First time, Does it hurt?

Hey I am a virgin and I think I am ready for sex but all my friends have said that its extremely painful. I think I am ready but is the pain worth it? I need help and advice on what to do!
Thanks!

 

Most humans die after sex, since it is such an unnatural process. BE WARNED.

 

for some it hurts, for others it doesn't. My first time didn't hurt at all

Lots of foreplay!
Keep lubrication handy in case you need it!
Don't start actual intercourse until you are both ready for it. Fingering during foreplay might be a good idea to get your body used to having something inside of you.

 

Thanks, and like I am ready, but like should my first time be in a relationship or just fwb kinda deal?

 

Don't let other people make decisions for you. If you wanna hook up with some random dude then do it, if you want it to be special then wait. Don't just do it because of some sort of societal pressure, do it because it's the decision you made.

 

just relllaaaaaxx.... lots of girls i know didn't hurt the first time, including me.. just a little stretching i guess to fit something bigger in there.. but no blood and no real pain.

 

my first time hurt. but that's not the same for everyone.

in reguards to whether you're ready, i appologize if any of this sounds silly or patronizing, but i dont mean it to.
first, are you on the pill (or depo or the patch, etc)? you might want to look into a form of birth control to supplement condoms, since they break easily. on the same hand, keep track of your period so you'll know if you're late or ovulating, etc.
second, if you do bleed, you might want to have a pantyliner handy. i'm not trying to sound extreme, but some bleed more than others and it might be a good idea to be prepared just in case you bleed, especially if you're at his house wearing a white skirt, for example.
and whether it's someone you're dating or just a friend, make sure it's with someone who cares about you. someone who will be helpful if you do get pregnant, and someone who will not give you an std.

 

Yeah... quite a few have their regrets. Think it through.

 

my first time hurt... And I bled alittle... But after a few minutes the pain was mostly gone....
Also lawngirl has given some great advice....

 

Thanks everyone, I have a lot of thinking to do. Theres this one guy that like I have done stuff with. He asked me to have sex one time and I was like no because personally I wasn't ready. Its been a while and I have gotten a lot more secure with myself since then, I am ready, but I am not sure if I should have sex with him. He is really sweet and everything, but is always horny. I am just wondered if I do he might expect it all the time, or that it wouldn't mean anything to him. I mean he told me he loved me but I really didn't believe it when he told me and I don't know if I believe it still, I know he cares about me, but I dunno what to do. Please help!

 

It is a different experience for everyone. My first time hurt like hell, but the key to it is relaxing. Even now if I am not relaxed, it sometimes hurts. My advice to you is to make sure you are ready. If you are ready and you make yourself relax...you'll be ok. Just be safe!

 

I told you that I would 'tear it up', Faerie....

 

ThinkPeace85, thanks. I know its a different expierence and I am going to do my best to be safe, any extra advice? Also, what would you do in my situation with this guy?

 

For those who said it hurt the first time...

Did you guys practice with random objects around the house or was that the first time you put anything big in your vagina?

 

Condoms break easily? I've never had that happen. I think you need to tell your men to slow down or add a little lube.

As for sex being really painful, that's nonsense. Typically, it hurts for two reasons: either you are dry, or the angle is wrong. If you're dry, do a little more foreplay, think/talk dirty, or use an artificial lubricant. If the angle is wrong, switch position. If the boy is just playing too rough, tell him to stop.

 

My first time didn’t hurt because I was ready and I wasn’t scared and tensed.....The more that you relax the less it will hurt.... don’t do it unless you are totally ready....

 

it really all depends on how flexible you are

 

Any advice for this situation?

 

i didn't mean that they break easily as in they break all the time, or fall apart at the touch, but rather, considering that condoms have a very important purpose, breaking even once is too many times in my book. not to mention that someone with less experience might keep a condom in, say, their wallet or a hot car, thus making it more likely to break. but really, you've never had a condom break? i've only had them break a couple times, and lube was definitely not a problem.. maybe slowing down would have helped one time, but i don't think that was the problem, either. and i didn't do anything bad to them, like expose them to high temps for a long time. anyway, from my experience, durex is not to be trusted, as every time i had a condom break, it was a durex. i swear by lifestyles.

well, then there's the third kind, if her hymen is still intact, i think she might be afraid that that's what's going to hurt. i know it's not uncommon for the hymen to break before you lose your virginity, though, so maybe my assumption is wrong on her concerns.

 

Lawngirl, yea thats what I mean, like I dunno does it hurt? And someone help with the guy situation please I dunno what I should do!