I'm going to be a single Mom!aack!

welfare: already immersed in it...soaking with drops of goverment money

falling at my feet.

breastfeeding and cloth diapers: i've already decided to utilize these things...but i have some questions?? how many should i buy? where do i buy them? how do i prevent leaks?(diapers,people...lol)

pregnancy ??: is feeling pressure in my abdomen normal? i read somewhere that pressure is one of the signs of miscarrage...i only feel it about once every day or so...it's like an inflating balloon in my lower abdomen, maybe juniors just stretchin'? tuggin' on something????

thanks guys,


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My doc told me the uterus contracts once an hour or so. I had a lot more than that with my first and he was fine.

You should really keep tabs on the father for medical history purposes, too. He has a lot of problems that can be hereditary.

 

This is ridiculous. She is better off raising the baby on her own, than with an addicted, psychotic father. He may get some RESTRICTED visitation rights (and he will, especially if you need child support) but is is FAR from healthy to raise a child in an enviroment with an addicted, insane parent. I really don't care what the father's "rights" are, this child needs stability, and she won't get it from a father who is nuts and alcoholic.

Do what you know is best for your baby, buggin. In cases like you describe, raising them on your own is better than having them be damaged in a dysfunctional family.

 

I second that!!!!

 

lol, i am sooo emotional this morning, reading brighids story about giving birth to brandon totally set me off.
last night was the worst. i had been eating potatoes and toast and v8 for two days because i was too stubborn to call my parents to see if they would buy me groceries....i thought "this is NO way to feed a growing baby!v8and toast?! i also thought " if my parents really cared as much as they say they do, they would pop in to see if everything was okay, you know, and seeing i had no groceries, be like, we're going to the store NOW!" but no. so at 8pm last night i called my mom and told her i didn't have any groceries, and she's like as she always is..."im not going to buy you groceries if dj(father) is going to eat any of it." and i thought...why would she let her bitterness towards him prevent Romany from getting the nutrients she needs?? i told her i was frustrated because i felt like i had to beg to be takin care of, she denied it...well, eventually i just started sobbing! i hung up the phone and was sooo frustrated. why isn't anyone in my life concerned about me? or Romany? i dont really expect anything from dj(though it would be sooo nice) but my parents? they act like, we'll she got knocked up by a crazy guy, and isn't like us(im adopted, this is how it feels! my dad works as an investigator for the prosecutor, and my mom is head of a company that can take your child away like that!*snaps*)
and im sobbing and sobbing and hurt and frustrated...then dj comes in all trashed and nice...i tell him to leave and he gets angry 'grow up shithead'
and my mom calls, well, to make a long story shorter she came and got me and buys me KFC and this morning is STILL hesitant to buy me groceries.
'we'll talk about it later' ......ooohh, this sucks so bad.

 

Get away from that guy and find another good man to share the experience with if you can. My friend and next door neighbor is a single dad. It's rough and lonely for him some times but fortunately he makes good money. He is hopeful to fine someone to settle down with.
His three yr old boy is autistic. He kicked the mother (a looser drunk) out last year and she gave the boy up to him.
Sure, it's not easy to find someone else, but you have to make sure you make time for yourself to get out and meet new people. Two of the biggest factors in how hard or easy it is on you is how much income you have and friends and family you have to help baby sit.

 

Your mom loves you. She knows it would be best for you to get rid of the father. If he can get his shit together, he needs to do it on his own, away from you. You have to be strong for your baby. Your mom is useing what little power she has to get him to leave, right or wrong. And she is thinking of your best interest.

 

is dj the "father," as in the un-medicated, schizophrenic addict? if so, are you still living with him? are you going to continue living with him, and for how much longer?

are you able to move back in with your parents? if they're helping you in any of the 'cost-of-living' respects, such as food or rent or whatever, they might be more willing to help you if you moved back in. if nothing else, it sounds like they'd be more willing to help once you were no longer around dj. or are they just using him as an excuse, and will find another excuse once you move away from him?

are you working at all (as horrible as it sounds, it's probably difficult to find a job once you're visibly pregnant )? what about being an office temp? you'd get to work in a pretty good environment, being with child... no cranky customers, no running or standing for long periods (you might even get your own swivel chair), no heavy lifting, it's room-temperature all day every day, no uniforms that might not fit over a pregnant belly (or no new uniforms to buy as your belly grows!), and temps are only there for a few days to a couple months. if you're not working, that might be a good job field to look into. there are companies like 'manpower' out there that will find temp positions for you, consecutively... so you can work one place for a week, the next for another week, etc... so "i hate my boss" can only last a week before you get a new one.

perhaps you could qualify for government housing? real cheap rent might make it easier to afford living on your own. look into it thoroughly, though, you wouldn't want to get evicted one day for making too much money, for example. where are you planning to live once the child is born?

 

You know what, I'm sorry, but this statement completely enrages me. My husband busts his ass off to provide for our family, as well as people like yourself. He and millions of others out there are the reason that you have this so-called money that you're happily soaking in. It may come free to you, but it costs everyone else out there.


I hope that you sincerely appreciate the help that you are getting, and not taking it for granted, that's all.

 

dj, and i don't live together...but he lives a few blocks away, and though i've resisted the urge to go over there...he keeps coming around or calling and hanging up. i part of me feels sympathetic, i know he's hurting, and i've been there before...but anyway.



i might get a job at a locally owned cajun restaurant as a waitress. the manager i talked to was in his twenties and seemed really nice and cool. i explained that i am 4 months pregnant and he didn't seem to mind..
i've applied for government housing..HUD, and am on the waiting list..so...
i do not want to raise junior here...but the money i need to move is just not there...yet.

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I think it's great that you have aspirations to go to wok!!Hooray for people who do'nt just use and abuse the system!!You did mention that you were trying to get on several gov.t programs.If you don't have food,you need to get on WIC,because they will give you vouchers for food,at least on a supplemental basis.And they help you once you're child is born.If you are nursing you will need to keep up on you're nutrition for you're self as well as the child.Remember you have to take good care of you in order to take good care of your child.And one thing I always had trouble with was taking time out regularly for myself:if you have a good support system,just go for a walk,some fresh airis always good.Or take a long bath while someone else keeps an ear out for the baby.When you have an infant it can be so demanding,and you will need youre strength.It will be okay,just try to relax and not stress.Love&light,audreyanne

 

where can i find cloth diapers? how do they not leak??