asked a girl i like out on a date last night, got a "no" its not really bothering me much anymore (i'm pretty used to rejection by now, and in fact i would be far more surprised by a yes) but i can't help but take it really personally. it's not the specific girl that gets to me so much as the situation i'm in. its just so frustrating - every girl i'm interested in either rejects me, gives me her number but wont return a call, turns out to be a lesbian, is already attached, or ends up going out with my best friend or my roommate. confession time: i haven't gotten laid in about a year and a half. scratch that, i haven't gotten ANYTHING (even a kiss) in about a year and a half. in fact, i've only had sex with one girl, only made out with three, and two were in one night at a really really sloshy drinking party, and one of them don't count cause she was technically a lesbian anyway (we were real trashed - obviously) just venting here. just wish i knew what my problem was....i'm not fantastically unattractive at all, at least not to the point where i shouldn't be able to get a date once in a while. i'm a nice guy. intelligent and funny, too, in real life. it boggles my mind - i see assholes, white trash and fatass bums walking around with attractive girls at their sides, yet i can't even get a decent, nice girl to pay the least bit of attention to me. maybe its that rejection after rejection has conditioned me to be shy and have really low self esteem, maybe i'm just going for the wrong girls, maybe its something i can't even think of. just wish i knew. i broke down and actually registered for a couple online personals services. i figure i'm not having luck with the chicks i meet in person, i don't stand to lose anything if i don't meet a cool local girl this way. makes me feel pathetic to stoop to trying to meet someone online though.
they say ignorance is bliss....and this may explain why you see the assholes, white trash and fatass bums walking around with attractive (doesn't mean these women are the sharpest pencil in the box) girls at their sides.... i'm sure there is some intelligent and attractive girl out there wondering when you're going to show up.....and when you two finally find each other.....that's when the true magic will happen.... just some of my thoughts.....
yeah, honestly i've heard so many things trying to console me or steer me in a different direction, but no matter what it still ends up in me staying alone. i try to be straightforward without being aggressive, my shy nature tends to keep me from scaring people away, yet its not so bad that i can't look a girl in the eye and tell her just what i think (in most cases) mostly i'm just venting here, you know? frustrated in every possible sense of the word.
hmm.... that's a pretty shit story, dude... don't know what to say. in fact, i want to know the answer too, because i'm having a hell of a time finding a decent guy here. maybe it's where you're looking, or where you're not looking... i admit that while sometimes i complain about being single, i don't really go out of my way to meet people, because i'm shy or subconsciously scared of commitment or just too in love with myself to be able to love someone else, who knows. i guess what i'm saying is, i don't know the answer, but at least you're not alone. haha.... peace, sophia
instead of going through some weird set up place why not join a sports league or something where you can meet someone with common interests,i know it sounds cheesy but ya know
awww i think your cute and sweet and yes very sexy. I think that maybe you do go for the wrong girls. i bet lots of shy pretty girls like you but you don't even know it. pick up the signals that might be around you. good luck sweetie.
get a fake id nesta, I can point you in the right direction there are actualy plenty of cool girls around here it seems one thing to ponder is the phrase "a woman picks her man," even if they make it seem like you are the one picking them
maybe i do go for the wrong girls, but i've gone for a rather wide variety, really. heh, you know where to get a decent fake, seamonster? if so i may be interested, but it would suck to get cought with one....besides, i don't really drink that much, but it would be cool to be able to go to a bar or something every once in a while.
nah, its not so much meeting people online that's kinda "pathetic" in my mind.....its actually sitting down and looking through pictures of strangers i know nothing about and trying to decide to love one of them or something, you know? heh, i know its not that bad, it just seems like it always would have been a last resort for me.....i'd like to at least know a girls name and see her in person before asking for her number or to go out or something.....but i suppose this really isn't that bad at all. no offense, pal
I agree. Meeting people online is just pathetic. Don't get me wrong, for some, thats the only option they feel they have available. Its not, but to them it is, and they take everything with so much....... awwww fuck this. No one cares anyhow, and even if someone did read this, why would they change thier ways because of me.
I do!!! Burnouts are some of the coolest people! And I don't think you're average, I think you're an exceptional burnout! Anyway... I've met some of the coolest people online, dated one for almost three years, and am currently engaged to someone I met online.
fuck burnouts...I hate pussies who can't handle their drugs without becoming a slug...be strong stay sharp and evil
