Hi everybody!, I am stucked in a situation with a guy and I would like to have your opinions about this.... Some time ago, I kinda "met" a boy in a forum. It happened that a night me and a friend of mine were looking at some pics in this forum where we are subscribed, and when I saw this guy, it was like,...yeah kinda like a "love at first sight" . Some days later, I had the chance to talk with him different times, we've been chatting for some whole evenings , and I felt so well with him, that I thought I sould have to write him what I feel. I sent a private message to him , telling him that he is my first thought when I wake up. This is true, I still cannot think of anything else all day long. I told him I won't contact him anymore because I really feel that things can get worse. Now....he replied that he appreciated the things I've said , and that he won't be on the messenger for some time because , he said, he doesn't want to get " overcome" by things that happen in the chats. Since some days ago we were talking and he said he is scared by long term relationships beacuse he is afraid of suffering, and that he usually "run away" when things get "serious" and that he is vey shy, now I really don't know what I should think.....I mean, I don' t know if he is afraid of "getting involved" with me, or if he was just kindly letting me know that he doesn't want to hear from me bacause he's not interested... What would you think...? I am in doubt now, and I don't know if that fact that he decided to "stay off" the chat could mean that he is probably thinking a lot about me, too, or that I just annoyed him with my attentions. .......Thanks for reading this......I really need to talk about this with someone!
Flyinglily, You do not say if you saw him in person, but it sounds like you only talked on the computer. My guess about what happened with him is that he thought you were comming on too strong. (Telling someone you are not already dating that they are "your first thought when you wake up" is pretty strong!) There are a lot of damaged people on the internet, and he may have been afraid that you were not healthy. The other side of this is that he may have some major things to work through that have nothing to do with you. For whatever reason, he has backed off, and you should respect his space. Any other reaction will guarantee that he will ever have anything to do with you. If you give him his space, there is a small chance that he may come back. Just give it some time.
Your from italy. Where was he from? Also how could you like someone that much without meeting them? .
You can, believe me. I talked to my now husband-to-be for about 6 months online before we met and we got to know each other really well. So, when we finally met, it was like we'd known each other for a long time. Of course I don't know for how long you have talked to him. If it wasn't very often I'd say just get to know him better and see what happens. There's the two possibilities you mentioned, there's no way any of us can know what he thinks. You'll find out in time.
hmm. i think i agree with mighty thor. but it is possible to like someone like that without meeting them.
I'm a little prejudiced when it comes to online dating. My mother has been through more relationships online that turned awful, and I'm not talking just a little, but majorly. If I even began to tell of her horror stories, you wouldn't be able to believe it, because it's truly mind-blowing. It's sad because if you're single and looking, where else can you really meet people? Conversing online gives you more security and far less fear, yet you never know what that person is truly like. They can paint any picture of themselves that they desire. This can be the case with anyone, even in person, but I think that online relationships can temp even more of that particular behavior. Plus, you can talk online all you want for any length of time, but face-to-face interaction is what really determines how the two of you will mesh in everyday life together. Believe me, I have seen my mother go through enough of that to last her a lifetime. She thought she knew people and once spending time with them in person, she was shocked at how different they really were from what they conveyed themselves as online. Most of these completely "loving" men who made themselves sound like the Prince Charming on a white horse ended up being abusive and just horrendous in person. Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying that absolutely no online relationships work, because I am sure that there are many that do. All I know is what my mother went through so it's left me quite jaded. I say to leave this guy be. It only sounds like if you persist, you may end up getting hurt. Spend your time on somone who returns the feelings and isn't afraid of commitment. Good luck sweetie...
i met my bf of almost 2 years over the net. we talked for 2 weeks, and then moved in together. I never would have done anything like that with anyone else. It was kinda weird. But I love him to death now. I've talked to many guys online who talk a bunch of crap and act like idiots.....more bad than good. But don't loose faith. He may just be a "bad apple."
i thought that people who met online were off untill i met my boyfriend-we met on here actually. i thought he seemed like a very nice and down to earth person but i just thought i would go out there and we wouldnt get along but much to my suprise i just about died with excitement when i saw him for the first time it was love at first sight on my end for sure and as soon as i get some career experiece im moving to him. i would meet this guy if you could
Oops, i forgot to say, that , obviously , he's from Italy, too . we were planning to meet before...ehm..I told him everything !
It will be next Saturday people !!! We will meet next Saturday....I'm going crazy just thinking about that !! I don't know how I will feel ...I don' t know what I will do !!
Here I am again I met the guy and now I'm really in love with him. We keep in contact now, but I don't think he 's interested in me at all....I guess if he was interested, he would probably asked me to meet again...don't you think?
