why do bad things ahppen to good people? i just found out some disturbing information about an old boyfriend of mine who was always a really good guy and i was just wondering what yall thought...thanks, peace
Everyone goes through hard times and bad things.... we are all on this planet to learn certain lessons, and in what has happened/ is happening to your old boyfriend there is a lesson to learn for him and/or the people in his life. It all may seem unfair at times, but it is not -- we all lead very many lives and everyone goes through the same, or at least similar things, all at least once.... sometimes several times, if we do not learn the lessons to be learned, the first time we come across it. So if for instance I lose one of my children in this life, someone else may not, but he or she will have that happening to him/her in a next life, or has been through that in a previous life. It is not a matter of deserving punishment or no by being a good or a bad person, it is about the soul learning things to become more loving, wiser, and closer to 'The Light', or God, or whatever you want to call it. Please try to think of it like this when something bad happens to you or someone you love -- God is not angry at you, does not hate you, but there is just something you need to learn to become a better person. I don't agree -- it *is* fair, we all go through similar things -- just not all in this life. I find my strength in believing this -- I hope you can hold on to it too Take care
Bad things often turn out to be advantages on the long run. When I ask "happy" people about their past, it almost always is stained with terrible misfortune. When I ask people who are constantly depressed and even suicidal, they usually say that their lives were nearly perfect. What doesn't kill you makes your stronger, maybe?
Bad things happen because thats the fall out of this reality for whatever reason you believe in. But just understand events like the tsunami. Good people and bad people died. Young and old. Even people that didn't live there. Plus animals and plantlife and beautiful scenery was demolished. When things happen, what I was told which is pretty damn true, is that fate isn't discriminating. Its a flow of life type of deal. There doesn't have to be a reason because there never is. You just learn to cope, resist, and to repair. Tell your ex good luck with whatevers going on. I tell that to my fam all the time.
Exactly! When I first read this thread, my first thought was Karma (either in this life or previous ones) but Syntax, you said it so much better. What doesn't kill you does indeed make you stronger. There's also a line from "Vanilla Sky" that I like....."you can't enjoy the sweet without the sour". I've had some pretty fucked up things happen to me but when I look back at my life, I wouldn't trade in any of it.
