basic sex questions

Discussion in 'Love and Sex' started by blckra1n, Mar 24, 2005.

  1. blckra1n

    blckra1n Member

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    ok these are probably dumb questions, but when you and your bf/gf or whatever have sex, do you change positions alot? and if so how often? also, do guys like it more when girls do all the work or when they do? and finally,How often do you have sex?
     
  2. BlackGuardXIII

    BlackGuardXIII fera festiva

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    No questions are dumb, cuz they help you learn. Not asking when you don't know, for whatever reason....that is a mistake that can cost you bigtime. My fiance and I want it more than any previous lover and I, and the average would be over once a day, for an average of maybe 1 1/2 hours a day, the longest gap was we went 6 days without making love. The most time in one day spent making love is well over 6 hours, and more like 8 hours total time from 3 or 4 times. I like to work it till I get tired, then let her take over, and we change positions all the time, and it always got better and better.
    I would say we would change positions about every 20 minutes to 1/2 hour, and take a five minute break after an hour or so.
     
  3. blckra1n

    blckra1n Member

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    thanks for your input
     
  4. peacefuljeffrey

    peacefuljeffrey Senior Member

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    Your questions aren't dumb, but I'll tell you that what is misguided is thinking that you should be asking anyone but your sexual partner if you want good answers to these questions.

    These are things that you should ask the person you're having sex with. Or, if not asking, at least finding out (which can be done by just doing something and then gauging his/her reaction).

    It's not possible for someone here to state unequivocally that "guys like it more when girls do all the work," or anything else like that, because it's different depending on the person!

    I think that there is bound to be a certain amount of time at the beginning of a sexual relationship during which both people are going to be finding out what pleases them. There's a learning curve, to be sure. Look, some people like sex gentle and some like it rough. Do you really think that you can find out from the rest of us which one your partner is going to prefer? Of course not. So like I said, you're going to have to check in with the person you're having sex with for these answers. Unless, of course, the only purpose you asked these questions for was for curiousity about what we do, and not to find out if you're doing it "right."

    -Jeffrey
     
  5. hippychickmommy

    hippychickmommy Sugar and Spice

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    My husband and I like to change positions quite a bit during lovemaking. We normally change positions at least 3 times, but sometimes it's less, and sometimes it;s more, just depending on the mood, situation, time allowment, etc.

    My favorite position is to be on top, and my husband has no problem whatsoever with that one. He says he enjoys being able to watch me and to kind of kick back and enjoy the show. ;)

    My husband and I have sex usually 2-3 times a week, sometimes less, sometimes more. Again, it depends on the mood, situation, time allowment, etc. When we were younger, before we had our kids, we had sex every single day. ;) I don't miss that though, because although we had it a lot more frequently then, I think sex is much more satisfying now, it feels even better when we DO have it, maybe because of the anticipation, maybe because we've grown and our "techniques" have gotten better with age and we know one another's bodies and just what to do to make them sing, I don't know. ;)

    I agree with peacefuljeffery on this one though. It all boils down to you and YOUR girlfriend, what the two of you enjoy, and what works for you. :)

    Peace.
     
  6. beautifulhippie2

    beautifulhippie2 TyeDyeChicka!

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    I'm on bottom....we change it up when we want to....we just mainly get busy
     
  7. Kinky Ramona

    Kinky Ramona Back by popular demand!

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    Hehe, the last time I had sex, my boyfriend just flopped over and took me with him, but it totally messed up. I've never been good at changing positions without having to start all over again. It's humorous afterwards but very frustrating during.
     
  8. kindwoman

    kindwoman Sista Golden Hair

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    I'm into mixing it up, changing positions is my thang. I also like it when we stop the thrusting just for a very short time and go at it again, it makes me more excited.

    In answer to the question how often do I have sex, NOT ENOUGH!!!!! Jeffy where are you???? I know I wouldn't have that complaint! :p
     
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