Girls survey: do you like 'bad boys'?

I find the 'girls like bad boys' psychology extremely interesting. I have always wondered exactly what it is about the 'bad boys' that makes them so appealing. This is an attempt to try and find out!

Please answer: which of the following men would you (A) most like to sleep with, (B) most like to have an 18 month relationship with, and (C) marry:

1. A man who is polite and humble, respectful to others, treats you well and is faithful to you.

2. A man who is rude and intimidating, but respectful to others, treats you well and is faithful to you.

3. A man who is rude and intimidating, has little respect for others, but treats you well and is faithful to you.

4. A man who is rude and intimidating, has little respect for others, is selfish towards you, but is faithful to you.

5. A man who is rude and intimidating, has little respect for others, is selfish towards you, and enjoys the company of other women.

6. Same as (5) only he hurts you physically, too.

Please just answer with the letters and numbers [Example: A2, B4, C5], although I'd like to hear your thoughts on what it is you find attractive in the bad boys.

Guys can answer this too if you want, but please state your sex!

 

ok lets see....

A1
B1
C1

I find it hard to be attracted to soemone who's rude and intimidating as you put it. I find it such a turn off to be honest. I'd rather be with someone how's really down to earth and caring about others. I guess i dont fall into the category of "women who fall for jerks"...seriously give me a nice, simple person and it will feel like winning the lottery.

 

I'm a guy but I've done a bit of studying on this matter. Its pretty simple. Women like men that are a challange and are a bit cocky and funny. A women will take a guy that is a negative challenge over a nice guy. The trick is a to be a positive challange while being a tad bit cocky and funny. Just read Doc Love's articles on www.askmen.com and David DeAngelo's material on www.doubleyourdating.com

There's a big difference between being rude and intimidating and being a take charge type of person. Women don't want to be bossed around but they don't want a wuss boy that jumps at their every command.

 

What about those who are polite and humble, respectful to others, treats you well, and enjoys the company of other women/men? Not all people who are into multiple relationships are bad.

 

Thanks, AT, that's interesting.

Monosphere, the categories I devised weren't supposed to be an exhaustive listing of all the different types of men. It was just a method to find out at what point a girl will draw the line. Being rude is one thing, but being disrespectful is arguably 'worse', and being disrespectful to one's partner is arguably worse still, and finally cheating on one's partner is arguably worse further. I'm trying to determine: at which level of bad does bad stop being good?

 

Look as a "nice guy" who has always gotten laid often by pretty women let me set you straight.

There are two kinds of nice guys. Those that are nice, because they are too chicken shit to be bad.
And those who are nice because they prefer to be, but aren't afraid to be bad now and then when the moment calls for it.

The first of the two, turn women off. Women like their men to be strong and most would choose a truly bad man with balls over a good man with none. If those were the only two choices they had.
It's primal, if the tribe was starving, which kind of man would go out and get food for their womens babies, even if they had to kill some other tribe and take it by force.
Believe me you can still be a nice guy and get the girl, you just have to have balls and know when to be a bit of a devil now and then.

 

for one reason or another, option 2 is most appealing. im not sure why...its like the best of both worlds: adventure and unpredictability (could do w/out the rudeness though), a little scandalous, and sexy, etc...but also security and trust. who knows if that even exists, though.

 

My boyfriend is the sweetest guy imaginable. He's polite, even to my mom who is a jerk to him, he's thoughtful, he's does the type of things that only happen in movies or sappy love stories... he's awesome. But, he does have a strong side when the time calls for it.

For instance, when he was younger he found his dad's stash of porn magazines and tapes. He thought his dad was cheating on his mom and smashed the windows of his dad's car. He did the same thing when his parents were getting divorced and his dad pushed his mom down the stairs. Maybe not the BEST course of action, but I really love his loyalty to his mom.

I can't find the typical bad boy appealing because I always look at men in the context of could they be a good father or role model if he turned out to be "the one", or just as a general guide on life. I've found it to be pretty true that if you look to how a guy treats his mom, then you'll see how he's going to be in a relationship.

 

This is interesting stuff. Thanks for your input!

You see so many pretty girls hanging out with the thuggish idiot lads who don't treat them very well, and really nice respectful blokes on their own. It can be confusing for men to know how we're supposed to behave!

I'm not saying I would behave differently just to get the attention of a woman, but it's always useful to understand exactly what your rôle is supposed to be in a relationship. It's more of a social thing, I guess.