Evopsych for wanting to see your girl fucked by another man

I’ve been thinking about this for a while - why are so many of us men so turned on by the idea of seeing our wives and gfs fucking other men?

Ostensibly, our emotions and base desires reflect the natural imperatives written into our firmware that helped our ancestors survive. Jealousy can be thought of as nature prodding us to guard against being cuckolded and inadvertently raising another man’s children - and more importantly his genes - rather than our own. We can imagine genes that don’t confer sexual jealousy gradually being selected out of the gene pool as the poor men born with them waste precious years and resources raising other men’s kids. Non-jealous genes aren’t as “fit” as jealous genes.

So why does imagining my wife getting pumped with another man’s cum excite me so much? Why do I get so turned on thinking about my wife bouncing her beautiful ass on another man’s throbbing dick?

I think the answer lies in infidelity. It certainly isn’t in a husband’s reproductive interest to encourage his wife to go have sex with other men, but what if it was inevitable? Imagine the wife’s lover, instead. He knows that she goes home to her husband every day after their afternoon trysts and he knows that sometimes she’s going to be fucking him. Her lover is in direct sexual competition with her husband - competing to get her pregnant. It’s probably the last thing the poor fool consciously wants, but genes that get passed on are genes that win so his body really does want her to get pregnant with his genes.

That means he needs to be fucking her as much as possible (two, three times a session?) and he needs to fill her with as much cum as possible by cumming as hard as possible every time they do it. So how does nature accomplish this? It makes him really horny and excited by the situation.

I think the whole swinger/mfm/lifestyle movement ultimately comes out of this - that nature needs men who are sharing a woman to be as horny as they can be and to cum as hard as is possible. But inadvertently, that also makes us excited by the prospect of sharing our wives and girlfriends.

What do you think? Painfully obvious? Completely wrong?

 

I can't explain it but I always loved watching my ex with other guys.

 

For us. It’s the total openness we have in our relationship regarding see each other have sex with other couples. No jealousy, just joy and happiness for one another. It’s call “Compersion”. Of which, I have spoken about on many occasions here. I’m happy if she is happy. I will see her get penetrated at least twice tomorrow with our group, and she will see me fuck two women. It’s just fun sex. That’s all!

 

I've always had this fantasy. My wife and I have had multiple discussions and she is open to it. Does anyone have experience seeking out men to be with your spouse? A relatively safe way?

 

In my case when I met the woman who would become my wife I knew she was going to be with a lot of guys, and women. I could come along for the ride, pun fully intended, or find another.
Like Panama Jack said, it’s just fun sex

 

I have posted before about my various relationships and turn ons. My fb and I have been involved in threesomes with women as she is bi. She is constantly being hit upon and I find that a major turn on. What’s good for the goose they say so yes I would love to do a threesome with her and another guy. Same with my fwb as she wants to be with another girl and or guy but I have had encounters where she has picked up guys. I find it a hot turn on. A guy has been hitting on my fb and she actually went out with him and stayed over his place (in separate bedrooms) but she said she wasn’t turned on by him even though he wined and dined her and tried to kiss her. He must have had such blue balls thinking he was going to tap her and it fizzled out. I’ll keep you posted

 

it is complicated.

 

I had a fuck buddy a few years ago whose husband didn't fuck her. Don't know why, he just didn't. Also don't know if he knew I was fucking her. As the affair evolved she prompted me to cum in her and would get her panties on ASAP after. She enjoyed my cum running down her legs she told me. It was fun for me as she was a great fuck plus our personalities clicked. Was it a fetish for him, me fucking his wife? Having her fix his dinner, caring for his home, while my cum was running down her legs? I have no idea. Like I said, I don't know if he even knew. Was it for her? Definitely yes. What was the fetish? I'm really not sure. It could have been the feeling she got of doing something taboo which is what she may have been into. But then there are many many sexual fetishes people are drawn to.

The reasons for vary widely. For some in the wife sharing / swapping arena it is about compersion and enjoyment. For others it is about humiliation, the cuckold. And some just allow it so they're not bothered by having to do something they don't want to do. So here I am, having an affair with a married woman and enjoying the sex she provided. It wasn't about that she was married. Or that her husband may or may not know. For me it was having some good pussy that wouldn't cause issues in my own relationship. Also because I wasn't able to get any at home anymore. All it cost me was a few little gifts, an occasional hotel room, and my time. Although knowing she was spoken for probably made it better. For her at least a couple of fetishes were being fulfilled. Good sex and orgasms. Taking home a cream pie. Getting away with having an affair and the taboo feeling of fucking someone outside her marital bed (even though we ended up fucking in their bed).

