i see a lot of media/social examples now of edging / orgasm control - from my point of view - male - i like edging and found it really good - although my wife does not like to do that much - ex used to BUT she hates it , if she gets anywhere close and stops , then loses the urge completely ... i'm the first person she had orgasms with anyway - all her previous partners did not bother or she put them off, not sure why - but it took a while to suggest she had an orgasm anyway i just wondered if this is more a male thing then a female thing ???
The difference in hormone secretion during sex is what makes men and women differ on edging. Men will get hit with a large amount of dopamine right at orgasm and come down quickly. Women don't. Edging for men prolongs the release because the orgasm is staved off and dopamine isn't released. We get near the peak and back off only to rise again and again this way. But once we go over the top, it's over. Women can get over the top and like the energizer bunny, keep on going. But they become wrought with frustration if not allowed to get to the top or edged. Men don't get frustrated by edging.
Speaking as a senior male. My wife and I do practice edging. It does take practice and being keenly aware of your body. There are times we connect just to edge and not for orgasm purposes. It really helps me last longer when we do finally have full on intercourse. It also helps me have more staying power when we play with others.
I know a girl who likes to inject PT141 before a night of romping. Sometimes it makes her horny quick and sometimes it takes a while. If she get horny soon after the injection and long before the sex, she'll edge and edge and edge. She could probably just climax and be fine later but she likes to have her first, crashing orgasm getting oral from someone and she says that edging makes her first one a long, rolling one where she almost passes out just from someone's tongue. Other than that, she prefers to masturbate to a finish and do it again if she's in the mood. And maybe again...lol.
One of the unfair aspects of being male. I consider edging our form of multiple orgasms. Difficult to do well during sex, though, unless she had already had enough.
I find as I get older sex is less frequent with grandchildren and family member living with us. So whenever I get private time (which I make time for) I edge every chance I get stimulating myself and leaking lots of precum usually for hours throughout the day. Sex used to be really good now this is the only way I get pleasure so I prolong it by edging.
I had a gf who gave me awesome edging, I would regularly shoot close to my face, on the pillow I met someone I visited regularly and she liked edging, I was not young anymore so no big cumshots or distance shots. But the edging was sooooo good!
Men have the ability to have multiple orgasms too. It's really easy. You just have to breathe the right way.. Cuming? Yeah once usually, but there is a trick there too.
There is zero difference between men and women. If a woman has an intense centralized orgasm, they are usually out of commission for a while, same as men. Anyone who has tried to touch a woman's clit after making her cum will know what I mean. Super sensitive and you just don't touch it. Same as a guy. The fact is, those "waves" orgasms that one typically attributes to women, are just as available to men. It's actually really easy. it sometimes takes a while though. It's about the breathing. Slow deep breathing is the key. You can breathe in to start an orgasm, and breathe out to disperse it to different areas of your body. And if you time it right, you just orgasm for about five seconds and then you breathe out and it dissipates and spreads. Then you can chain them all day if you want. They are every bit as strong as an orgasm where you cum. It's the polar opposite to premature ejaculation I'm told. The orgasm is too centralized and there's nowhere for it to go but out of the tip of the dick or clit. Most I've had is 10 in a row but I couldn't handle more so had to cum. The build up is friggin intense. You should practice solo and work your way up to having sex with someone. My wife and i have done it and she called it "edging" but we both had multiples. We went for about 45 minutes and then they started happening. So you'd need patience and a good block of time.
Edging….. what a concept! I had never really thought about it in that term before. my experiences with women, especially LTRs, they were not into edging. They wanted the orgasm because they knew in short order they could have another, and another, especially when I was going down on them. For me during PIV/PIA sex I called it self control,. Pleasure of the woman was first and foremost and I await my turn. Never had a woman not orgasm at least a couple of times on my mouth before the main event. FF to my current wife….a totally different duck. The night of our first date I was going down on her (damn she tasted GREAT), and she would get right to the edge, and I thought here she comes. Then she stopped me. WTH? I would continue and the same thing. Right to the edge and stop me. But then she said “inside me“….. and she would come like gangbusters a few times. Thank gawd for some self control on my part. She later would comment that she was happily surprised that I could last as long as I did. it took a lot of self-control, but I wanted to please her. Was a self control version of edging for me. Multi-orgasmic women are blessed. masturbation… I love edging, it just depends on my mood, or the time it has been since my last spirt. Whether it is watching a favorite genre of porn, or reading stories on Literotica. I don’t think I have met the previous poster’s # of 10, but a half a dozen is good for me. And the orgasm is intense and copious. The only sex I get the last few years.
