A friend of mine tried to set me up w/ this guy for awhile now. We talked on the phone for awhile and he wanted hangout. I was uncomfortable to just have him come here when I didnt really now him all that well..So we met in a group oneday and we made plans the next day to go out. Well he never called me and told me our plans were off. I havent heard from him in awhile and then I found out he might be seeing someone but this is a girl who he sees on and off. I finally told him yes we will go somewhere and he just ditches me. He pressured me all this time to go out with him and I finally make plans and he doesnt call. He seemed like a nice guy and the way he was he seemed interested. But I don't understand. He called all the time and now its like he forgot about me. I just need closure I guess. Thanks.
Hi Peachkiss24, was thinking about your post. We are each others choice of the heart. And then again we are but reflections on their way to find what is their truth and reality inside their own heart, spirit and journey of the soul. So, when the silver line on the horizon fades again that had given us fire and promises are just that, we need to look closer inside ourselfes instead to change the view first and take out anything that puts us or others on a place of low value. Appreciate him for having been here, honor him and let him go. But do not ditch your own self and do not hesitate to be true to your own heart, and trust ... do not forget to just keep on loving. I think everything else will fall in place then. Have a good day
Thanks Moving Cloud. I guess I just had hopes on him. I just can't believe he didnt want to be friends either. If anything thats all I wanted.
Peach Chances are that he doesnt see her off and on .. its on and he portrays it as off and on .. etc to cover himself .. he doesnt want to look bad to you etc ... and I'd say that she caught on to this .. and he is being a good guy for now or he truly does value what he has and wants to resist temptation ..maybe if it doesnt work out for them ...just maybe .. but eh ... what do you two really truly have in common other than attraction .. resisting is hard to do, but do you really want to be treated that way if he does ever come around your way .... sounds like he has growing to do..... I know our egos say but..... "I" am the one .. even if your the one .. he needs to do the right thing so dont encourage him unless you want the same thing to happen to do .. good luck ...
Hey thank you for your responses. I still dont talk to this guy but we talk through someone else. I just think he doesnt know if he wants this girl or not. And he doesn't want to hurt my feelings if he starts talking to me again and in the end goes to her. He has known her for 3 years and I think she just trys to use him and he doesn't see it. She had broken up w/ her boyfriend and now needs him. If it didnt work out for 3 years i doubt it will ever. I just dont like the fact that he seemed to put me on hold. I guess he has never heard the word "friends".
Ah human behavior .. once again .. we seem attracted to what is not entirely good for us ... pretty soon he will feel the cavity from ..."too much" of this... what seems a good thing .. but knows it is a bad thing, but has to "feel" it a bit more to work it out of his system ...as for not being in contact .. this could actually be a good thing .. in a strange way ... I know that sounds weird at this time .. but he need to see you in the light of someone fresh .. someone new when he comes around .. and he may not see it when he gets out of this "haze" .... if you are just friends .. granted .. when he starts to "wake" up ... then .. by all means allow him to know you like a friend .. but earn the rest ... he will wonder why he couldnt see more clearly before ... in your case ..
I think I am going to leave him be and if he wants to call me he can. Latey I have been wanting to call him or even text message him. But I have stoped myself. I figured if he wants to talk he will talk to me then.
