*A good friend would stab you in the front*

Ahh god, dont you just hate it when youve been friends with someone for a long time and then all of a sudden they turn nasty????

I hate it, this friend (ex -friend) of mine over the past year or so has become a complete arsehole about things.....he used to be alrite...but then all of a sudden he starts telling me that animals have no rights, that those innocent victims in iraq are "necessary", and then he tells my friend behind my back that hippies are just idealists (dreamers)......

well over the years its been really difficult being friends with him and stuff...he makes it that way...

he once told a few people at school that he only hangs around with me because noone else will hang around with him.....but i tried to ignore it..
then the whoole phase of "hippies are just pointless" comes around
THEN the whole "if you dont eat meat then ill sponsor you...every meal you have at my house which doesnt contain meat, i will eat three lots of meat for" (dont ask why, it seems to be one of his irritating ways of pissing me off)
THEN the "animals have no rights" phase

we have been on alrite terms with each other for a week or so....till about 5 mins ago....he comes online with the msn name "Battery hens rock"

Sorry about this, its proberbly the last thing you wanan read about, but its really got to me and upset me a lot that someone who I regard(ed) a friend can upset me so much............

"A GOOD FRIEND WILL STAB YOU IN THE FRONT"

sorry about the foul language too (ime not sure if its allowed or not)

Peace & love from a very very down and upset Daron

 

I can't give you much good advice on this, but I do know where the vegetarian sponsorship thing comes from...just a second, I'll get a link...

http://maddox.xmission.com/sponsor.html

If I were you, I'd tell him to stop listening to Maddox and get a life...

 

Yeah...ive heard of maddox...funnily enough form him...

well this friend has no friends that dont slag him behind his back, he sits on the computer all day long talking to people online...making out that hes a succsess...that his GCSE grades are high...

he got a G in some courseworks...he hasnt even got any C's in the last lot of practise exams....

he wears a mask while online...to cover the fact that hes an arsehole in real life

 

What exactly has made this guy your friend? What are his endearing features? What does he bring of value to your world? There are times when we have to look at what a friendship brings us, it's not always about agreement and fluffiness but friends don't deliberately go out of their way to hurt you.

From the brief description that you've given, it sounds as if he doesn't like himself very much. Maybe he doesn't feel that he deserves to have you as a friend and so tries to push you away at every opportunity, he certainly knows which buttons to press! As sad as that is, what's more important is your own self-respect. Would you treat anyone else as he's treating you? I suspect not; so why should you accept this from him? If you really feel that he's worth keeping as a friend try and talk to him seriously about his behaviour and how unacceptable it is. Whether he chooses to listen or not is his own prerogative. Perhaps it's time for you to decide if you really want such a negative influence in your life.

 

thansk for the support man....


heres somethign he made this morning on his website..he went out of his way just to piss me off some more..take a look

http://www.freewebs.com/stripeysocksandknives/hens.html


*note* by the way...you may hear him refer to himself as a pirate...he actually thinks he is a pirate.....sorry but its true

 

I really dont know

 

Well, he does have a point about free-range hens and at least he's researching! It seems as if the only thing he's said to wind you up (if indeed that's his purpose) is why he chooses to eat battery eggs (and I think that's only really because it's what his mum buys!)

If he is going out of his way to piss you off; he's obviously doing a good job. Again - why don't you talk to him about it? Maybe he just wants a damn good heated discussion! Or maybe he's a twat.....but that's really for you to decide. When people go out of their way to annoy someone else, it's usually for attention. When you stop giving him that, he'll get bored. If you really don't like him, stop being his friend.

 

no he doesnt want a heated discussion whatsoever...

i think you are missing the point...hes trying to annoy me and its working, i know it shouldnt...but EVERYTHING i think is wrong, he then think sis right, and goes out of his fucking way to rub it in my face.........ask lullabySam by girlfriend...shell tell you what he is like



thanks for the suggestion...but i stopped being his friend this morning

 

Hey, don't worry about it, some people are just pricks, but you've got to ask yourself, why are you friends with someone like this in the first place? He is NOT your friend, the fact he's acting like this just shows he is some pathetic creature who is horrible to you as a product of his own low self esteem. This guy is not worth the effort and he doesn't deserve your friendship.

Quote that helped me in a similar situation: "Ignore people who tease you or call you names because you may be different. They don't do it to get at you (although it probably seems that way), they do it to make themselves feel better. The fact that they have to sink so low to feel good shows that they've got lots of problems, and that you don't need to hang around with them any longer."

And mate, you can swear as much as you fucking like

 

At 16 you should not realy be worrying about a tosser like him... is he or are you getting the line between affection/friendship mixed up. If all he is doing is pissing you off . like has been said ignore him.

 

Good!!! I only suggested the discussion thing incase you still valued his friendship The next thing is to simply ignore him. When he starts to mean less to you, the annoying stuff will gradually fade away.........

 

is this guy actually called maddox?

it sounds too much like a coincidence...

maddox is funny and all...but only to a certain extent...and then he's just a prick...

my advice...just ignore him...if he's doing it in a friendly joking way then he'll feel bad and come back to you...if not then he'll just dissolve into the toxic goo that he is and your problems will be over either way...

 

My advice ...

watch some cheesy horror movies and get some decent ideas on how to brutally murder someone and get away with it...

or just kick his ass

nah im kidding, just resort to petty name calling...always fun. lol

another amusing thing to do would be to put LSD in his drink and watch him freak out! ....ahh id like to thank the film Salvador by Oliver Stone for that one

haha ooo im in an evil mood today :sunglasse

 

Waste Acid on HIM? i dont think so matey

 

just move on, find new friends, don't pay him so much attention...he sound's really mean by paying attention to what he says, you are just making him say more mean things...i know its hard, but if he's this much of a jerk you need to move on

 

IT won't be the last time you feel this way about someone.

People change and often the change is coming from within you. Try not to let it bother you. There are things in life which are as they are no matter What you do. Accept it put it to the back of your mind and leave it there. One day you may both feel differently. 16 is not an age where you should be judged for the rest of your life. He has high grades ... hahah so what! ... youth may be intelligent but only age brings wisdom.

If he is bitching about you ignore it. Don't bitch back and don't talk about him to others. You never know who you are talking about and you will always get the respect you deserve from not involving yourself in this kind of behaviour.

Peace dude .. there are lots of people on your wavelength out there .. you just have to go find them and then the world oipens its doors to you.