Families torn apart.... and why?

people for some reason have this idea in their head that when a kid turns 18 that when they need to move away. Thay cant have help from family thay cant live with family because its just the way it is. Its alright to live with friends and work as a team to keep a house hold running but not with family. I love my family and the thought of moving away some where not seeing the just saddens me. They are the people i want to see in the morning and before i go to sleep. I love to talk to them and hang with them. I like to help earn money for the family and take care of the younger members. So why is it wrong to stay and be with the people you love?

 

thats fine if thats your experience but most folks id say are different

 

Because it's pretty damn pathetic to live with your parents your entire life.


As much as I love my parents, I know it's healthier to go out and live on my own.

Plus, you won't get laid if you live with your parents. Ever.

 

i "technically" live with my parents, but right now thats just my official residency. but i live at college for most of the year. and once i'm done with college, i'm probably moving out...there's no need for me to be there except take up resources from my family. if i had it my way, i wouldn't move back into my house during the summer, but as of now i can't afford to live in boston only with a summer job. so i won't be living with my parents for my whole life. i might stay 1 year or so after graduation until i save some money up, but that's it...i'm gonna be moving out, unless i buy the house which is a huge possibility right now.

 

I honestly haven't lived with my folks for pretty much 15 years. On average I probably have seen my folks 15 days out of the year over the past ten years and talk to them once every ten days or so. We get along pretty well, I certainly love them but our relationship has always been pretty disant between one another and to an extent rather shallow between my father and I for pretty much my entire life.

that being said, it would just be completely foriegn to me to see my family everyday.

 

Maybe their friends ARE the people they love? Some people's parents are bad people, so of course they don't want to stay. Besides, it's generally considered a good thing when someone has reached that adult, autonomous point in their life when they no longer "need" their parents. I love my parents, I'm very close with them and will probably always live close (like in the same city) but I don't want to live in their basement forever.

 

There is nothing wrong with getting a little help or a boost to get on your own. BUt the reason we move out is because we need to learn how to become independent individuals. You can move out and still live very close to your family. Just because you move out doesn't mean you can't love each other or have help from them. BUt it is a neccessay part of life to be on your own. Don't be afraid or scared, just realize that is the way life is. 18 is not THE AGE to move out either. I have plenty of friends that live at home and go to college.

 

are you going to be like Chris Elliot in that old show Get a Life
actually, I bet your parents what you to leave once you are grown so they can have their time to themselves...

 

I had a friend in highschool whose father was of the opinion that children should get out at 18. There were 5 kids in the family and my friend had to leave home as soon as she finished high school.

If you want to live in your parent's house, more power to you, but not everyone feels that way. I moved out at 22, and was glad to go. I love my family, but I really wouldn't want to live with them forever.

If you stay there too long, your parents feel like they should keep parenting you, and get in your business a little too much.....

 

REally they want me to stay. they dont force me to stay but would like it if i did just as long as i put my fair share in. And here is something that people tend to forget its cheaper to live in groups and share rather then have our own everything.

 

Thats just it why is it considered pathetic to live with people you love?

 

because when you are an adult its time to move on and let your parents have time to themselves

 

I some countries its totally acceptable to stay living with your parents well into your 20's...not sure if the country of South Dakota is one of them though..personally just having moved back to the same town as my parents soetimes gets on my nerves, I don't feel I am meant to see them so often

 

wait till you are older, i am positive your views will change

 

i think you can become your own person and be independent with out leaving. Its not like you use up the families money and stuff when you bring money in also. YOu help pay for everything. You see forgein families that own resturants and things like that and all work there togther and then all go home to sleep under the same roof. Everyone works together helps one another and i personally dont see how that could stop you from becoming your own person.

 

If you want to stay, just stay...it shouldn't really be a big deal.

 

so you want to live with your parents the rest of your life, see them day in day out forever?

 

re: helping out with money
I worked with a girl who lived with her mother. She was charged $600/month in rent and still had to obey strict rules and curfew. Did i mention that this girl was in her THIRTIES????

So if you want to live with your parents, get along with them and they want you to stay, then stay......why do you care what the rest of the world does?

You're only 16, you shouldn't be worried about moving out right now anyway....

 

I moved out at 18 not because I dont love my family but it was just time for me to move on. I met the wrong girl and moved in with her and spent five very interesting years "living in sin". I still have a great relationship with my family and even though I am very far away from them now I know that I have their support and always will. My mother said it best when she told me that your parents are supposed to be there for you if youre 3 or if youre 30. Now that Im a parent myself I hope to be able to have that attitude as my children grow up.

There's no reason to rush out of the house as soon as you turn 18. My sister lived at home until she finished college at 25 and didnt suffer any ill effects from it. It all depends on the individual and the family in question.

 

i havent read every response so i dont know if this was already mentioned but in many other countries extended famlies DO live together as the majority. there are many benefits of that but the western world doesnt seem to realize that or care.

to each their own.

every person and family are different.