Masturbation…. A necessity.

Absolutely! Regardless of our age, we need to be sexually active even if we only masturbate. We need to ejaculate to keep our sexual abilities healthy and relieve our stress…

 

I agree. I have been for years. Almost 60 now. I find it helps keep my anxiety down. My wife is even an advocate as quotes medical reasons for masturbation as you age.

 

Great answer!

 

I'm always masturbating when I'm on here.......

I'm 80 and have been masturbating regularly sice age 13 when I was shown how to do it properly by another lad..... He wanked me off by torchlight in front of 6 others, but that's a story I've put up on here already!

 

Let me check Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs. Oh never mind. Anyway, you should never feel ashamed of it whether you are in a relationship or not.

I remember growing up Catholic and being told that masturbation was a sin. Ok, sure buddy, whatever you say. My body, I'll do what I want and not feel bad about it.

 

Me too Amen brother Whats that saying. “ If you got them stroke them.”

 

And where is that story located? Cheers

 

A man has to do what a man needs to do. Its the same as plumbing in your house. You have to keeps the pipes open and used, or problems will develope. 74 and still masturbate daily for health .

 

I never heard that quote before, but couldn't agree more.

When I saw this thread, my immediate reaction was to quote my favorite movie, Interstellar. "No, it's necessary".

Now I pictured Ann Hathway asking, Cooper what are you doing and him saying, "Masturbating". The robot then says it's impossible with Cooper saying, "no, it's necessary".

 

Wise use of Masturbation can keep you where you need to be.I was long haul trucking and always Lot Lizards around, Whore Houses and opportunity to cheat every day. But so was the opportunity for VD and unneeded expense and the possibility of an extra kid. I am Hyper Sexiness and maybe nymphomaniac where it can easily preoccupy me from doing needed tasks and Masturbation is an easy way to stop extreme sensations and get back to normal and the extra sex energy can help with tasks or needed work to my advantage instead of being all eat up with fantasy and looking for pussy somewhere. I can still fuck ok and have heard my wife tell girls she knows that i am really great in bed, many bragging. Anyway i have three kids that look like me. I probably started at 4 when i was caught having fun in a platform rocker by my grandmother. I was to only kid so i played with me a lot. I didn't go blind and me and the cousins would play with each others dicks. Before you are old enough to come, you get dizzy at climax and would laugh at each other staggering around and falling down. We all grew up normally with girls to fuck and kids of out own. I have Not Cheated and think Masturbation when needed helped to prevent it. Or i was just too chicken?

 

Wait... what does being in a relationship have to do with the necessity of masturbation? You're not supposed to do it when you're in a relationship and where, exactly, is that "written?" Despite being married, I still masturbated even though I was getting plenty of pussy from my first wife, #1 poly wife, and #2 poly wife. If they weren't available, I was horny, didn't feel like searching for cock, well, time to spank the monkey! Same with my current wife; when I need to get off and I don't want to go through the shit I have to endure to get her to open her legs, I just whip it out and stroke it to a nice release, clean up, and go back to whatever I was doing.

I have never understood what the one thing has to do with the other... outside of women having this idea of how her husband is supposed to behave being married to her and, importantly, taking control of his ability to have sex including choking the chicken. And if she is telling him that he can't, shouldn't, and better not do that, hmm, do you really believe that he's going to stop doing something he's been doing before he even knew she existed?

 

Necessary is not the word I would use because you should do it if you're comfortable with it and enjoying it. Not everyone is. I'd phrase it as everyone should be comfortable doing it and enjoy it rather than that they should be doing it. That said, as far as important to a relationship, again, only if it's enjoyed by both parties. I personally, don't feel connected with anyone who isn't comfortable masturbating regularly and doing it together. So, while I never really think of it this way, that is kind of an important factor in a prospective mate. In my experience, it says a lot about a person beyond just their outlook on sex. The two partners I've had who were awkward about mutual masturbation were not very good matches in a lot of ways that figuratively speaking were kind of flip sides of that coin.

 

And, ideally, that would be nice. Life's realities speak differently. Masturbation is a taboo subject; it's been misidentified as a sin; it was considered to be a mental illness and some Draconian shit was done to males and females who were caught masturbating; women probably get shamed about this than we do. A girlfriend tried to tell me that I couldn't masturbate if I was going to be with her and I said, "Whoa... how do you get to tell me what I can do with my dick?" I grew up in a generation where you weren't supposed to masturbate and with the pie-in-the-sky bullshit that you didn't have to do that because there were plenty of men and women to have real sex with and, as such, if you masturbated, it was a dark, dirty secret that had to be hidden.

