Well, recently I posted a thread inquiring whether I should ask a girl out. This is the continuation of that story, if anyone really wanted to know. The girl works giving samples out at a food store. I recently had a blood test and determined that I have very high cholesterol. I have to start taking a new medication. The medication has a very strange requirement, which is that I cannot eat any grapefruit products while I am on it. I muttered to myself, "With my luck, she'll probably have grapefruits the next time I see her." I went to the store several times and didn't see her. Then, I finally did, and guess what...? Grapefruit! I said hi to her anyway and we talked briefly, then I walked around the store trying to get up to the courage to say something more. I couldn't do it. I eventually gave up and went home, feeling like a loser. I decided to go to the store one more time today, and she was there with a different grapefruit product. I finally managed to say something to her, and it turns out she has a boyfriend. I feel like a complete jerk, and I feel completely humiliated. I knew nothing good could ever happen in my life - it's the "grapefruit luck" syndrome. I am cursed, and no one understands it. I don't know why I let people talk me into believing I should say something to her. I am so stupid. I have been thinking about killing myself in early June, unless something worth living for came along... I think this was the last chance for something worth living for to happen. I have only asked two girls out in my life, and they both said no. I didn't really want to bother the whole forum with this, but my usual contacts have been offline for several days.
but dude, its not your fault that she has a boyfriend, and it doesnt mean that she doesnt think youre a bit of alright, it just means that shes in a relationship right now. You shouldnt be so hard on yourself.
but you do have something to live for...life! ive been there, man, believe me. im bi, so i asked a guy out that i was crushin on for 2 years. not only was he strait, he was a homophobe.so in addition to feeling humilated, i had the shit beat out of me. i tried to kill myself, lucky for me it didnt work. now im in a relationship and very happy. you know what your problem is? you asked out only 2 girls in your life. everyone has a mate somewhere. it just takes some time to find them. bottom line: dude, one day at a time. each day will get better, i promice. your just in a rut right now, give it time, and you will get out and see the sun (dont mean to get sappy, sorry). so until you get over this little hump, dont do anything stupid!! PEACE!!!!!!
Shes just one girl, theres loads out there man. Ever thought about joining a commune? You orta think about it man, you could meet the one. Or go to a festival or something.
you're putting way too much importance on rather low-ranking moments in your life, which shouldn't have so much influence on your future and self esteem. think about the situation from the Big viewpoint: a girl you didn't know too well but you were interested in getting to know, turned out to have a boyfriend. it is not a curse; it is just that that's been the only thing come along recently in your life. you've only asked out 2 girls and they both said no... so what? you've given yourself shit odds, mate! we've all been turned down in one way or another; it won't always be like that. instead of "living for" another person, and spending your time preoccupied in finding someone to lean on, leave it be, and start living for yourself, enriching your own life, loving your own self. i don't know you, but i've heard you speak, and you're worth any admiration and love i can ever express to another person. peace & love, sophia
^^^That was a great post. Dude, don't worry...I know it sucks to find out someone you like isn't available to you, but maybe right now the universe is telling you to take some time out for you. It absolutely, positively not worth killing yourself over.
You should live because you have life ahead of you. You asked out two girls in your life, and neither worked out. Try again. Think about it, theres someone out there for everyone, trust me, I am still looking myself. I recently had a bad relationship with a guy and it tore my heart into pieces, but you just need to move and and keep seachering for the right person. The reason you have heartbreak is because that person wasn't the right person for you to fall in love with. You tried for love twice. You can't just stop at number 2! If Thomas Edison stop trying to invent the lightbulb at two tries where would the world be today? It took 1,744 tries for the light bulb, so do something for me. Don't just give up on love after two tries. A beauty awaits out there for you, and if you don't go find her, or prevent yourself from physically or mentally being able to find her, then her love of life is not out there either. So get back up in the world and take a chance at love, it could be just around the corner or it could be across the world, but the juice is worth the squeeze once you have folund that special someone! Peace
Think about how awesome it was you mustered up the courage to ask her out! That's more than a lot of people can do (myself included, I HATE asking people out, hate it hate it hate it!) So she said she had a boyfriend. She didn't make a grossed out face or say you were the worst person she's ever laid eyes on. She just isn't available and so you never even entered into her mind that way. c'est la vie, there are a lot of other girls out there, a lot of whom are single
Come on man you gotta laugh; there she is handing out samples of the one food in the world you can't eat? Lol! I would have taken it as a sign.
dude. if you think you're cursed and you've only tried twice, there's something not quite right. and thinking about suicide? you're only 24, dude! and there's so much more to live for in this world than finding a woman! i mean, it's one of the best things in the world, but so is travelling, friends, discovering cool, new things, trying stuff you've never tried before, etc!!! you talk about how your contacts aren't online. do you have any friends in the flesh you could talk to or hang out with? i knew a guy who was your age who killed himself over something stupid, too. he wanted to give up for the stupidest things! don't do it, man. just don't. it's not worth it to you, or to anyone who loves you.
