Please Help Me, I'm So Confused!!!

Ok guy's, I've been trying to deal with this on my own, trying to figure out what the hell i should do, and it's totally fucking me up inside. I have no idea what I should do.
Firstly, let me start out by mentioning that I am in a great relationship with this guy's i've been dating, and living with for over a tear and a half now. Like we are doing really good with our relationship. and we love eachother to death.

This thing that has been eating at me, is there is this guy that I work with, and we are HIGHLY attracted to eachother, like VERY VERY much, I'm happy to go to work, just to see him, and when I'm there, we find as much time as we can to be around eachother! This has been going on for a few months now, and it's just escalating more and more each day. He has kissed me on a few occasions, and at first I didn't know what to do, I felt like I shouldn't... but then I started kissing him back....then it turned into a little more "touching" action....and now we want eachother SOOO bad it's not even funny. LIke we leave work everynight with our hormones FLYING.
I really really really just wanna have sex with this guy and get it over with. Coz I feel like it's been in my mind so much lately, fucking me up inside so much, I feel like if I just get it over with, then maybe I can just forget about it and get on with my life. It's been messing thing's up everywhere though, just because of the way it's been making me feel. I've been down and depressed because I know it's wrong, for even thinking it....since I DO have a boyfriend.
But I don't know what the hell I should do. I feel like If I don't take this oppertunity, I might regret it- just because it's something we both want SO BADLY. and he knows I have a boyfriend and he doesn't care. because it's just an attraction thing with him too.
This thing is just WAY too much for me to deal with, and I feel like if I don't do something about it, it's gonna go on ALOT longer than I want it to and just fuck everything up, because I wont be able to stop thinking about it. LIke its seriously that bad. I want it soooooooo much, but I don't know what to do
I need serious help here!!!!!!
HELP ME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

I SO know that feeling. But you can't just go and have sex with him. What you've done already is cheating and wrong. You shouldn't have your boyfriend as that back up to always love you, and then sleep with someone else.

Right now, i'm kinda going through the same thing. I have a big crush on this one guy, but I have been with my boyfriend for 2 1/2 years. I love him and I can't let him down. I love my guy more than I'm lusting after this other dude.

Think about how sweet your boyfriend is and now think abou thtis other guy who doesn't even care that you are in a relationship. Who is more important? I think you should stop flirting with this guy before you end up ruining your relationship.

Also, I think that having sex with this guy once will not stop the flirting. It will lead to more sneaking around and more sex. What dude says "ok, now that you've had sex with me, I'm not interested anymore and I'll leave you alone?"

Weigh your options very carefully. For a few nights of passion, you may be sacrficing a lifetime of happiness.

What you need to remember is that your attraction to this other guy will make you feel less attracted to your boyfriend. You might get pissed at him quicker. You might think he's kinda dorky and annoying. But that feeling passes!! i've felt this way a few times before, and never acted on it. It was hard, but I still have a really great, sweet, faithful guy by my side.

 

thats what I'm going through right now. It's like Im depressed around him, and the only time I ever smile or laugh is when I go to work. And i've been taking over other peoples shifts just because I love to be there so much. and it's not JUST wei (the guy) it's everyone at work, they all make me laugh. And I feel like my relationship with my boyfriend has been standing still almost. We have a the SAME schedual every week. we go to work, come home, have a few beers, go to bed, on saturday nights the same two people come over to get sloshed with us, and on sundays we always go to his parents to eat. It's the SAME EVERY WEEK and I'm sick of it. I've talked to him about it, but I don't think it's going to change much. I want to work on it, coz I love him, but right now I feel like I just need to try this something new one time. and I feel SO wrong and horrible about it. I'm so depressed! This is driving me crazy.

 

It's ok. You aren't a bad person. This is perfectly natural and the more you beat yourself up about it, the worse you will feel. You need to say," ok I'm going to put some effort into my relationship, and if it doesn't work, at least I tried."

I would talk to your boyfriend and tell him you're getting bored and you need a change. Move to a different apartment. Go out to a different bar or a new club. Invite some of your friends from work gome to meet your man.

Another thing I have found that works is going out somewhere and pretending you don't know each other and "meet" and have a crazy night. It puts that new relationship feeling back into your hearts.

Be honest with him. You don't have to tell him that you kissed another guy, although you should, you dont' have to. To save the relationship right now is to tell him you are bored and you need a spark. It might hurt his feelings, but it would hurt him a lot more to find out you slept with another guy instead of trying to work things out with him.

Go on more dates like you did when you first started dating (jeez, I should be taking my own advice here)

CAn I ask a question? How long have you guys lived together?

My man and i right now are at a huge crossroads. WE are fighting and bickering, we both have crushes on other people, ect. So right now, I moved into my own bedroom and we decided to act more like roommates that fuck rather than the husband and wife routine that KILLS me sometimes when I think about how old I am. He is even considering moving out for a while.

Taking steps backwards is REALLY hard. beleive me. I cried and cried at the thought of him moving out, but if it's to save our relationship, anything is worth it. Sometimes you need to freshen things up and start over.

 

It's just an attraction thing? Do you love your boyfriend. In my mind, love should trump attraction every time.

Plus, you said he doesn't care about you having a boyfriend. If you go out with this boy and break up with your current guy, what's to stop the new boy from not cheating on you? He obviously doesn't consider monogamy to be of great importance, if he's trying to faciliatate your cheating on your current partner.

I wouldn't go for it. Or at least really examine your feelings and try to figure out if it's love or lust.

 

you are a pathetic person. get a life

 

that is rude!

 

Some never know or appreciate what they had until it's gone.

 

I have a life mother fucker, my point here is im TRYING NOT TO FUCK IT UP.

Sorry, that really pissed me off.

i had a bunch of thoughts while going through these posts and I was going to reply, but I can't even think anymore. screw it

 

glad i could help! people like you make me sick. just make up your mind and do something about it stop avoiding an impending problem. you should listen to orsino because he's right.

 

don't let the rudeness get to ya! Otherwise you'll never be able to enjoy hipforums.

in almost every one of the threads I started I get some asshole comment.

but you have to understand, underneath that awful heartless way of putting things, there is some truth.

 

yea, listen to her. she's right too.

 

you're not gonna be happy in a relationship if you're not mature enough to be honest

 

Hmm...I understand typicaly girls want what they can't have its the whole suspence/attraction thing. It is ok to be really attracted to someone else while in a relasionship, but you probably shouldn't be messing around with someone else while you have a boyfriend....

I understand though you feel sort of torn, you are in love with your boyfriend, but are reeally sexually attracted to someone else which isnt really good. Besides being sexually attracted to this other guy, do you like him for him? Not to make judgments but its kinda shity that this guy knows you have a boyfriend but will still try to do things with you....

You say that you are in love with your boyfriend and I am sure you do love him. But how much do you really love him? It seems you dont love him enough, because you need another guy to satisfy you.

I am sorry for what you are going through, it must be frusterating seeing as you cant control yourself around the guy from work. I really think that you should talk to your boyfriend, or the guy at work, cuz what you are doing isn't really fair to your boyfriend, and you are only causing trouble for yourself.

It seems like your boyfriend loves you very much. Are you really going to let a little fling mess up your relasionship with a guy who loves you as much as he does? I really think you should think things over a bit, just be honest no one likes a liar...