One should be comfortable with doing it. It's necessary as a part of self-care and self-love; it's nice and healthy and good sexual health is a necessity. You can do it alone or with others who don't have a problem (a) masturbating and (b) doing it in front of other people and that includes the man/woman you sleep with every night. I don't quite remember the moment I realized that if I expect someone else to get me off, hmm, that's a problem since good luck arranging that but, yeah, okay, I'd been doing it since I was nine and despite some guys saying that when you get a girlfriend, you have to stop jerking off and... y'all done lost your damned minds because jerking off feels good and if you're waiting for her to give you some so you don't wind up with blue balls, lemme know how that worked for you. Because, really, if you can't do it to yourself like this, um, isn't this a problem?

If you don't masturbate, that's on you; if you don't think it's necessary for your physical and mental health, that's on you; if you can't do it by yourself, that's on you; if you need someone's permission to get yourself off, wow, whew, ain't that some fucked up shit and more so when you're a grown-assed adult?

 

Masturbation is a normal part of life, as natural as eating and sleeping--and perhaps just as essential. Masturbation is a gift that you can give to yourself over and over--an affirmation of your worthiness to experience pleasure.

 

Unfortunately not everyone agrees with these sentiments and shame and guilt continue!

 

I grew up catholic. Guilt is a big part of it. It wasn't until my 50s I gave myself permission to live my life the way I wanted. I dont do anything cruel or demeaning, so the statement All is forgiven applies.

 

It is absolutely a necessity. It was more noticeable when I was in my 20s, 30s and 40s but I had to nut frequently or I would not feel well. All the testosterone and stress would build up and I couldn't sleep. I tried explaining this to my wife and she thought I was full of shit and just trying to get sex more often. Regardless of how much sex I am having I still masturbate.

 

Masturbation is a necessity and it's important to do it properly. Take your time guys and, especially, ladies.

Prolonged stimulation and maintained strong arousal (withoit cumming) make oxytocin flow from the brain in higher quantity than just going for orgasm.

Then letting yourself cum after say 20mins, you'll get a big shot of dopamine released too.

I've personal experience (and confirmation from my doctor), that it helps with many issues.

One friend let me stimulate her when she had a migraine starting. We were close though platonic so it wasn't as odd a suggestion as it might seem. She'd no interest in masturbating due to pain so I asked her to let me stroke her.
Easier for me to control her arousal than if she did it and so, after about 20mins, she came quite strongly. About 5 mins later she remarked that whilst she had the surreal feeling that comes near the end of a migraine, she no longer had pain. I became her go-to migraine reliever for about 4 months, until she practiced masturbating that long without cumming. In the end, she could keep going for 30mins and more stroking continuously.

Another friend suffered with seizures nearly every day and sometimes two or three. I joked that she had as many seizures as she should have orgasms. She struggled to cum, often getting right on the edge but not cumming, then losing it. I made my suggestion and, with nothing to lose, she agreed. We spent about 6 weeks getting her to that stage of having 20mins arousal before cumming. She doing it and then me taking over if she was nearing the edge. She didn't need my help after those 6 wks though we continued to enjoy it together because it was more fun doing it together than alone. She said after three weeks that she wasn't getting any seizures. She showed me her log and her last seizure had been on the morning of the day I first helped her to cum.

A third friend had chest pains and subsequent tests. Suffering stress, her cortisol levels were too high but she was given no meds and no advice. I decided that I'd rather be a friend, for my friend, rather than staying quiet to avoid rocking the boat with my long-term OH. Actually she's a 25yr long friend of my OH and I met her through my OH.

Anyway, I explained everything about cortisol, oxytocin and dopamine and told her what she needed to do. She said she wouldnt last 20mins, let alone the 30 I suggested so I said I'd like to help. I'd like to do it for her if she would practice with me and between times to stretch out to 30 mins. Success and a lot of bonding with her.

Some weeks after we started, I went for my usual prostate exam. The doctor was always the same female because I feel at ease with her. I mentioned my friends and what we were doing and asked if we could do better.

She confirmed that prolonging arousal for one orgasm was better - from a health perspective - than having short arousal several times, even though we all like orgasms, she said.

She asked me to have this conversation with any others if I thought it appropriate because it could help so many women. We all know women discuss their health issues more than most guys so hopefully it gets passed on.

So; in summary, she said: (for females)
Masturbate at least 3 times per week, ideally daily.
Prolong it to at least 20mins from when getting really aroused (30 mins for my friend with stress), before reaching orgasm.
Stick to that schedule even if having sex on some day(s)

She added that it is well known to have an effect on reducing migraine, seizures, normal headaches and, also, stress and it can also help fend off vaginal dryness and loss of elasticity.

As for me; my prostate is OK and so are my plums. However she told me to look after myself and not just my friends. I reassured her that they look after me.

So, I think, that means it's an essential part of adult life and that it should continue to be.