I Need Help!!!

So much for your ability to relate to others. Your insight fails you. Go to my gallery and decide if I'm an "older (likely unattractive) [man]. I may be 33, yeah, but that doesn't mean I'm some fat schlumpf sitting in front of a computer.


The written construction of your posts surely does indicate intelligence, but the smarmy egotism just as surely exposes the ignorance attendant with youth and inexperience.

But don't feel bad. Intelligent people often have a hard time concealing arrogance. It's been a problem for me in my life, too (heh, believe it or not). When you are intelligent enough to see how much more intelligent than other people around you that you truly are, it takes work to keep it from presenting itself for them to see. Take heart. The mere fact of being intelligent provides hope that you can use the self-awareness that often comes with intelligence to stay on top of those problems and keep them in check.

-Jeffrey

 

1) Your definition of a womanizer must be different then mine. I don't want to make assumptions, but my guess is that your definition of a womanizer is someone who has sex with them and treats them like shit. If this is your definition, I would agree with you, in part. My definition of a womanizer is someone who conceals his true intention of loving and leaving a woman, promising a relationship/friendship to the desired woman in order to have sex with her. I certainly fall into the first category, but I do not fall into the latter. I am always open and honest, and I won't lie to get sex.

2) I'm am honored to discussion with someone who is so flawless that he can make such broad judgements on a man he knows so little about. I can't imagine how it must feel to be as enlightened as you, Jeff. You should consider writing a self help book, in fact, you may be the next Doctor Phil! Do you have as much insight into other demographics as you do of 20 year old men, or is my age group your personal specialty?

 

I was wrong, your not ugly. I think you are simply plain looking and unattractive. Now if you would explain how I can post my pics in the gallery I will show you the physical aspect of my being that gives me confidence, or what you describe as 'smarmy egotism'. After seeing your pics, I understand the subconscious psychological issues you must have with men like me. I am the type of person you wish you could be physically, but you can't look down on me from the intellectual perch that made you feel better about yourself when the mentally inferior jocks and popular guys would beat you up and get the the hot girls you wanted so badly back during your adolescence.
I am legitament and sincere when I say I feel bad for you. I was never the athlete/popular guy who beat up on nerds or looked down on anyone, I always got along with everyone, which leads me to my next point.

Regardless of my displeasure at what I consider to be your harsh and judgemental comments on my love life, I do respect your ability to communicate those comments (no matter how much your misplaced hostility influences your judgements). I created this post to help me better understand my personality defects and to get open, honest and constructive criticsm from people with no relationship with me, who could give me an objective opinion on my situation. Your opinion is clearly subjective, in fact it isn't an opinion, it is a conviction which I reject.

I agree that it is hard to find people on my level, intellectually speaking. A few of the consequences of landing to the right of the Bell Curve are finding people on my level, showing interest in those that aren't, and concealing it from those who would be jealous. While you judge those who are 'below' you intellectually as insignificant, and you judge those who are physically beautiful as below you due to their 'smarmy egotism', I would say you are a shallow hypocrite. While you have such a distaste for those who are shallow due to vainity regarding their physical form, you have the same shallow vainity in regards to your intelligence. I was (and still am) as well liked in school because I didn't resent those who were superior to me in certain aspects, and I didn't look down at those below me.

With age often times comes wisdom, Jeffrey, however, wisdom is not a prerequisite of the aging process. I am by no means a wise man. All I know, as Socrates said, is that I know nothing. I think your a very smart man, Jeffrey, but the way to live, grow and aquire wisdom is to embrace others, not shut them out for fear that they will be resentful and jealous of your gifts.

 

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