I'm a really easy going person and I can easily see myself in a relationship that i'm happy in but it's not true love. Like we get along, have a good time, but we're nothing more than friends with benefits, not in true love. So i pose this, how do you know when it is true love and not just lust or just a good friendship?
The "you just know" thing is so cliche, but so true. The best way I can put it is when you wake up in the morning thinking about that person, and fall asleep with dreams of them at night, you put their wants first and their happiness is at a higher priority than yours, and when you conquer all odds just to be with that person. That, at least, is my definition of love with my own boyfriend. There's no cookie-cutter way of describing true love. It just... is.
it would take a lot of typing to get to the most basic concept, so consider what i'm saying as just a tiny aspect. in part, love goes beyond putting the other's desires first, it's more like wanting what's best for the other person, for the sake of the other. and also, there's a story you might like. it doesn't just work for romantic love, but also deep friendships. i forget the two original (greek) names, but if need be i can make my way to the bookcase. anyway, it's something like this: two people share love, let's call them purple and green. a third person, orange, asks green if he would kill his mother if purple asked him to do so. green said that he would indeed do so, if that was purple's wish. orange thinks this is a perversion of love and starts to get uppity. green explains that purple will never wish for him to kill his mother. and orange asks, "but what if?" green insists that he knows purple would never do that, and that there is no what if.. purple would hold the needs of green the highest, for the sake of green, and would never ask green to kill his mom. likewise, green holds purples needs higest and is able to committ to that agreement, knowing that purple will never ask him to do that.
you know you're in love when: -they fart right next to you and you don't even care -when you start doing chores for them such as laundry and aren't bothered by the gross skid marks in the underpants -when they say something dumb and you can just smile -when they say something that wasn't meant to be hurtful, but you feel as if your heart breaks because you care so much about their opinion. -when they aren't around you feel a big hole or as if something is missing there are many other feelings you get when you're really in love, but I just thought i'd name a few
you know when you cant find words that discribe how you feel about them. when you cant stop thinking about them. when you want to give them a big hug and never let them go.
There are so many ways.... - when you start looking forward to doing things you normally hate, because you can do it with them beside you - conversely, I also think it's love when you can be apart from them and be sane, because your love lets you trust them and not be paranoid about your relationship if you're not together every moment of the day - hearing their voice on the phone or hearing someone say their name puts a smile on your face (and butterflies in your tummy - even after you've been together for a long time!) - you're not afraid to let them see you without makeup (or whatever you do to look good) because you know they'll still think you're attractive I guess it's different for everyone....those are some of things that were happening to me when I was falling in love And you know, I still get butterflies when I see hiim at the door, even if I'm still in my jammies and having a fat day lol
I love in the same way a cat or dog does (I'm wired wrong) so it's pretty clear, I see happy things and feel an inability to imagine them in any way but pure and perfect (I know unhealthy for me eventually)
