you'll touch yourself, its a good thing, its love and its your body, no one should tell you not to love yourself. Do you find the more guilt or that you deny yourself the stronger the urge is?
