I've got woman trouble on my hands. I've been a lonely heart for two years. I do believe in love at first sight. One thing that happend to me that is really unhealthy is adjusting to being alone and isolating myself. I guess I would consider myself a shy guy. My longest relationship with a girl has lasted about maybe a month. The farthest I've gone with is a girl is fingering her. Right now I feel like my heart has turned to steel because I've been around an environment of hatred. I don't know how I would react if a beautiful girl came up to me and said I love you not because you play guitar and write poetry and songs because of who I am. All I guess what I can keep doing is try to pull myself out of the antisocial life.
Better off wanting something you don't have than having something you don't want. It IS pretty unusual that a guy at nineteen hasn't had a serious girlfriend for an extended period of at least a few months, but I'm twenty and my longest relationship was six months. I think you need to question a few things: 1) Why am I so lonely? If you have friends, who needs a girlfriend? Nice, but not necessary. 2) Could I improve my physical appearance deter womyn from me? Most like guys who take care of their bodies. Being relatively fit and clean are pretty high ranking on my list. 3) Am I interesting to talk to? Do you complain a lot? Are you forever cutting other people off and speaking endlessly about yourself? Admittedly, I'm introverted and somewhat self-absorbed, but being able to discuss other issues makes you appealing to other people. This isn't meant to hurt you; just consider it.
What do you mean by "an environment of hatred"? Are you talking about your family or peers, or the whole city? I felt that way when I lived in Berkeley, CA - it was overcrowded and full of nasty people who were only concerned with themselves. I got the heck out of there, and if you feel the same way maybe a move is in order for you too. I have social anxiety disorder, which is essentially extreme shyness. If you feel that you have the same, you should see a counselor and consider antidepressants - I know there is an awful stigma associated with that, but if you need it and you don't do it, you will probably eventually self-destruct. Believe me. Please don't take this as condescending or insulting - I am trying to give real advice here.
I wouldnt assume that one has to of had a gf for a long time or even had one by the age of 19, I am 24 and haven't had one for a few reasons: I had a bad experience once and that may of affected the way i reacted when girls tried asking me out in junior high and high school. Some of them were goodlooking and some not so, i just thought they were messing with me but probably wern't, I also wasnt really into girls then. I don't have any friends so its not easy to meet people that way, and whenever i try to meet girls that doesn't get me anywhere. Onetime it seemed like there was an instant connection like i knew before they told me and its like she was looking at me and i noticed her while everyone else present didnt notice a thing, I liked her but it didnt even get far. Well joker im about on the same path as you are, does anyone have any ideas? Onetime when a girl liked me it was when i was in karate. I don't belong to any clubs or anything but does anyone have any suggestions? I tried asking a girl out at the gym i used to work out at and she had this attitude and said it seemed weird? What is weird? I was the one doing her a favor, and she acts like i am the one being rude!
Getting asked out at the gym would be really uncomfortable for me. Then again, I'm one of those people gets really red faced and sweaty when I work out, so I'm definately not a hottie at the gym. I also REALLY hate it when people are obviously at the gym to check other people out... it's not a dating service, it's a way to keep your body in shape *grumbles*
Who cares where u ask them out. Most places the girl is going to be a snob anyways if its in America, ive thought of trying asking girls out in other countries because they know how to respect a guy alot better. Asian countries are good ive heard like Japan they like American guys.
It doesnt have to do with liking, girls are just plain stupid thats all. Then u see them with a less than attractive guy but they will say eww or something to you, but its like whatever if they wanna be stupid let them.
my question to those who havn't had serious relationships with girls yet or find it difficult to meet girls: what sort of relationships have you had in the past with women? and I don't mean intimately, but friendships, family members etc. Connect with women as people, as friends, as co-workers as mothers and as sisters and I can guarentee you will find someone. Be particularly analytical with your friendships, do you have many with women? If so, are they superficial relations or do you have women in your life that you can openly speak to and share feelings and ideas with. Don't try to "pick-up chicks" cause chances are you'll end up with the shallow ones and offend the keepers. Just a few thaughts, I'm now single myself, and to be honest broken hearted, so take my advice at face value, but I think there is some wisdom contained in the above