 

as I started to say(I hit post before I was done), my journey was complicated. Back in my youth. There was no way I would ever consider sharing a LTR. Jealous and insecure. I had been living with my nympho gf for about a year when one day I was on the road and came across a “news stand” looking for some hotel room solo material. no Penthouse (I always liked their letters section), but they did have a Penthouse Letters WIFE SHARING annual edition. I thought why not? OMG! I read that thing almost cover to cover that night. it was like it had flipped a switch in my head….. a complete 180! me and the GF started fantasizing and role-playing about MFMs, and she really got off on those sessions, but when things were calmed down, she said that she did not think she could actually do it.

FF a couple of years and I find myself married, and I showed her the latest WIFE SHARING edition. The usual question WHY WOULD YOU WANT TO SHARE ME? I told her it would just be some sexual fun. Eventually she came to understand my kink, and I was OK with her getting some strange on the side. as luck would have it, her trainer at the gym hit on her, and asked her out…. he knew she was married, but that didn’t stop him. She asked me what I thought she should do, and I said go for it! so she did, and that started a six month affair. I was hoping it would morph in to a MFM, or at least letting me watch. HE SAID NO! oh well. at least when she came home from a date, I was treated to a horny full wife!

FF again, and I was living with who is now my current wife of a couple decades. as usual early in a relationship, we shared our experiences and fantasies. I told her mine of me sharing her, and hers was having two men and swapping and bi curious. BINGO! Anyway, we started looking for a local couple. we found what I thought was the perfect married experienced couple. Met them for drinks, and I thought we had hit the jackpot. Both were very attractive, and BI! Yeah, my partner knew of my past experiences…. she really got into pegging me.
Anyway, no sex that night with them as was previously agreed on, but then my gal informs me that she does not think she could handle me having sex with another woman. SH*T! But does that stop her from having a one nighter with this other woman? NO! so we kept talking about a MFM. no strangers, it would have to be somebody we trusted. so who should happen to show up in town but an old college buddy. A trusted clean safe cock! We ended up having a few MFMs With him. Damn, those were hot! Unfortunately, she ended up putting an end to the festivities…. Something a proper wife should not be doing. WTF? it was just fun sex that she obviously enjoyed….. Maybe too much?

 

I know my attitudes have changed.

Years ago when my wife and I were dating she was determined to keep her virginity. Not even touching of breasts was allowed! On one date we went on a float trip. Every one was soaked. She went to a restroom and changed before we went to eat. A male friend commented as she walked towards us … “braless! Bouncy, bouncy, bouncy!”
I was pissed he was getting the view.

Fast forward through decades of porn and I read about men enjoying showing off their wives and many videos. I found it so hot. But wondered why I guy would ever want others to see his wife’s nude body?

then it started to get into my thinking.

we visited a C/O beach and to my surprise, my sexually conservative wife stripped down. OMG…I was so turned on by other men looking at her tits and pussy!!!

I’m still not good with the idea of someone else fucking her….but I absolutely love others looking at her!

my latest step in this change is that I would love for a guy to give her a massage with a happy ending …either with his fingers or possibly eat her. I would be ok with her giving a HJ to him.

I think the interest is in doing the taboo and the excitement that comes from that…especially the first time

 

And if you were present the heat of the moment might be enough for you to encourage him to go ahead and have her if she would be open to it. She probably would be if he had brought her to orgasm while she jacked him. You might not be able to control yourself and want to see it go further by then and that would be that. The final step would be taken.

 

If you know you can truly enjoy watching her getting off while being fucked by someone else, then you are ready.

 

I’m prob too insecure or possessive …..I’m the only one who has ever fucked her. I still mostly feel like that’s a cool thing.
If I’m horny, I might fantasize about it. It’s very erotic to think of her breaking free of her inhibitions and having a level of arousal that can only be satisfied by a stranger’s cock.
But then I think about the aftermath… I worry that a good marriage would be irreversibly changed and perhaps not for the better.

 

It's a curious thing, while my partner and I have been exclusive, being cucked is certainly something I've often fantasized about. As I've stated on these forums, I'm at that point where I consider sex a chore. It doesn't help that she's been drinking so much the last few years her beer gut is the size of a basketball. Kind of hard to get turned on by that. But if we'd ever do it I'd want to go all in: Have my cock caged, willingly suck off the guy until he's hard, watch him pound my girlfriend and have him use my mouth as a cum receptacle when he's finished. I'm not quite sure what would be more of a turn-on, watching her get fucked by another guy or allowing myself to be completely used.