I do this thing when I like a girl where I play out situations in my head. It's always so perfect. I use everything I know about the girl and I know exactly what she would do for every little thing that I do and all that. All of the cliches and love stories I know of mash together and it is fucking beautiful. I'm like a romantical genius. It puts my expectations all high an' shit. The problem is I can't stop myself from doing this. And when I'm actually around the girl nothing goes right. I don't say things, the weather's different, the girl doesn't say things. Even when the girl likes me too everything just fucks up. I can't stand it. If I didn't have these I guess they're dreams or something, at least I wouldn't feel so damn crushed when nothing happened. I donb't even know why I'm posting this. I guess it's since I like a girl again and decided to make a move.... fuck I'm nervous.... the situation playing in my head is so fuckin' lovely.... I'm just gonna be crushed again.... fuck
Wow I didn't know anyone else did that...I do the same thing. Like every night I'll think of these perfect (usually nearly impossible) situations I could be in to get closer to the guy I like and then everything is perfect. When I'm thinking about it I'll have all these smooth things to say and everything is great, then none of it ever happens, so I keep getting hurt worse and worse. Sorry someone else has this same problem, I guess it's a problem. Maybe though one day these "dreams" will come true, that's what I keep telling myself...
yeah it sucks... worst part is I don't give half a shit if things don't go all that great I would just like something to happen but shit just don't work out
i used to do that... but yeah... you have to remember that a relationship involves two ppl, not just you... if you were a screenwriter you could dictate the two characters' actions and words and scenes, but you're not. the other person can do whatever they want to... i've found it's important to not put so much expectation on another person, especially when you're not even sure how they feel about you. if you don't expect anything, whatever does happen is grea and unexpected... and the romance can happen later when the two of you are so incredibly into each other...
I can't help it I try as hard as I can to go in with no expectations but it jsut doesn't happen. I can't stop my mind from wandering. The only thing that seems to get any focus out of me is weed but I can't afford to be smokin' all the time.
firstly, the way to lower your expectations is to remeber we are all human and sometimes situations/people arent neccssarily perfect...many a times i should have said things to guys at certain times but chickened out or something etc and secondly, honey, if you cant really afford to be smoking all the time take a break from that...it might clear your mind for a little while
ooh im so glad you posted that (i didnt think guys did that)....but it made me realise i dont really do it anymore.....i dont really need to anymore! there was only one guy left that i did it with...and now i have pushed him right out finally and moved on...and hopefully my boyfriend (very recent ) now is a sign of maturity and moving on from silly games..so far i have been able not to play any.. ..but those delusional little fantasies were the love..i was inlove with playing so many different situations of perfection over again in my head to the tiniest stupidest detail... dont worry duckie, u are too young to be with the one forever so just enjoy playing the field...even if the field is only in ur mind!
God yeah, I do that as well. Kinda too much I imagine.. I wouldn't say nothing EVER goes right for me in real life, but Im certainly not as smooth as I am in my head hehe..