Find another grocery store!! I'm sure that there will be other girls in other grocery stores. In fact, there are girls pretty much wherever you go. Seriously though, you got to change your way of thinking. Nobody wants to be around someone who's depressed. You need to start taking care of yourself, and start to feel better. Then, and only then, will people want to be part of your life. You have to start living your life for yourself, not for anybody else. Everybody gets depressed every once in a while... You can't depend on people!!
First of all, I must say that I know how you feel. Rejection itself is not so bad, but if you really loved this girl (and I'm using my own definition of love here, which in my opinion can be felt before even talking to the person) it can be tough. You built a certain future, even if it is short term, for yourself with her and it was shattered. Has to hurt. Some people keep giving advice like "Oh, don't worry, it was just one girl, how bad can it be?" and can actually make you feel worse, because you think they don't know what you're going through. But that said, life is not over. You're young and will get plenty of chances later on. This one just wasn't meant to be. Just think of life as a game, because that's what it is. You lost this round, but giving up now will not make things better. You don't know what the future may hold, and right now you are in no position to guess, seeing that you are obviously very frustrated and can't see the bright side of life (and if Monty Python taught me anything, it's that I should always look at the bright side of life).
I've been rejected by more than two girls, JUST TODAY!!! Getting chicks is a #'s game, kid. If you meet 100 women in a day, you'd be very lucky to find just 1 who shares a mutual attraction with you. I'm an Ivy League student with an outgoing personality, and if I must say so myself, I am brutally handsome. Girls flirt with me and smile at me more times in a day than anyone on these forums could possibly imagine. And guess what? I STILL GET REJECTED 9 OUT OF 10 TIMES!!!!! Think of how insecure you are, now think how you would feel if a pretty girl started a conversation with you and then asked you out. Would you be happy and accept, or would you wonder why this girl likes you and reject her out of insecurity? Because most of the time this is how women think. I swear to god, at least 99.99% of the women who reject me do so because they can't believe that I really like them, aside from those women in relationships or those who prefer the same sex. Due to their own insecurites, they can't be happy with a man like me. And these are the same women who complain that they can't find attractive men who like them! And you know who ends up with them? Ugly men or unemployed men or abusive men who all exude CONFIDENCE. Here is the point of my convoluted story; most women are so fucking confused that they have no clue who they are or who they want to be with. Therefore, they reject almost everyone. I get the distinct impression that most of the respondents to your post feel sorry for you. I, however, do not. If you kill yourself, then that is your fate, sealed by your own choice. What you could choose, as an alternative, would be much more difficult but infinitely more rewarding. You can analyze yourself, access your good characteristics and improve them. Understand your flaws and systematically. eliminate them. Do everything in your power to grow, physically, intellectually and spirtually. Once you begin this process, you will find an unlimited source of self confidence, self esteem that can only be cultivated from within and never externally. I know this is very broad advice, but I don't know you, so I can't be specific.
you probably get rejected because you come off as a playaplaya. Sorry, but people who boast about their intelligence and how handsome they are, then bitch about how girls go for men with confidence is a huge contradiction. Not trying to be a bitch, but that's how it came off to me. A lot of girls say no because they're already taken, or else they just don't think they're going to be compatible with you. Same as a guy can think he isn't gonna be compatible with a girl, for whatever reason. It isn't necessarily logical, it just happens.
LOL i'm not complaining, not at all. I was commenting on observations I've made on the female pysche. Neither of you actually understood the post, you were too turned off by the content to get the message. I was tryng to make it clear to this depressed and self loathing young man that even the most attractive of men get turned down, while a less attractive man can be successful with the same woman. It was and is a commentary on the irony of male/ relations. It's only bragging if you can't back it up, and let me just say this ladies, I've got the fucking goods. If you fon't believe me, well, I don't care anyway so think what you will.
er, yes... and you back it up how? By having no pics in your gallery? Anywho, insecurity isn't the only reason behind someone saying now, which is why I mentioned in my previous post, that being involved, or simply not being interested because of vibes or whatever, can lead to a "no". Hell, probably feeling like the two people just aren't compatible leads to a "no" far more often than any self-esteem issues.
Aww hon, I'm terribly sorry that things didn't work out. Sounds like a sign to me and that girly wasn't for you. It's fantastic that you were able to come forward and ask her out though. Just think of it as a practice round. When the right girl comes along, it will fall into place. Have faith sweetie. Good things come to those who wait, so don't go giving up. There's someone out there for you. {{{HUGS}}}
You can't prove anything because this is an internet BBS. You talk and act like a playa, you threaten people with whom you disagree with physical violence, you are obviously a misogynist and a chauvinist, you haven't the scrotum nor the intelligence to post your own picture and your jokes are not funny. In short, you are a walking anus. Other than that you're A-OK for an educated Guido.
