on going fight w/ my bf, what's ur opinion?

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He must look really good becuse he sounds like a total jerk. He seems to knowingly upset you by talking about other girls. He must be very insecure by the fact that he is being so jealous and by extremly lieing by how many girls he sleept with. And jealousy fits right into insecurity. But by being jealous means he saying he has lack of faith in you which is a major flaw on his behalf. The creep at the store, i personally think you should of taken his money as payment for being werid and left the store for good. To bad he has your resume. He should be lucky that you even stayed with him this long. It seemed he cared for Candice more then you at the time or it was just the thrill of a fling. Which sounds totally plusible. It is all right to be a theif to people how deseve it like robin hood. The worse thing i think is he doen't like your freind for the fact that he gay. He must be preety ignorant, or just very shallow. Sry for bashing your b/f but overall he seems like a jerk who can't appricate what he has. It sad you can't leave him because this relationship seems it gonna bring more stress to you as it evolves more till you snap. Sry about being so pessimistic Also i only heard one side though it seems it hard to think of how this good be sympothetic to him

 

if i were you, i would definately leave him the fuck alone. sorry but thats the fact, he's been a total jerk for you. guys are assholes, but your bf, omg.. i can't say anything..
if you don't wanna leave him thats fine, its your decision.
i'm just upset the way he treated candice in front of public, but he can't treat you more as a girlfriend, and that you are having a baby with him. that is so sad. extremly sad.
everythings just seemed so awkward in your situation, i'm so sorry about that. he seems like he can't appreciate you between things you've worked together. and after over a year, sigh.. f*ck that guy. is he using you for some reason? have you ever think about that. i don't know, its just an opinion. but however good luck with your life.

 

That is a pretty rue generalization. I consider myself to be very nice guy, wait when you think about everyone is asshole at some time. It strange that i think i least jerky when i feeling gay and most perverded when i feeling stright whatever sry for being confused

sry for being off topic but these two responces are from a guy and girl and sum up the situation

 

You don't want to leave him but you should.

 

thanx for your replys guys.
he has shaped up a lot in the last year.he no longer talks to candice, and everything is better in that sence. Its just that I wanted some other peoples opinions

 

i'm going to be a bitch, but this time i won't apologize. you posted in at least one other thread about how bad he treats you regarding your current pregnancy and criticizes / cuts off your friends blablabla. and now this, but suddenly he has 'shaped up'?? frankly the guy is an abusive dink (notice how i didn't say "i think..."??) i know i am not the only one to say this. i say lose him or live with it.

 

Pack n book...

 

You better get your head straight and leave this guy. You have a child to think about now. He's proven to be a liar, unfaithful (i'm sorry but I would never tolerate some girl sitting on my boyfriend's lap or him spending the night), controlling, and immature. I don't care if you think you love him. YOU NEED TO TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR CHILD!!!

you can think I'm an insestitive bitch all you want, but I'm going to tell you the truth, not just something you want to hear. I have read a few other of your posts and you are putting yourself and your baby through hell. Between you letting your family and your boyfriend walk all over you, I can't imagine someone like that being strong enough to take care of a child.

He is borderline abusive and he could cross that line at any time. Do you really want to put your self and your child at risk for that? Do you love him so much that you value him being there for you (when he's not in the arms of someone else) over the safety of your child and yourself? Do you really think he's "shaped" up, or just gotten smarter at hiding things, now that you are pregnant and can't really go out as much?

Think about it.

 

Leaving him is an option... sometimes loving someone isnt enough... Your pregnant.. You need to do whats best for your child... and that means getting out....

 

just leave it ll be hard but you gotta

 

he is abusive already...mentally and emotionally. he just hasn't crossed the physically line yet or at least not as far as she has posted...leave him.

 

why did you get rid of it?

 

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because my boyfriend is not some abusive asshole. everyone here missed the point. I just wanted it gone.

 

if he isn't an abusive asshole, why does he have all the signs, attitudes, etc. that my abusive ex and every other abusive male i've known has? i guarantee every other girl here who has been in an abusive relationship has noticed the similarities too...if he isn't abusive then what is he? i find it odd too that a whole bunch of us have missed the point in these threads you bring up.

 

He is an abusive asshole. And he's going to be an abusive asshole to you, and he's going to be an abusive asshole to your child. And then, maybe, your child will also become an abusive asshole, becuase it sure doesn't sound like it's going to get very good parenting.

I guess we all know what's worth more to you. Some guy to "be there" every once and a while, maybe fuck you to make you feel pretty and important, even though he's cheated, lied and he's hit you.

I reallly sorry for that child. I hope he or she asks you one day, why didn't you just leave and keep me safe

 

Y'all need to chill. She knows how everyone feels. It's time to let her make her own decisions and live with the consequences.

And headymoe, you need to get off your pedestal, cause we know you aren't perfect. You shouldn't hope the child asks that - you should hope the guy really has changed and they can raise their child properly. Of course, you'd probably love to say "I told you so!"

 

hey, sometimes someone needs to lay it out there and spell out the possibiliies for people. Love can be blind sometimes. I'm not really trying to be a bitch, I'm telling her the worst, but very possible outcome if she doesn't leave this guy.

you all can sugar coat the situation, and comfort her all you want. I'm not here to mkae everyone like me. I don't give 2 shits about anyone's opinion. but when asked for mine, I tell it like it is..

Sure, it sounds harsh, but are you saying that just because I'm saying it in a not so nice way, that it's NOT a possibility? Are you saying that her and her child is perfectly safe?

Until that's the situation, someone SHOULD try to get it through her skull that that's the most important thing. Call me a bitch, but at least I have the balls to tell her the truth, and I care more about her and her baby's safety than her heart being broken.


Nothing I said ever stated that I was perfect. This isn't about me. It never was. This is about the welfare of an 18 year old love sick girl and her unborn child. I would HATE to say I told you so. I want to hear that she and her baby is safe and sound and is never going to be put in teh dangerous path of an angry young man.

 

....except, she's said that the relationship has been fine for months now. It may be rare, but sometimes people can change - maybe the kid realized he was going to be a dad and took a hard look around. I know that's what my dad did at age 18.

I just think you're being incredibly condescending. You are implying that if the relationship were to get way worse, she still wouldn't leave because she "wants a guy to fuck her so she'll feel pretty." I mean, come on, wtf is that? And now you starting a thread that you want a guy to "chase you"?

My point is, she ALREADY KNOWS the opinions you are expressing. You're not going to convince her, especially if the relationship has been fine lately. And if the relationship turns bad again, she knows she needs to get out.