Bi/gay sleep over …

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  1. Desiplayer

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    Anyone does sleep overs with your hook ups …do you have specific arrangements?

    I have done various sleep overs with my hook up or serving wife lovers ….

    This is first time I will be having ongoing weekly commitments to sleep over at my gay lovers place once a week…jus this week he openly expressed he was in love with me and I took couple of days to admit and build on our relationship…,wife has agreed to allow me for this ….looking forward tonights first sleep over as official mm lovers …
     
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  2. KDaddy23

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    Oddly, I do not remember a time when I spent the night with a hookup... that wasn't female. As a youngster, I slept over with my male friends who were, with a few exceptions, already in the know and we didn't get much in the way of sleep. Spending the night with a guy as an adult? I'm almost sure I never have but I'd have to think about that some more...
     
  3. Desiplayer

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    Extent of sleeping with a guy overnight didn’t bother me , done it many times ….great times

    jus navigating my new relationship role being lovers …is new …new turning point in my life. Looking for some tips and feedback for those who live gay life or married to wife and having gay romantic relationship.
     
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  4. KDaddy23

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    When I had my boyfriend, he lived with me and my family after he decided not to renew his lease due to a huge rent increase. My relationship with him was empowering in ways that I hadn't started to understand. He got along with my wife and kids and like he'd been with us forever. Helped out around the home, cooked, cleaned, even helped the kids with their homework; showered me with a lot of love, affection, and definitely lust and him being there didn't disrupt anything except I had a hard time doing stuff around the house without him pouncing on me to give me a blowjob, which was one of his favorite things to do when we were home alone with each other.

    It was comforting having him there. It was never a thing where I'd "spend the night" in the room with him and he understood where I was supposed to be sleeping and that I had a wife I had to make love with as well. Hhave was an amazing person, friend, and lover. It broke my heart when he had to leave to bury his grandmother and when he said that he'd be back, I also knew that I would never see him again. It seemed to be... natural for me to make love to him then make love to my wife, who thought it was hot and sexy for me and him to have sex and... this is about all I can share with you about being married and having a relationship with a man I loved.
     
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  5. Desiplayer

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    this is amazing …thanks sharing your experience…you always add value in many post. I appreciate that.

    Excited and nervous about this whole new change for me……as I want this to be long term I want to ensure I do everything to support him…fortunate to have him as my gay lover as he understands my family situation and respects my needs of having open gay relationship….
     
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  6. BiInVA

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    In my early years the two i sucked & messed with & i did skeep overs. 1st bf we slept in same bed which at first was odd but geew to love it, especially when we slept together naked. Only now decades later..I accept i had romantic feelings for both guys. Loking forward to next one, now that I am more accepting of what the first gay experiences really were. But now I question if I can have a hook up? What if I develop feelings & want to share more with them? More time, more sex, pleasing & serving their desires? Not getting that from a hook up...only a LTR.
     
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  7. Lovnflman

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    Memories of good times. Eons ago in my late teens, I gave my neighbor pal, a blowjob, almost like he dared me. I had never even thought about being bi….. definitely not gay. it was just curiosity I guess, and found out that we liked reciprocal blowjobs. we were just two permanently horny guys, and at that geeky age girls were not yet an option. Shortly after our first experience, and when the weather was conducive, I pitched a good sized tent at the back of my parents’ property, tossed in a couple sleeping bags, and we would spend the night, sucking each other. When the weather turned cold, we would sleep over at each other‘s houses. Just had to make sure we were quiet and the bedroom doors were locked. This went on for a couple of years. I never once considered myself gay/Bi… to us it was just fun and better than jerking off. we eventually got REAL girlfriend friends, and that was the end of that.

    now into a sexless marriage for a few years, I would like to find a nice guy in my situation. Nothing romantic, just the desire for a mutual head. Good luck fighting that!
     
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  8. Desiplayer

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    believe there are many out there then we think …jus need to be visable for clues and be bold to make the moves. Never knew how much access we have that is untapped opportunities…lol
     
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  9. Desiplayer

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    I can see the differences in the one time hook up, to meeting frequently for sex to intimate partners ….I was in the stage of having intimate partners majority of the time to now officially having a gay lover ….I can definitely see the difference in what he give me in love/sex over giving me priorities vs my bi/gay partners ..even though it’s was intimate mm…
     
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    In my early years I sucked friends and some neighbors, was fun.
     
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  11. KDaddy23

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    Damned right it was! Spending the night or, better, the weekend with a guy would be so damned exciting because we both knew what we'd be doing when we were supposed to be sleeping.
     
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  12. thepapasmurph

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    I never felt comfortable spending the night with a hook-up. Even when I agreed to stay, I couldn't fall asleep while he was snoring away... I would get up and quietly dress, and leave.
    Now that I am in a relationship with one man, I spend the night with him several nights each week. We sleep well, cuddling together. Ironically, I find his snoring in my ear oddly comforting.
    I've realized a lot about myself - about my relationship I had with my wife, and just how wired I am.
     
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