the suspense is killing me!

as i have posted previously, hubby and i have been trying to get pregnant for about 6 months. every month i just about drive myself nuts wondering if this is going to be "the month". it makes no sense to worry, i know, since worrying doesn't make the time go by any faster, or make me any more likely to get pregnant, but i am one of those worry all the time, uptight, people, and i can't seem to help it. (i pretty much worry about everything this way, by the way.)
this month is even worse, since we started using the fertility monitor, and all that...the chances should be pretty good, and yet i know that there are no guarantees. i think part of my issue is not impatience, but rather the fear that i will end up being infertile, due to previous health problems.
i know it sounds geeky, but i'm stressing myself out. i can't imagine how people with infertility problems keep trying for years without driving themselves berzerk.has anyone else gone through this?

 

Don't take this the wrong way, but...Please, please, please STOP going crazy over this!!! It is imperative that your body is calm, relaxed and stress-free when you concieve! Your body will not allow you to become pregnant if you're not in the correct state of mind, or if you're not ready. I know you want to have a baby, and you can't wait to get pregnant, but I am telling you that you have to relax about it, or it will not happen.

Two friends of mine tried for over a year to get pregnant. They took their temperatures, used the fertility monitors, charted their cycles, made love on the "correct" days- and every month their periods would start. They were starting to get a little psycho about the whole thing! They were absolutely OBSESSED with getting pregant. It became their whole lives, and they were consumed by it. After awhile, I convinced both of them to take a step back, relax a little bit, and let nature do Her work... As soon as both of them 'gave up' trying to concieve, they were pregnant within two months!!! I am not kidding! They just told themselves "We're not TRYING to get pregnant, but we're not preventing it, and we'll let it happen when it happens", and IT DID.

PLEASE try to calm down a little and let nature take it's course. I know it's very hard to go through month after month of negative tests, but it seriously has a lot to do with your mentality. If you eat, sleep and breathe pregnancy and it consumes your soul, it won't happen. I don't know why, but it just won't. One day you'll get that positive test- it'll happen all in good time!

 

PS- I've read that the chance for fertile couples to get pregnant is only about 20%. Can you believe that? Give it time! And, make sure you're taking a good prenatal vitamin already (you probably are!), and some folic acid. If you still haven't concieved a year from now, I'd go ahead and talk to your OBGYN about seeing a fertility specialist. (The first thing they'll say is to quit "trying" and just relax...) Good luck to you!